>son is having a folk-punk phase
>He made friends with a girl from his Intermediate Photography class
>she visits on a weekly basis and they stay up all night singing angsty songs on their guitars while drinking and smoking
>they are loud, they cuss a lot while singing
>son has never smoked before, he has never drank alcohol before
>want to intervene, but don't want to embarrass son by being 'helicopter mom'
>in-between songs they are rubbing their noses together and always look like they're about to kiss but never do
the other weekend, son was invited to his best friend's birthday party and brought along his new friend. Son ended up upsetting his best friend at the party by performing a Pat The Bunny song . Son never really had a friend before other than the best friend and I liked her because she motivated him to take better care of himself. Now he has this new in his life that's introducing him to angst and substance abuse.
OP if your son wasn't drinking or smoking but still spending the same amount of time with this girl and doing all the same shit would you still be worried? The kid is getting a girlfriend, don't stop him or he could end up like one of the many lonely robots on here. Can you imagine him going onto r9k in 6 years posting >tfw never had a gf because mom was a bitch and cockblocked me.
Just make sure his grades don't drop and you'll be fine, If he gets some kind of drug addiction then you can intervene but be prepared for a lot of fighting and family issues
OP has a right to be worried.Though I wouldn't recommend smothering him like OP says. If OP rightly worried what if she's a shit tier bottom of the barrel low quality girl. The alcohol and drugs could be indicators of red flags. I'm biased since I don't smoke or drink myself, but I don't know if I'd recommend the son to continue drugs especially if he's never done them before. Good looking out OP keep an eye on it and make sure your kid doesn't end up with trash
>Yuros don't still do this at 21
Stop lying nigel
My son is in a nice university majoring in something he's actually passionate about. He's going to do okay career wise. I can't control everything about him. Yeah, he's a bit socially awkward and a bit recluse, but he is able to open up around girls so he isn't a total loss. I just don't like that he had to open up to a girl that introduces him to bad habits. I can't control who he finds attractive or who he wants to be friends with.