Do you like to play Chess? It has become my main hobby, however I am not very good at it.
they are though, 90% focused on black and 10% on white
Can you consistently get better at chess just by playing it and enjoying it on something like lichess?
Or is there a point where you won't progress unless you unleash your autism and spend hours each day studying openings and grandmaster games and all that boring shit.
It would take you a long time to plateau on lichess.org, and when you do you can simply switch to one of the more serious places like Internet Chess Cafe.
There are people who have achieved skill levels equivalent to a Grand Master by playing only internet chess.