Hey faggots. I'm a psych major and have been testing shit out by doing free online therapy. I mostly help out on omegle under advice tags, but I thought 'I come here all the time anyway, why not just do it here'
TL;DR dump your shit on me and I'll try to help.
How do I deal with my assburgers and the self-awareness of it? I know I sperg out a lot but it's nothing compared to how harshly I criticize myself for it. I regret almost every single thing I do when it comes to communication with other people, excluding 2 family members. My tactic in the last year was basically to hide at home, avoid conversations and straight out ignore people because I don't have it in me to have a proper conversation. How do I deal with this?
So then, you feel happy when alone. What do YOU think personally causes you generally to be UNHAPPY? First thing that pops into your head.
Well that's a viscious circle...Then you have no desire to actually find companionship since you don't like social interaction, but still feel alone?
Well don't do that, it's obviously a bad idea.
I am afraid of talking to people. I feel like I bore them because I don't have anything to say and I quickly run out of things to ask them. Also I don't want to seem like a psycho who is interogating them. They also never ask me anything.
I am also afraid of approaching people because I feel like I am forcing myself onto them, they must have something better to do but then they are stuck having to talk to me and they are too polite to tell me to fuck off.
In generally I am afraid of being a burden to people.
Get a trip for the thread PsychBro
As for me, I'm trying to figure out what "happiness" means or feels like. I can feel temporary "joy" when with my friends or when I used to play vidya, but immediately after direct contact is cut I feel numb and sad. I want to say "happiness" is something that happens internally without outside influence, but I need other people's opinions without looking like a literal inhuman robot to them.
So basically, how do you know when you're "happy"?
>Find people with common interests
I am talking about my class mates. Is studying together a common interest?
Most people here are completely normal. There are no spergs except for me.
>there are no spergs except me
They're all hiding, just like I'm assuming you do too. Find or make a club of your interest, that usually drives them out. Expect ultra omega spergs though
>blood tests and cardios are normal
>when anxious blood sugar and heart rates are all over
can anxiety cause damages to the organs? actually die from an anxiety attack?
also i can't find any bibliography about long term effects of SNRIs. if i take snris and have gad forever will my lofe expectancy decrease?
>They're all hiding, just like I'm assuming you do too
No, they are not, I am literally the only person sitting alone in lectures and in most of subjects I have to hand in homework alone, because I don't have a partner.
>Find or make a club of your interest
Did you come here to bait? Or are you not OP?
Okay, so you want to be more motivated. That in and of itself is a good start to motivation. Were you ever generally 'happy'? I mean, when was the last time you were generally happy with life?
tripfags need to die :^). Try nightwalking, I was depressed and tried it, after a while it becomes peaceful and you feel some weird zen shit. That's happiness in it's essence.
Look around, anon. You'll see a guy on a ds or something, that's a start. What are you interested in?
it's basically just my own version of studying, faggot
Frequent attacks can be harmful. Deep breathing is the best way to go, and exposure therapy (slow bursts of what makes you anxious)
after all my years on here I decided I wanted to help faggots like you (and me pretty much) without being a complete cuck, so make of that what you will.
Why cant I make friends? I used to have a bunch of friends but when I got to communtiy college it got exponentally harder.
Literally everywhere has psych majors coming out the asshole, currently working as a bank admin as did some maths courses.
Psych is genuinely the biggest meme degree of the last few years. Atleast it was easy
I'm ugly af.
>How do I get a Threesome naturally?
I see. So basically, you went from a happy, social child to a sort of outcast?
Blind chicks is literally all I can come up with. I'm no relationship guru anon
walk around the place, find parts you like, imagine a happy place when there, sort of think about it in your mind like a home of sorts. Comfort zones are completely just your brain, making one is simple. It's pretty easy
You don't help people out though, you place dehumanizing labels on people which causes your patient and everyone around your patient to lose all respect for them should they find out. I have never in my life heard of anyone actually improving themselves through psychology/psychiatry.
How do I stop myself from feeling like I'm a bad person even when I do the right thing? Y'all might hate me for this but earlier this week I submitted a tip to the FBI because my sister and her friend (both 14) were getting blackmailed by a former friend of mine (we're no longer friends after this) with nude photos of them. I was honestly shocked and though I know the right thing to do was fuck my friend over and keep him away from my sister and her friend I feel like I've just killed the guy because he's really fucked up mentally and he's only 25. I could ruin his life by alerting people he's a pedo. Please help, i feel sick to my stomach and Idk who to turn to irl. He also browses /r9k/ so I changed a few details
Unofficial rule is 5 online tests with all positive.
do you feel comfortable with people with similar interests?
it's frowned upon but normal as long as you don't actually hurt people. You can think what you want, doesnt make you a serial killer. It's acts that matter.
I don't know who I truly am.
I feel like I wear masks to try to get along with everyone, but I'm never invited to anything outside of school/ work to hang out wi them when they make plans, so I know I can only blend in enough to be tolerated.
Even in my group of people I like the most, I wouldn't be able to describe them individually if I was asked to.
I had to research body language to figure out how to interact with people, and even then I only see emotions as "raised eyebrows" or "tight lip smile"
What kind of disorder do I most likely have
I should probably clarify that idk how likely it is the FBI would even act on the tip with the amount of information I gave them. And my sister only confessed this to me. She hasnt told anyone else and I'm scared to tell anyone too. Wat do?
That's why I'm going into it. As a kid/teen I was treated like a textbook fill in the blank by psychfags, but I feel like people seriously need someone genuine to help them.
When/where do you find yourself feeling calm, anon? Find calmness (night walking recommended) and think things over silently. It'll help.
then what's the issue, go out at 7:00-11:00 mate. Darkness is all that matters.
No. It takes a lot more than common interests to be comfortable. I'd say the biggest factor in that is how much time spent with a person. New people are usually foreign to me.
Well might give it a shot. I'm starting to feel too different from the rest of the folks I see. I'm very self-conscious but I catch myself doing some embarrassing things like singing loud or dancing or laughing because I can't see/hear myself when I'm walking with earbuds, and this is getting worse and worse. I give a shit about what the other think but I act spontaneously, I regret it all when I feel alone (which is when I'm not in the streets walking around). Overall I think I'm going nutty. How can I know for sure?
Astrologists fucked me over when I was a kid, so I'm gonna grow up to be a cool astrologist and help people.
It's noble that you see this problem and are trying to help, but becoming a part of it won't make things better. Psychology is a pseudoscience and the pharmaceutical industry pretty much runs psychiatry as a giant placebo moneymaker. I hope you can genuinely help a few people but you're using a pretty shitty toolset to do so.
I'm no expert, fag I'm not even through my master's degree yet.
at the start, unless you find someone you can share ANYTHING with
then to be honest you just have to suck it up and meet people, anon. Find people with common interests as I said, but stick with them. At least then you can hold a convo long enough for them to like you.
Social situations make me anxious and I tend to avoid them, but at the same time I crave affection and a significant other. A also tend to push people away because of my antisocial tendencies
This is fucking ridiculous. You're a psych major, that means literally nothing--it's certainly not equivalent to actually being a licensed psychiatrist with credentials and experience. People are coming to you for help in this thread and you are not equipped to deal with their problems, yet are doing so anyway with the selfish excuse that you're "studying." These are people, not playthings. Eat shit, cunt. Come back in ten years when you actually have something to offer.
I have friends and I can make friends if I want to, but that's not the problem. The problem is that I'm lazy as shit and can't get anything done, and then I wallow in my own self hatred.
Completely normal. You just need to spend more time around people you like enough to not feel uncomfortable around, or if that doesnt work, just pay more attention to what you do, ie putting in one earbud instead of 2
Well, the issue with psychology is the idea that everyone is a case that has already been cured. I don't believe in meds, by the way. I think I can help as long as I remember the goal of this.
I went through this. Find friends online in places like chat room and work from there. It's surprising, but online interaction with people is shown to boost confidence
psychiatrists are cucks, know the difference. This is literally just a weird form of studying for me, mate.
What do you hate most about yourself?
>tries to give advice based on psychology knowledge
>has no psychology knowledge
I knew this was b8. Psych is psuedo science anyways. Theres no definitive way of interpreting a person's psychological complex. You simply have your bullshit theries. What next you're an evolutionary atheist?
I have the feelng when I don't get a gf before I turn 25 I will end like my father.
>He was an alcoholic (In his 20 or something)
>never had a gf
>in his thirties he went to thailand and grabbed my mother.
>he is 58 now
>i still sometines caugh him jerking of or watching porn.
You keep suggesting night walking to people, assuming since you see it as some kind of therapeutic, self-exploring act. What if I work early morning shifts at a job where I quite literally do nothing, already leaving me to my thoughts for hours everyday.
what if I hate my own thoughts
Well I actually spend all my time speaking to people I know on a local pub, they are treating me very kindly (more so than usual) but I can't really spend the whole day listening to them, except one occultism guy. I've had self-diagnosed depression before (tried suicide by rope but was caught in the act) and I feel much worse now, except when I'm walking around alone, I just listen to the Beatles and feel so alive, but I'm almost sure my behaviour is starting to slip away from normality. Basically I'm just really a cynical man when around friends and if they are girls I just think about fugging them. I want to be Nowhere Man but I have this itchy guilt and self-awareness that I'm throwing my normalness into the void, and I need to feel validated by girls as well. When I'm alone I just ditch all this and act like a 12yo listening to music.
literally make a name and press enter. There's a small shitty *chan ripoff called finalchan, it has an irc room linked to the top of the page. the mods are really chill and are almost always on and will to talk. Just google finalchan.
So, you have a 'normal' life, but still feel like shit? Would that be appropriate?
How close are you to finishing school? In your own case, I think you need to just try looking at the goal of whatever you want to accomplish in life. Want to do well in school, but have to pass studpid exams? Look at the goal, not the individual step. It's a basic principle you can apply to most things.
How so? What about your thoughts make you hate them?
Okay, so then if you're average you need to have some sort of trait that draws people to you. What do you think a girl would like about you? Now think about making that the biggest part of your personality and forget the rest around them until they're comfortable with you
what this guy said: >>26189830
you'll realize it's not that great. Or date a fat chick, you'll never want to be in a relationship again, you'll have ptsd
I found that putting something like "don't be a fucking degenerate" on your computer/phone lock screen can make you think before you fap.
which one are you, lost track sorry
Follow your dreams :DDDDD
No but seriously, what makes you feel happy in life
Well, try out going for a walk. Usually I just sit staring into distance with my thoughts, but going for a walk can often make feel okay (of course, walking around won't solve your life).
not him but do not listen to music while wandering around at night. you wont hear anything coming so it is dangerous, and you will be paranoid something you can not hear will be coming. youll be really fucking jumpy and stressed out
Yeah most people don't know my powerlevel, I have a healthy group of friends even though I think most of them are not as loyal as they were. Only thing out of the ordinary is my relationship with my parents, they treat me like a piece of shit. I'm 21 and still live with them, which is relatively acceptable in southern europe. I don't want to belong anymore and I feel like finally I'm getting close to it, but it's both fascinating and scary because I'm usually very self-aware.
Well, don't completely isolate yourself just yet. If you find yourself comfortable isolated, then maybe that's how you're supposed to be. If not, keep doing what you're doing.
give it time. You can't do anything right now, you just need to process it first before you can be helped. I feel bad for you, anon.
I've seen numerous psychologists over the years. Y'all niggers don't do shit that a friend can't do.
>diagnosed with aspergers as a child, have bretty bad anxiety
>used to sperg out in class because of it
>able to overcome a lot of it, have just finished university
>got retarded arts degree, cant find job
>thinking about handing in resumes scares the shit out of me - despite being 6'2 male, have fear of public speaking and formal situations
>at cross roads in life about what to do next now that education is over and done with
>feel like shit because I realise I should have studied something with prospects
>have no passions, only interests are learning and mindless entertainment, nothing productive
I figured I was in some kind of mental shock, idk I haven't even told any of my family. Or hers for that fact. We didn't even know until it happened. She was on the pill to help her period an they said it's possible to miss a period because your hormones are adjusting or something. I honestly feel more shitty the more I think of it.
There's lots of places you can find that give advice on abstinence and nofap. I don't know much about it myself.
Well, I say you should find an entry-level job and then while you're doing that you can hunt for a place that will take an art degree holder.
Well yeah, it's a lesser form of shock. Grief takes time, and right now you just need to let it sink in a bit without an hero'ing. it's hard, but you can do it. I've lost 18 friends over the years, so I know the feeling.
What would you suggest as the best way to fight self hatred? I'm not the type to go to a shring, I'd rather figure it out myself, but I guess we could exchange words here.
I'd describe my problem as such:
a) I've a passion for competitive 1v1 play. While I understand that losing is part of growing, I can't take losses very nicely if it's against an unkown opponent (online play). If I sit opposite the guys it's mostly cool, we can talk afterwards or mid-match and I can chill out, but online, when there's just one chance to win I get furious if I lose more than two or three matches in a row. This usually results in me hitting myself to cool off. I never take my anger out on surrountings, mind you. Only myself.
b) I'm fairly successful (good job, promotions on the horizon etc) but I'd rather be doing artistic work. Sometimes I bash myself with my inner voice that I don't have much time left to make real all those project I've in my head. Hatred starts randomly and hits me with the "you could work on what you want to make right now, but instead you're having fun playing games!" argument. Thus, I'm a worthless lazy piece of shit.
c) This is paired with the fact that my time of high school or even uni is in the distant memory, so I get the feeling that "you'll never have those carefree moments anymore and you're doing nothing of importance!".
Basically every second that is not spent either in the heat of work or on something absorbing (games, music, books), I feel like there's a wall in the back of my skull. Behind that wall is a torrent of new self-hating thoughs and others such. Like any day now the dam might break and I along with it. I'm functioning normally most of the time, but this unease hasn't left me for a few months now.
Currently doing gym, trying to get at least one project off the ground and thinking of starting regular meditation session (without any guide, just by myself).
The misery of fully developed humans?
Don't lie to yourself man, if you were fully developed you wouldn't need to waste your life pointing out what's wrong with everyone else's. All y'all do is bitch about how people live their life, get over yourself.
Gym and meditation are both great ways to find some solace. Aside from that, as I've said to several others, nightwalking is great.
google it a bit, frankly I'm not expert on employment, but there's bound to be something
unofficial rule is 5 online tests all positive
Which one were you, I'm sorry I can't keep track of all the anons
I don't know if your legit or not, but I'll tell you all my shit anyways.
>feel like shit all the time, always tired
>awkward in social situations(quit my last job because of this)
>think about killing myself a lot
>self harm(cut myself)
>don't see the point in bothering to do anything in life
>I don't feel close to anyone even my close family, I could care less if they died
>I know I have some heart problem or something because my chest hurts a lot it comes and goes.
alright, I'll do this last one I guess, kek
the cutting, what good do you find in it? Do you physically enjoy pain? What, exactly, in life makes you feel happy? If you can't think of anything, when was the last time you were happy?
I enjoy the pain, yesterday I just played with the blood on my leg. I only feel a little happy when I'm drunk once in awhile, other times it makes me want to hurt myself or others more.
Well, if you don't know what originally caused this depression of sorts then I don't know how to effectively stop it. You need to find a place where you can clear your mind and relax completely, then try to hold that feeling as much as you can and remember it. Do this regularly.
counseling. Working on masters degree. Wish there were more of us doing this whole r9k shit.
So yeah, Clinical basically. Good luck with that. I want to go into research.
I do become dismayed when I see the amount of terrible advice being given all around the board by ignorant folk.
Anon, I got first gf a few days ago. Turns out she had fucked three guys before she could even drive. I couldn't live with this, so I dropped her. Why do I have this problem? I only ever attract sluts trying to cuck me. Help pls.
Its worth noting I've attracted women in the past, but this is the only time I've actually gone out with one. They were all sluts too
I'm a chronic dieter. I'm not fat but I could be a lot thinner. I'm fairly muscular. My life revolves around restricting food intake dramatically, followed by periods of overeating. I've spiraled into horrible depression/anxiety over the past few years because of this, and my severe insecurity has caused issues in many other areas of life. I was raised as a fat kid but have gotten to this point (BMI 21) through intense dietary micromanagement which is making my life a living hell
I have trouble focusing and have a technology addiction. As somebody who is very competitive in school this is very time exhausting. I have gone for the nuclear option but I have no way of blocking websites on my phone so I keep browsing on it. Any advice?
Not OP, but currently doing a doctorate in neuropsy.
Happiness shouldn't be considered as a goal but instead it should be viewed as a state of mind. Visualise happy people. What do they do differently? Not much, aside from either CHOOSING to be happy or being too dumb understand how they couldn't be.
Therefore, analyse yourself. How do you think? Would you, by any chances, have negative biases? If you don't know ehat I'm talking about, wikipedia it.
Hope that helps
I just want one girl and that girl to have only me. Stuff like virginal status shows you people's characters really quick.
Also, my mom cheated on my dad when I was 14. I guess that's the root of the problem. I just want some who won't betray me. But I never will and never had anyone like that.
Well, I used to have a similar problem--breathing. I would get self conscious about the rate and speed, and whether it was through the mouth or nose. I found that just getting some time in edgewise to relax was helpful. If you get some time to relax, you can be happier, if you can be happier, you can figure out problems without clouded judgement. I don't know the exact solution, but relaxing and clearing your mind, and becoming less self conscious is key
Well, is there anything bad about using technology constantly, in your view?
That's not really the problem. I cant get myself to put down my fucking phone when I should be studying. Even when I manage to put it down the urge to just pick it back up really distracts me. I've fought long and hard against everything that could bother my efficiency at home but my phone addiction just will not quit.
From my experience, past sex life has no correlation with how faithful they will be. Maybe an experienced girl had so much sex because she felt so connected each time but it didn't work out in the end, or she's a sex hungry cunt willing to do it anytime despite being taken. Or the virgin can cheat on you just to "experience other guys", or be the perfect waifu meme. Countless other situations, but pretty much It's all about the same chances in the end.
I've tried this. Stuffing it somewhere a pretty reasonable distance and turning it off. But the addiction, which is likely what it is, just distracts me to the point where I just have to check it then start browsing for 30 or more minutes. If I could just get rid of this problem I can shave off hours of wasted time in a day.
I don't know if there is any thing you can say to help but whatever
>I feel no empathy towards others
>I have never felt love towards others
>I hate everyone I meet
>I have severe depression I some times spend all night crying and thinking about killing myself
>I hate getting help from others
>I hate people caring me
So thats whats going on with me like I said you probably cant help
The only time when I'm happy is when I'm working out or creating things.
Please read the Tao De Jing, ChuangTzu and Lieh Tzu. I used to be in your exact same position but Taoism has saved my life
b ur self seriously, if you want them to love you for you and vise versa, it's the only way.
Unless you have more than a couple viewpoints that today's generation would call sexist, I'd keep that locked up
Get a text phone, it's what I did. Only being able to connect to the Internet when at home really
didnt help since I found other ways to waste my time. If you get rid of the phone, you'll find a way to not do whatever it is you subconsciously don't want to do. Fix the root of the problem then the phone won't be an issue anymore
I spent my whole life wondering what my father likes about his wife and today it suddenly hit me
>what if he just loves her?
Then I realized I've never considered love in any of my thoughts for my whole life except when I was watching anime. I used to think not having emotions was useful, but maybe that is the reason I am not happy? That I don't feel love?
I'm sure I could fall in love with a girl if something romantic happened, but I don't love my family, friends or everyday shit.
>parents divorced and regularly reminded me that I'm the reason they are poor and unhappy
>told that my mother never brestfed or held me as a child, father only talked to me when I needed to do something for him or when I fucked up that task
>my only friends prior to high school was hot wheels and legos because I was seen as the weirdo
>also moved 7 times before turning 10, went to a total of 13 schools before HS
>step-brother died when I was 8 from brain cancer
>first friend I had was emo sadgrl
>she killed herself in front of me 3 months after first meeting
>7 family members killed themselves in past 5 years [won't go into detail about them, but I found 5 of their bodies]
>bullied all through school for being socially retarded tall white ginger in Bay Area, California
>tried killing myself 3 times, hospital saved me twice, father stopped me the third time and beat me for being a faggot pussy
>kicked out the day I turned 18
>homeless for 2 years
>go to community college
>everyone from high school acts like I was most popular kid around
>diagnosed Schizoid Personality, OCPD and OCD
>daily dreams of being tortured in a Hellraiser-type way isn't normal I guess
>it's not good for me to dream those either, so I take down 400ml of vodka a night to not have those dreams
>tell few trusted people about my alcoholism, they laugh about it
Just fuck my shit up
What's up with my views on sex? Last year I realized that I view sex as more of an obstacle than a goal. What I want out of a relationship is emotional intimacy. Sex is secondary. How do I become more comfortable with sex? I feel like my reservations about it are why I have trouble with girls.
Also how do I fix social anxiety?