>>26101932 I've been infatuated with the girl who is my closest friend for 15 years. If anyone has any suggestions to make the transition from friend to lover after such a long time I'd love to hear them.
Probably would be better for me to simply accept it's not going to happen and move on with my life though.
It happens rarely. My friend managed to get in a relationship with a girl he's liked since school. They've been together for 7/8 years now and they're both happy. It took him like a year or two of not giving up and her actually giving it a go.
He's seriously punched above his weight cause she's a 8/10 and he's I would say a 5/10.
I was in love with a girl for a while without realizing it. Girl turned out to have feelings for me. We had sex. I told her I didn't want to date. She ended up dating someone else. I realized I had feelings for her. Should become an hero yet?
Four months ago, I started dating a girl I've been close friends with for almost a decade. I guess it worked out because I never really was that infatuated with her before we gradually started spending more time together, and one night it just happened. It all felt very natural and like a mutual decision. I know that moving on from being best friends to a romantic relationship is something that you'd think just doesn't happen, but it did for me.
I guess that if you find yourself actively trying to escape the friend zone and that's all you're focused on, deep down you know that she's not interested and you've already lost. I've been in that situation too many times.
My first bf was a man that I had been friends with for two years before we started dating. We had both friend zoned one another because we didn't think the feelings were reciprocal But they were and it was a nice relationship.
>>26101932 Reset nigga, is the only way. Cut contact but don't be an asshole, if contact is made don't be interested in it, act like you are nore important than her, but there's a catch, she has to see you having "fun" without her. It's like you don't care that much about her.
I tried this twice, the first time the girl literally shout at me "What I've done to you, why we don't hang out anymore!" and the second time I end up making out with my biggest crush. Both times I fucked up cause I acted like a retard with a lucky chance.
>>26103215 >tfw you dropped out of her life determined to re-enter once you'd made something of yourself >tfw still a failure >tfw she contacted me before I was ready >meet her and forgot how much I enjoy her company
I wish there was something more but desu I'm just happy to have her in my life.
>>26101968 Ask her out on a date, don't say any of that fag shit and don't do it over text. Just be up front and say "Hey, do you wanna go on a date anytime soon?" If she turns you down no biggy, just move on and still be friends with her. I've ask all my female friends out and I'm still friends with them today despite being turned down by all of them.
>>26103254 Something like that happened to me >Tell her we can't be friends cause, even though I enjoy her company, my feeling for her get in the way. >We both cry >Best friend told me that she missed me a lot >I miss her to >Want to become a better me before meeting her again I know if that happens nothing's gonna change, she wants a friend and I want a lover.
>>26103379 >Tell her just that, that you don't go on dates and you want a real one.
It would come off as strange I think. She'd probably wonder what changed and why I suddenly want to be dating her. She'd probably just suggest we stick to the current relationship. Need to think of a better manner in which to ask her.
>>26103439 Are you her beta orbiter? If you buy her shit, give her free rides, pay for her meals than stop unless she accepts your offer. I had a female friend who rejected me than complained when I stopped giving her free shit and treated her like I would with a male friend
>>26103439 Dude, the clearer you are with her the better. If you wait more time things are going to get worse, go for a "There some thing I need to tell you" routine, it doesn't matter, you can ask her for a date and then do that. If you never made a move on her of course she will find it weird, but the world doesn't revolve around her, is want you want that's important.
Right now your feeling for her are just a burden, you better make something a out of them or they will fuck you up hard. Been there
>>26103657 >If you wait more time things are going to get worse It's been 15 years. I can't see it getting any worse due to time.
>go for a "There some thing I need to tell you" routine, it doesn't matter, you can ask her for a date and then do that. If you never made a move on her of course she will find it weird, but the world doesn't revolve around her, is want you want that's important.
I just don't even know how to bring this up. Suggest to her we need to talk and then say I've been feeling different about her/seeing her in a different light lately, curious if she'd be interested in one of our catch ups being treated like an actual date?
>>26103723 Yeah sure do that, like I said it doesn't matter, don't think like there's a magic combo of words that will trigger her love for you, either she likes you or she don't. Be as clear as possible with how you feel and most important what YOU want.
>>26101968 the main thing is to not put pressure on it. just ask her out and see what happens. even if she turns you down just stay friends and look for other girls. if she sees you actively dating she might become more interested in you and something might happen.
if not you could find another qt and you cna move on
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