>>25942208 i still remember during my intake assessment when my therapist was asking me all those questions, and she gets to romantic relationships, past and present. I think I blurted out something like, "yeah... I, uh, don't have those... not much experience with that"
If you had social anxiety how could you even bare to go to a group? If I had to go to group my heart would be racing so hard I would probably have a panic attack. Your social anxiety must be quite mild.
>go to social anxiety support group >say I can't pay a cashier without shaking and panicking >don't answer phone or door >stay inside during the day because there are too many people out >people make faces like "what"
>>25942392 it doesn't matter. wanting to start a relationship is a choice and kind of a serious deal and the time where it happens is completely up to you and women are fucking afraid of approaching relationships anyway. so it's not like something you have a guarantee for getting at a certain point in your life.
My parents just crushed me once again. The conversation went something like this:
>Be me, 21 y/o robot, visiting parents on the weekend because I don't have any friends in the town where I go to university >Parents talk about my successful elder brother who studies in the US >they talk about a girl he has been seeing >Someone gave her knockout-drops on new year's eve and my brother regrets that he didn't stop her from going with that guy >My mom says she texted him saying that girl should have been going with my brother, then this wouldn't have happened >She adds "I didn't write "nothing" would've happened because I didn't want to imply he can't score" >My dad says jokingly "please, there are minors around here" >They turn to me >"Oh wait, you're 21" >"But you're still a minor when it comes to these topics"
>>25942708 the shitty thing is that they're pretty nice to me. They said this in a casual way because it's apparent to them that I'm a loser. If they said it to diss me, it would be savage but I could laugh it off. They just assumed it to be true
>go to popular social anxiety forum >many users have girlfriends and friends >some users have had a LOT of girlfriends and a LOT of friends >a few women whining about how they can't get a man (Chad) even though they've been approached by numerous betas >accidentally speak too much truth and get a warning from the moderator for violating some shitty rule about how "everyone's suffering is equal and it isn't our place to judge who has it worst"
I'm all for understanding that everyone has their demons but holy fuck that website is shit. Where are some places like /r9k/ that aren't full of normies and aren't full of tryhard 20 year olds like wizardchan?
It's sad that people with the actual disorders get fucked. Some people with SA even collapse to the floor from being too self-conscious about being looked at by others when walking. I'm not even kidding.
>>25943759 Thats the foreveralone women one I believe. I'd stay away from that unless you want to rage or have a few laughs. Either is more of a hugbox than 4chan though. Wish there was a real alternative.
>>25942526 It's become a meaningless buzzword and that's why I'm annoyed with the people in the group who use it as a lingual crutch to describe their feelings. Ofttimes it's entirely misused and the people that run the group encourage it through the use of their language.
>>25943951 >get invited to a skype conversation from /r9k/ >mfw it's full of normal people talking about college and going to concerts and being with friends and stuff sometimes i feel like i don't belong anywhere
Everyone here claims to have social anxiety, yet I rarely (if ever) hear of anyone who is completely dependent on their family because they're too afraid to go outside, let alone get a job or an apartment.
No one cares about people with real social anxiety. We're pathetic and uncommon and completely hopeless.
>>25946787 I've been posting about having it for years and everybody here was insulting me for it. It's true that there are very very few people with real anxiety issues in the world.
I remember a few years ago posting about how I was afraid to buy a car, and people were berating me and couldn't understand it. Even though I had the money, I didn't know what I was supposed to do with it, and if I'd have to talk to bank people, etc. It makes me feel very pessimistic about how much a support group would help, since it seems like there aren't a whole lot of people who are actually like me.
>>25946972 If you have ever posted on r9k or even spoken to another human being or heard your own voice, you don't have social anxiety you're just a shy cunt that needs to get the fuck out of this thread
>>25947025 Because you think anxiety is binary. It's not. It's not "you have it or you don't". It's a spectrum. But you love playing the victim and anyone who isn't as bad-off as you is just pretending or faking it.
>>25947269 4chan is one of the only places I feel comfortable discussing things because of its anonymity. I can be whoever. And if I say something dumb or embarrass myself, I can just avoid that thread and no one will even remember it.
>>25947413 if you can make friends and shit on steam and you're fine with talking to people on skype then your anxiety isn't bad at all and you should stop bitching about it and stop being such a fucking coward
i have EXTREME social anxiety, you see, it's actually bad enough that its ruined my life and i am unable to do any of those things. i have a right to complain, the other people with lesser social anxiety do not and that is why they need to FUCK OFF OUTTA HERE
>>25947605 >can't order at restraunts >family members called me autistic because I don't look them in the eye when talking to them >couldn't present anything in school because it would become gibberish >used to sit in the bathroom when it was lunch time in school
>>25947675 exactly my point these are all things an autist would do, not social anxiety.
there a difference between not being able to do something because you're retarded and your brain literally does not function and being unable to do something because you're deathly afraid of people judging you negatively
>>couldn't present anything in school because it would become gibberish
like this, i would literally just skip school on presentation days and take a zero i did not give a fuck there was no way i would go up there just to embarrass myself
>>25947568 >stop being such a fucking coward >i have EXTREME social anxiety >i have a right to complain, the other people with lesser social anxiety do not and that is why they need to FUCK OFF OUTTA HERE
You can post angry, retarded messages like this on r9k but you can't let somebody sit on your steam friend list? I don't think anybody would call that social anxiety. You're some special form of retarded.
>>25947856 >so just because he tried at some point to overcome his SA and you didn't means he doesn't have it?
you don't overcome social anxiety dumbass, that is if you actually have social anxiety at all and you're not just a shy cunt. if you actually have social anxiety then those negative experiences where you try and then fuck up will only reinforce your fears and make everything worse.
How exactly is it any different than if you had a skype called "learning disabled aspie"? There are no permanent consequences. It's basically the same fucking thing, but you're afraid to talk to people on there?
You don't have social anxiety, you retarded faggot. You seriously have autism.
>>25947953 >How exactly is it any different than if you had a skype called "learning disabled aspie"?
online shit like skype, steam, facebook, whatever the fuck all give a sense of identity
4chan does not because it is an ANONYMOUS IMAGE BOARD (????!!!!!??????)
i could easily switch up my typing style and and you'd have no fucking clue if it were me or not, you are literally BRAIN DEAD if you cannot grasp this. i feel sorry for you man, must really SUCK being such an IDIOT.
Bless you, OP. My psychiatrist has been trying to convince me to go to one and I was on the fence because I was worried it would be full of "le so quirky" people who treat mental illnesses like fashion accessories, and I would be the only one there with actual problems. Now I see I was right. If you've got a fucking fiance, how fucking dare you show up to a support group for SA? Clearly it's not affecting you at all.
Fuck normies. I can't fucking go outside, have no friends at all, and am so self- conscious that I think people are judging the way my shadow looks on the ground, and some fuckbag shows up with a good job and a fiance and has the fucking gall to claim he's got a problem with SA?
>go to autism support group >start to open front door >not even shitting you: fedoras, autism shoes, MLP merch, naruto headbands, mom jeans, fingerless gloves, canes, etc. >hear a nasally, giggling, voices shout "OF COURSE WE'RE ALL FRIENDS, YOU BAKA!"
The mental health system is a meme. just about everyone there (including the therapists) are norms (as evident by the fact that most patients and therapists are women). I think the true cases hide in the shadows, and either kill themselves or suffer quietly
>>25947078 >social anxiety disorder >>>>>>DISORDER OF course everyone feels some social anxiety sometimes, but how many people are so affected by it to the point where they become dysfunctional? A very, very small number. Maybe you can understand why people who are legitimately affected by it would be fucking pissed off at others who aren't seriously affected by it at all, yet claim they have it to seem special and get attention. It's like going up to someone who just lost his legs and saying, "I know exactly how you feel. In high school I sprained my ankle and couldn't run for a week. We're buddies!"
It's fucking insulting and it makes it hurt even more than it already does.
>>25948212 >therapist sends me to a young adults with special needs support group >full of "otakus", who have only watched mainstream stuff >2 girls who call themselfes vampires >mlp shit everywhere >during a break some people sat on the ground and played 3ds I'm too autistic to be a normalfag, but not autistic enough to be that type of person, it feels fucking terrible to not be able to relate to anybody
>>25947568 >if you can make friends and shit on steam and you're fine with talking to people on skype then your anxiety isn't bad at all and you should stop bitching about it and stop being such a fucking coward
you a strange guy pal.
I've definitely had "extreme" anxiety, no friends online or off.... until the last year when I started making serious attempts to overcome it.
Now I have a couple online people I talk to...
By your logic I could call you a fucking coward since you haven't tried hard enough to overcome it. (I wouldn't do that though, because I know what it's like and that can take literally years of trying to find some small improvement... So just chill, OK? We're all at different levels, and even within the level of extremeness can be afraid of different things more than others. But in all our cases it's fucked over our lives, and we have that in common)
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