>been doing language exchange with a Japanese pen-pal for the last year and a bit
>had only ever messaged over Lang-8
>the other week she suddenly gives me her email address
>a couple of emails in she's talking about sending pictures of ourselves
>I'm about a 3/10
>I don't go out and don't have any friends to take my picture so I don't have any photos of myself
>I take awful photos anyway, smiling makes me look retarded
>the best I can do is take a portrait photo of myself or something but that'll look really awkward and forced
Why'd she have to ruin it r9k? We had a good thing going and she's going to ruin it. Whelp, guess I'll just have to find another language exchange partner.
She hasn't sent anything yet, she's waiting for me to confirm we'll exchange photos.
You don't think that'll kinda ruin the relationship anyway? Every time I've put the brakes on advancing relationships (for obvious reasons), professional or otherwise, it makes things awkward and they just peter out eventually.
Go outside and take a selfie in front of something that would catch someone's interest, or simply in front of your house if there's nothing interesting or you're too lazy. For example, if I was an ugly French guy living in Paris I'd take a selfie in front of the Eifell Tower. Then I'd casually ask her to send a picture of her too and questions such as "Wouldn't you like to visit Paris too?"
Make sure the camera won't be too close to your face, you don't want it to be the focus. If it suits you well then wear a scarf and something on your head in order to make some features less obvious.
>I'm about a 3/10
I lived in Japan teaching English for 3 years - Japanese women are really bad at judging white men's attractiveness. You see a lot of seriously cute Japanese girls with ugly/dorky white guys.
why not just tell her the truth? she might understand and leave it alone. or you could just send her your photo - if you two have been chatting for a year already, i really don't think she'd just stop speaking to you b/c you're ugly.
it's not like you two are ever going to meet irl anyway. why would she care?
We actually might end up meeting. I'm going to Japan this year and she's talked about wanting to go hiking with me. I'm not sure whether or not I should quietly avoid doing it though, I'll just end up spilling spaghetti and being a disappointment.
Good thinking anon, there's heaps of really nice scenery around me, I can just set it on a timer or something to put a bit of distance between me and the camera.