Anyone here cut ties with their family? Not like out of hate, just due to conflicting ideas.
>tfw I love my family and they love me back
>tfw I'm going to change my number, pack my stuff, and move out within two days
What should I expect? How was it like at the beginning? Would I be able to reconcile with them after a few years or should I prepare for this to be permanent?
I'm scared they might come looking for me though. We had a recent almost unanimous (excluding me of course) family decision regarding my college education and it would seriously piss them off if I left now.
I'm not doing any wrong to them though. I just don't think that what they decided would be in my best interests.
>brother's gf is cruel as fuck and likes to make fun of me every time she sees me
>tell him how I really don't like her
>he's going to marry her anyways
>tell him I'm not going to wedding
>told by my parents if I don't go to the wedding I'm out of their will and out of the family
there isn't much to their will to be honest besides their house and a few thousand dollars in stocks and bonds
but it's more that they're going to cut me off completely at the age of 22 for not supporting some woman I hate coming into the family
>some woman yelling at you to kill yourself and how she thinks you're going to die alone is banter
>someone picking at your absolute biggest insecurities over and over after being told to stop is banter
Kek. I'm just so concerned because this is probably the biggest decision I've made in my life.
I always had no trouble spending time by myself and my family the pretty unnosy and cool type so I don't think that would such a big problem.
I already have what would equal to 800 in American currency and there are lots of places in my country where the monthly rent is just 200-300 dollars. Albeit at a substandard size and quality. Also, I'm prepared to do menial jobs that pay by the day until I land a somewhat decent but menial job that pays monthly.
>I don't think that would such a big problem.
It soon becomes a big problem when they aren't there and you start to realise how truly lonely you are, take it from someone who is there now and who used to say the same thing.
You'll get your chance to have no family when you're old and alone because they're all dead, value your family while they're still around.
As someone who hasn't spoke to my family since 15 years old...When I was made homeless by them...
You're probably in for a rough ride, OP.
Shit is not easy, man. You'll soon realise that family is one of the most important things in this life and without it you are at a huge disadvantage.
The ''lone wolf'' thing is not a good idea mate, you end up depressed and suicidal (really suicidal, not just occasional thoughts, but attempts atleast)
You might end up in debt, you might end up regretting it later in life, you might end up alone in a world that routinely fucks in the ass people who are truly alone.
Good luck and all that, but don't think it will be easy
Ignore all the normies ITT, OP. Western culture is bullshit, nothing is sacred any more. You probably aren't leaving anything of value behind, unless you buy into the cultural norms like Christmas and Thanksgiving where families eat crappy food and watch TV together or whatever else. There aren't any worthwhile traditions or rituals in our society. The family unit isn't what it once was.
I think deliberately severing ties to the past to pave the way for a future of your own making is an admirable thing, most people won't understand that. Do what you feel you must and don't be guilty about it.
It's not something that should be done lightly though, so I'd suggest that if you're going to do it, do it with permanence in mind.
I'm planning to do that with all but three people. My two/three sisters and mom.
Both families (Mom's and Dad's) are outweighing their worth. Myself and sisters are the black sheeps because our parents were the outcast of their families. That stigma carries on. Both sides grew up (except us, poverty stricken) middle class and they never had an actual problem in their life, and yet, its about them and their snowflakism. Especially with my cousins. And yes, most females in both winded up being libcucks and tumblr.
I could take this as a bad a thing, but, it simply means I have to be more successful than them. The look on there face the day I actually make bank from my business start ups and products is gonna be priceless since they assume me to be a loser "like my dad."
800 is fucking nothing man that wouldn't even cover a months rent where I live. for fucks sakes flat out telling your family you want to move out and be a man is one thing cutting them out entirely for some minor disagreements is dumb especially when you're that broke 300 to rent, few extra hundred for food, you haven't mentioned utilities with your rent like electricity/heat/water, disposable stuff you need like toilet paper and other hygein shit, man it really doesn't sound like your plan is going to make it past month 2. Find a decent job first and save up something for emergencies. Doesn't even sound like you have a vehicle even that can make finding a job rough or sometimes impossible depending on where you live at.
I'm 20 years old mate. I'm not leaving because of some boohoo story, I just don't agree with their plans for my future. And plus I don't want them to call or come over to berate me for making seemingly dumbshit decisions. I'm just concerned and cautious about what I'm doing.
Yeah. But I'm hoping to reconcile with them after a few years though. I'm just afraid I might piss them off so much that they wouldn't want anything to do with me. I've heard my mom yell at my sis a few times to just get herself out from the family whenever she did something unagreeable so you can understand my concern.
Yeah I know, I hope I can get back with them though.
I've been pondering over this decision for at least a few weeks and I understand the gravity of my choices so yeah, I've already thought about the possibility of it ending up permanent.
>Yeah. But I'm hoping to reconcile with them after a few years though. I'm just afraid I might piss them off so much that they wouldn't want anything to do with me.
Stop being a massive faggot. Your family loves you and you should love them, if something is wrong talk to them about it. You're as bad as those women who cheat because they "weren't getting enough attention".
So just move out and hang up if they bitch you out. Don't need totally cut them out
If they wanna talk they can talk, if they wanna bitch they'll learn they can't. After enough time it'll work
Tbh though college is way better than dehumanizing wagecuck life. Most shit jobs today force you to be a polite little cuck, you'll barely make enough to get by, and after a while everyone I knew who picked the route got sick of it. At college you have 2 hours a day max of actually going to class, maybe an hour or two pf work. That's way better than an 8 hour shift, especially if you go to a state school where desu the work is probably a lot less. Seriously, I don't socialize at all in college but it means I have all the time in the world to read, watch movies, play vidya, nightwalk, whatever I want
Water and electricity is pretty cheap where I live and I don't spend a lot on food. Only about 200 bucks a month. Also there are lots of jobs that pay at least 50 to a 100 bucks by the day and they basically use anyone. So I could always go there whenever I'm short on cash. Financial issues aren't a big concern since I know I can always make money if I need it.
That comparison didn't even make sense. I don't see eye to eye with my family when it comes to the decision they made for me, and being at the age that I am, I feel that I'd be better off to just make my own decisions.
>I don't see eye to eye with my family when it comes to the decision they made for me
Tell us about this goddamn decision, you're deliberately leaving out the most interesting part of this story.