My girlfriend just broke up with me because she wants to be with this guy she met at the gym. Is it considered I was cheated on even though technically she broke it off before doing anything with the guy.
This+ Go to the gym, aquire a better body than the guy, and when she eventually comes back tell her you swim in pussy and she was the worst lay you ever had (even If it's nothing but lies)
If she broke up with you right after cheating, THAT doesn't count. You've got it backwards. You'd be lucky to find someone with the decency to do that after someone who wouldn't do it at all. You aren't gonna know what happened for real.
What kind of special cuck are you? So is it okay to leave a person for some random dude at the gym but aquiring a nice body and eventually fuck better girls (ie exactly what the girl did in the first place) is childish?
>Baaawww waaaw my ex hates me
What are you supposed to do when you want to end a relationship and find someone else? Give the relationship an extra grace period where you stay even longer and break up because of some other reason?
If anon found some machiavellian bitch who thinks she has to reach some kind of high score witj boyfriends he dodged a bullet. She could have had him marry her first by your logic.
>Baaawww waaaw my ex hates me
None of my exes hate me because I don't end relationships on shitty immature terms like a child and don't cheat. If I did I would do the same as OP's girl to spare the other party further shame. And if they held less than 24 hours of infidelity against me instead of the consideration it would take to know you cant move on from that, I'd think less of them, not pity them.
When love is one sided it means nothing. OP was stupid enough to waste theirs on a narcissistic gym rat and is looking for validation here from a bunch of low functioning psychopaths. I don't really feel bad for them since they spent the whole relationship fueling another selfish bitch's ego trip.
Even if you take this stance, which is salty and sad, it is better than trying to paint someone leaving you for someone else before physically consummating the relationship as "cheating"
OP if you are only seeking to illicit sympathy and become more of a sad sack of shit than you already are just for making this thread, listen to this post. It might actually make her feel bad and if not, you know you were being used from the start.
If you want to handle it like an adult, forget you ever knew her and don't ever help her with anything or take her back. Just tell her leaving you was the best thing that ever happened to you because it helped you grow as a person and be able to set standards for others you want to keep in your life.
Op this sucks for you because that alpha gym guy is probably just gonna dog her a few times until he's bored then kick her to the curb. Even though you think she's getting what she deserves then , the hard part will be that she'll turn into a total slut and get dogged by anyone she meets
Had two break up long term relationships. Both swore they never cheated though had started liking another guy. First one got married to the guy in a month because she was pregnant, this after knowing the guy at work for 2 months.
The second moved her shit from our apartment to his apartment after going to work for him one month before.
At least they didn't drag it out when they wanted to try a new guy. My guess they fucked the guys and felt bad enough to end it with me. Lying about it was to make me feel better and them not look like sluts
Oh my god. How many more idiots are there on this board who would undermine the people who actually get cheated on for real and are stuck in those relationships because they live together or have kids, or whatever? This is NORMAL breakup stuff, it still sucks because breakups always suck but she is only a slut if she tries to keep you after the fact just to show off that she can. Sluts don't give your feelings a second thought, stop devaluing the word to suit your victim complex.
>but she is HUMONGOUS, FUCKING, RAGING CUNT that deserves to be beaten to death
Because she found someone she was more interested in and broke up with him before she did anything?
You robots crack me up
No. Women who break up and are immediately in a new relationship must be cheating beforehand.
I have seen a woman do this (not to me), and I knew that she was in fact a cheating whore.
"That guy" might not be that great though. And how sad would it be for your ex to pop up one day literally imitating the person you left them for going "I just so happened to start getting into lifting, what do you think :^)"
God its like something out of an after school special.
Women may be manipulative and all that but they're smart when it comes to this.
She was keeping you along for the ride until she knew this guy was a sure thing. She's only calling it off with you now because she knows it's a done deal. This means that they already fucked buddy boy.
No Anon, this is how it's supposed to work.
Be very appreciative that she did not cheat on you first and then leave. Your girlfriend had the decency to leave before she started to gobble Chad/Tyrone/Josue/or Hyoung Dik's cock. She actually cared about you a bit, which is more than many can say.
Its not true, just not common. We can infer from context that she probably did cheat, but here is the thing, she ended the relationship so who gives a fuck? Did OP resent this person so much that they would hate her with a passion for NOT continuing with it, not to spare their feelings, but to just not be bothered with the stress of saying anything? This is the most you can expect out of a breakup of this nature. If you really think she had been doing it for a while, why would she end it weeks later? Is there any proof?
Who cares, just say good riddance and be done with it. Being the victim of a breakup isn't going to be the cornerstone of your whole personality if you don't let it, and if you do you don't even deserve to breathe tbqf.
>She actually cared about you
>leaves you for a total stranger because he is cute :)
she didn't lie to you
cheating implies a break in the tacit contract that bind two people in a relationship
she simply did what she wants with zero consideration for your feelings after taking the time to told you about it. She didn't break your trust, she just asserted the fact that she doesn't care about you enough to not hurt you.
If that can make you feel better, the same situation will probably happen with her new fuckbuddy.
>it couldn't possibly be that a guy on fucking r9k was being a sperg and giving us a biased view of his relationship
notice how he didn't even say she got with the guy? she just wants to be with the guy?
he didn't say about whether or not they got together or how long it took for them to get together after breaking up with him
he didn't say how long his girlfriend was with him or how far they got in their relationship
That's how it works. You can only control how you act on your feelings, not the feelings themselves. She either really thought she loved OP or relized she never did and didn't want to lead them on anymore.The third party is basically irrelevant because if the ex gf cared, she wouldn't have given gymChad a second glance. So what, your relationship was fake. Almost all of them are.
She presumably fucked the guy at the gym and has only now plucked the courage up to tell you she's dumping you. In that case, it would have been cheating.
>even though technically she broke it off before doing anything with the guy
sure she didn't
it's called branch swinging bro, you think she'd break up with you if her next landing pad wasn't secure? she been fucking him for at least a week
drop it anon. You are right but there's no way you're going to make a robot admit that it's possible to have sexual/romantic feelings for someone when in a relationship and that what makes you a good or bad person is how you act on these feelings..
The typical robot is all about hypocrisy, especially with women : he wants them to be pure angels, but would never hold himself to his own standards.
Wasn't them but I do believe it. But you're the fucking beta internet defense force over here acting like any of the shitposters on this board wouldn't cash out on a homely gf for a chance at Stacy.
>acting like any of the shitposters on this board wouldn't cash out on a homely gf for a chance at Stacy.
lurk more newfag. Most posters here say they prefer homely girls to stacies
i mean shit, have you even seen the belly gf threads? of course you haven't because you've only been browsing here for 4 days maximum
As someone who cheats on their significant others frequently I have to tell you that she did nothing wrong there, that is definitely not cheating. Just because people agree to date you doesn't mean they are owned by you anon, it's her right to move on to greener pastures, as is yours.
>Implying OP actually happened
>8/10 for getting me to reply
Lol so you think people in general will go "Hey this 9/10 with a nice house and a stable income is really into me, but they're out of my league so I'll stick to what I'm used to and never question how much better my life could have been"
You're fucking deluded, and I'm no normie I just don't treat this place like church.
You're right, I am too quick to assume robots haven't taken their misfortunes in stride and allowed the experiences to shape them in a positive way. No chance that they think becoming the very thing they hate is the only way out.
>"Hey this 9/10 with a nice house and a stable income is really into me
this scenario would never happen to the people you're accusing of being hypocrites anways, so thats irrelevant.
>I am too quick to assume robots haven't taken their misfortunes in stride and allowed the experiences to shape them in a positive way
literally no one does this. Stop blaming robots for not doing things that no one does
butthurt roastie detected. Yes, getting emotionally involved with another man while you're dating a guy makes you a slut. No need to put it in quotes like its not a real word or something.
Well I am not making assumptions about you personally but I have been here for years and have 0 reason to believe the board rhetotichere stems from something else. So shove your "not all robots" shit where the sun don't shine.
>but I have been here for years and have 0 reason to believe the board rhetotichere stems from something else
are you trying to say "rhetoric?" Either way you're a fucking retard, kill yourself
No, that is a normal thing that happens in relationships. You can't control your feelings, just how you act on them. It is not fair to continue with the relationship if you dont feel it.
What the fuck don't you get about feelings being an uncontrollable thing? Even if it's just basic lust, or pure unadulterated love, all you can be expeced to control is whether or not you are leading someone on. If there was no physical consummatio, she did the best she could to minimize harm. Getting pissed like this over it just proves she made a solid decision in leaving.
>Getting pissed like this over it just proves she made a solid decision in leaving.
lol do you think Im OP or something? Im not.
anyways the point is if you get feelings for another guy while in a relationship, you either avoid the other guy in respect for your bf, or you end your relationship and go after the other guy. Dont use the other guy as your confidant or whatever, that makes you a slut.
Same goes for guys who get feelings for another girl while in a relationship.
I can't deal with this fucking keyboard.
How can I have proof? Why would you expect me to have that? I have seen nothing but people here making shitty excuses for years and you want me to defend those people based on preserving your honor? Who do you think you are?
She left you for someone else. It's not technically cheating, but it's still pretty bad. Anyone who disagrees is a full of shit roastie who'll see why when her future husband leaves her for someone younger.
>or you end your relationship and go after the other guy
As far as we know, that is what happened. It's the shitposters who are making broad assumptions like "she totally fucked him bro"
That could mean anything from a few conversations to sex. You can't control what people talk about when you aren't around. Trust me I am a possessive person and it bothers me that I can't know everything that is going to happen ahead of time, but if you don't want the chance of this happening, you have to be with someone who is too afraid to talk to anyone but you.
Life happens. Shit happens. Life is mostly shit.
hey I said it was a betrayal, I didn't say she was a bad person, but she hurt his feelings and did it in a way that would leave him feeling very hurt, this person is actually has a right to be upset, it doesn't mean she isn't a person without fucking feelings, just that she did something shitty
By your logic, the betrayal occurred when she entered the relationship without actually being In love, and how many people do that, knowing they might find something better, but want a security blanket until then? Almost fucking everybody?
That's a really good point, your right, that's the real betrayal. and just because every body does that, weather it's because you need somebody to split rent or just make you feel better about yourself, it's still going to end up hurting somebody, so by my logic it's not a good thing to do, that is entering a relationship without actually being In 'love'
Welcome to the game OP. Now that you woke up. Play ball or get rolled over. Its now your choice. Reality is women just fuck and are worth no place in your mind. You are the one to blame because you put VALUE INTO A WET HOLE. Best advice in this thread is IF YOU DONT CARE , YOU DONT LOSE. learn your lesson now and next time don't give a fuck. Trust me shell stick around . girls love abuse.
Okay, leaving aside the massive red pill that this guy is trying to pull
he actually have a point.
I mean, why would you give someone the power to take your happiness from you?
better stay detatched, if it's meant to be the other person will ust rack it up as that being part of your personality.
Truth is, unless you are getting unconditional love from the other person, there will always be a chance of them pulling the rug on you, staying detatched is the only way to avoid that.
This isn't advice. It's a shitty coping mechanism, do it if you want but don't act like it's a mature course of action. You might not ever meet someone you connect with but this way, it will be impossible and you will just be a bitter drain on society as a whole. This is the way of the whore.
well I find that even in situations were the relationship didn't work out I learned a lot about myself and even women in general, and if you think your going to go through your whole life without any emotional trauma, your just kind of being unreasonable, something bad is going to happen at some point that's no reason not to live your life
Of course it is a coping mechanism, but its a justified one.
Relationships are the one thing that people a entitled to be cynical about.
You may give money away, do charity work, but you will never date someone just for their benefit.
Then you go on meet someone, and let that person become someone you care more than yourself, than for some egotistical reason, that person leaves you, because you know, everyone is entitled to seek what makes them happy(not being sarcastic on this), you are gonna be left broken, struggling to just find a way to move on, while a unattached person can just shrug it off and go about their lives as if nothing happened
yeah opening yourself up to someone can lead to them leaving and you being hurt, but if you do have a relationship it's supposed to be symbiotic, if it isn't something where you feel like you've grown as a person by the end of it then it really was a waste of time, if not then you just try to build off what you have, ya know?
Yeah its beyond me how someone can not be able to tell if the relationship they are in is one where the people involved are actually able to communicate their feelings and not reduce everything to a business transaction. I guess that is how it works for most people.
I know, and the relationship i was referring to in>>26085794 actually made grow, in fact i changed my life radically because of that, but still, letting myself go through the void that i felt when it was over is not something i can imagine doing again.
I know a lot of young and old couples were things worked out just fine, and they really do care about each other and building a life for the other, It's probably just us that are weird
>letting myself go through the void
dude how old are you? 14? and don't say 42 because if you have had that attitude for over half most of your life that's twice as fucking pathetic
Well I'm actually in a fairly stable relationship, it has its ups and downs like all of them but nowhere near as much miscommunication and treachery as most people here seem to be guarded against. But most people here think sadistic narcissism is an attractive trait too so I guess that's their Achilles heel and they'd rather be bitter forever than see the error of their ways.
You misquoted, I'm guessing - but it makes sense a divorved 40something could deal with these feelings for the first time, seeing as they most likely spent the second half of their lives thinking they had their spouse on lockdown, went ahead and had kids and thought nothing bad would ever happen to them again regarding their love life. Those people get hit the worst.
Whatever it is, it's not a relationship, if your heart isn't in it. Just a spectacle for others to think you're not a sad husk of a person who wants to trivialize other people's feelings like it's a fucking game. You don't like relationships, don't have them, but do not go through life pretending like you're capable of love just to get back at people who never hurt you, that's sick.
too much patriarchy in this thread for me to handle! I'm out ; P
That's pretty much as acurate as one can put it.
if there is something that means a great deal in you life and it's abruptly removed from it, it leaves a
>women hating man child
that wasn't the case
>but do not go through life pretending like you're capable of love just to get back at people who never hurt you, that's sick.
i wouldn't do that
The thing there are so many things that can fuck a relationships, trust issues, infidelity, distance, money, etc even if you make through all of that you still need to deal with the fact that time changes things, feelings may change
just expect things to work out from the get go is really naive, and best thing is to live acording to that expectation
>just expect things to work out from the get go is really naive, and best thing is to live acording to that expectation
This applies to almost anything BUT a relationship. You need to have the attitude that you can work through anything except a violation of trust and mean it. If you don't have that, you don't have a relationship. You don't even have a commitment, which is a precursor to a relationship.
That's what you get for trusting a women. You either beat her until she knows her place or you don't bother with women anymore. It's that simple. I had never dated or done anything with a girl. Heck, I haven't had contact with one for more than 4 years. Honestly, it feels pretty good to know that when you don't put any effort towards trying to impress woman, you tend to be much happier. Either way, OP, it was your time and maybe money that was ultimately wasted from having a girlfriend. I hope you learned your lesson from this.
It's a catch 22. You have to rid yourself of the anger and pain to get even. It's all the power you have over your situation, to overcome it and show them they didn't affect you. Anything less is just going to cause a massive backlash and leave you feeling unsatisfied, like you wasted all your time and energy on something unproductive and petty.
but it's a two way street
if both wanna be together despite anything, things flow naturally.
Now, this may work to a point untill someone suddenly changes, and thats when you are fucked