How do I tell if a girl likes me without speaking to her?
>look her way
>if she ignores me [SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME]
>if she looks at me and holds eye contact go to stage 3
>if she looks at me but quickly turns away then I'll ignore her for a bit but then look at her again
>if she still ignores me [SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME]
>if she holds eye contact go to stage 3
>if she turns away again [SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME]
>I'll smile at her
>If she smiles back [SUCCESS SHE LIKES ME, I'LL GO TO TALK TO HER]
>If she doesn't smile [SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME]
Is this a good plan?
>is this a good plan
No. It's a terrible plan. Here's a much better one
>Make a direct, unambiguous advance, instead of waiting for some vague hint
>If she says yes: she likes you
>If she say no/can't seem to find the time/make excuses: she doesn't like you
You are wasting your time putting this much effort on one girl.
>I want to minimise the risks of getting shot down.
Stop being a vagina, even successful men get shot down and rejected. You'll have to screen through several 'no's to get to the 'yes'.
Thanks anon! The reason stage 1 is there is because she might be shy and so turn away the first time but still might like me. If she turns away there second time, then she certainly doesn't like me. I think at least ;_;
#18 is #1 my first waifu
OP just overthinks too much and it shows his lack of experience.
But why put yourself through an unnecessary rejection though? It might be a good thing to get rejected just so that you can build up tolerance on second thought though.
But the way I see it, if her body is telling me to fuck off then why pursue her? I'm not a masochist.
If you can't tell for sure, she doesn't like you.
Take it from me, when I had a shy oneitis that almost seemed like a robot, who would I would sometimes see staring at me out of the corner of my eye, laugh at my jokes, talk about manga with me for half an hour, ask me to lunch with a couple friends of hers, but never actually approached me, herself, at least not very much.
She shot me down, quickly and bluntly. Just save yourself the pain and stop focusing on this girl, so much.
>But why put yourself through an unnecessary rejection though?
But it is necessary, anon. That is, if you want to pursue courtship with someone you'd be interested in, on a timely manner. You need to be quickly eliminating all the disinterest girls before you can focus on the ones who genuinely want to be around you. If your focus is ego preservation and avoiding rejection, you'll hit the brakes at the first girl, and start agonizing over every vague thing that could be construed as interest.
Guys, by the nature of the game, are pursuers. If you want to maximize your chances, you'll have to be efficient about it.
Really sorry to hear about that anon, she was leading you on, fuck that bitch.
As men we're the one who are expected to approach, girls won't do shit. We're the ones who have to bear the pain of rejection, it's just that way it is.
If there's even the smallest hint that a girl likes you, then why not take the risk and go for the approach? You never know, she might be the one.
It's going to be my first approach anon, you're absolutely right now. I shouldn't be afraid of rejection since it's part of the game.
I'll consider it a success if I can even go up and talk to her to be honest...this shit is scaring the fuck out of me.
If there's any femanons in here is this a sign a chick might be interested? I ask for her snapchat at work( we go to different uni"s hers is out of state), an say to hit me up during school or whatever. About a week goes by she randomly snaps me some stuff first without me contacting her at all, snap her back, she always checks my snap stories, and now about 2-3 times a week she will snap me first and then Ill reply and a day or two later I will snap her something first( nothing lewd on either of our ends yet). Told her we should chill when she's back in town and she responds "hell yea, I'd def be down to do something".
>hell yea, I'd def be down to do something
I'm a dude but she definitely sounds like she's down to fuck. Congrats anon!
Play it cool, just be yourself and things will be daijoubu.
Rejection isn't failure, it's to be expected, and necessary for development. It's going to suck at first, but you're not a failure for being turned down; that term is saved for the people who anxiously sat on the bench and refused to approach.
This guys is right.