How do I stop comparing myself to people in my fb feed.
Logically I don't even consider myself a failure, but everyone seems to have a more fulfilling life.
Delete your facebook or start doing fulfilling things. I do the same thing too OP, but you have to realize a lot of people on there are posting shit to receive validation. It makes their experiences seem pretty shallow when you realize that.
There are studies showing that people who regularly use Facebook have a higher likelihood for depression from exactly the reason you are describing. You should stop using Facebook, or at least stop reading your feed and only use for when you need to contact people.
>My Brain: Anon you'll never be Chad
>Couldn't leave house because Chad everywhere and brain goes on auto pilot when I see them
>Got sick of feeling like shit all the time
>Brain: You'll never be Chad
>Me: Stop it Anon, you can't think like this
>Brain: You will never be Chad look how happy he is
>Me: ENOUGH! This is not healthy, stop it
>Rinse and repeat
>See Chad, brain auto thinks one thing, I immediately correct it
>1 year later
>See Chad, "heh just ignore it Anon"
>2 years later, see Chad
>Doesn't feel bad man, can function again
>Feels good man
I'm just glad I can finally enjoy life again without my brain taking over and hurting me
LIke I said I don't consider myself a failure, Im doing a PhD in stem, i'm fit, I travel a lot. I'm just lonely
But I can't stop checking the fb of my ex and see how she's happy with someone else. CAN'T STOP
>but everyone seems to have a more fulfilling life.
You must be a fucking teen for thinking that since kids tend to post only about the "good" stuff that happens in their lives to make themselves look cool for their friends and girls. Everyone has problems in their homes, jobs, school, etc, anon. Delete your account and get over it.
There are subsistence farmers who have been thrown off their land and forced to migrate to the slums of Mumbai for meager food and shelter right now and you are busy comparing your life to that of Chad, heir to the Chadsworth estate, easily the top 0.1% of the most fortunate people in the world, a cunt who probably thinks he earned all of it and is a better person to everyone else.
The world is full of insanity like this, if you don't spend all day mourning the fact you will die some day then it shouldn't be difficult to come to peace with the fact there will always be someone better off than you.
Even if you were the luckiest person in thee world, it won't last. You are perpetually somewhere on the ladder, there are people above you, people below you, in fact there is no ladder, this is just some abstraction you have invented revolving around notions of how much people have and who deserves what.
You could go in circles with this all day. Maybe it is time to focus on something else, maybe something more practical.
This is one of the reasons I stopped browsing facebook. I really never did browse it much, but I've entirely stopped reading the feed of certain people who can't stop talking about how amazing their life is. It's just one moment caught on camera captioned with a paragraph of nice words. It doesn't mean their life is always that amazing.
Grow up you fucking faggot. It doesn't sound like you're even making an attempt to be happy. Stop giving a shit about how others live their lives and focus in you. You're getting a PhD, how is that not fulfilling?
>hey there's that one hot, white girl i always see in People You May Know
>hey her profile is public
>her wall is literally just her posting a new default pic every week for the past 3 years.
>each pic has little variation, different color shirt maybe
>70 likes, 10 comments
it's a validation platform for women. always has been.