>>25922366 >>25922444 >>25922451 >>25922469 I didn't even think it was that weird, I just told her about my shitty family growing up and how I've never felt wanted or valued and that sometimes I feel like a girl because a girl would be able to get attention and love just by being herself
>>25922271 It's actually a common method to say something along those lines to a very narcissistic person. They don't admit it but they love being viewed as a special snowflake and are more likely to be interactive with the person who views them in that light as a result.
>>25922498 >sometimes I feel like a girl >telling a woman this Oh shit, what are you doing nigger? I've never had this feel, but what the fuck makes you think a woman would think this is okay? She rekt you because you won't ever be her. You fucked up.
>>25922271 I'd be happy my therapist said something like that. My biggest fear in going to a therapist is that they're putting up a front when they act sympathetic or try to connect with me while inside thinking of me like I'm crazy or disgusting. I'd love a therapist who can just be upfront about how they feel. Otherwise I just feel manipulated.
>>25922498 >sometimes I feel like a girl because a girl would be able to get attention and love just by being herself Elaborate. Type EXACTLY what you said. If that's really as deep as you got because 'muh r9k memes say so' then no wonder she thought you're a fuckup.
>>25922271 My therapist(s) just listened and told me to call if I once again feel like killing myself.
They were females too. The thing is, if you have a masculine but ugly facial bone structure, then they will treat you badly. But if you have a beta/cute but un-handsome bone structure, then they will sympathize, unlike male shrinks.
>>25922498 >"because a girl would be able to get attention and love just by being herself" This is a really benign statement, but it's true and it addresses female nature, so I'm assuming it triggered the rationalization hamster in her head and she instinctively insulted you. Stop going to female therapists.
>>25922271 I've never had a good experience with a female therapist The first one I met it was because my mom forced me and the introductory I got from the therapist was about her bragging about how she went and got an award at some well known uni or got her masters there or some shit. She was very full of her self. After that she started blaming me for everything and telling me I was a shit person. She pretty much was yelling at me The first male therapist I got was some grad student and he was a total bro.
>>25922597 I don't remember by exact wording but we were talking about my lack of an involved father in my life and I kind of went off on a bit of a tangent
>I feel like I've never really been able to act like a guy. I never really learned how. My dad was never a role model for me, I always relied on my mom. I'm not like gay or anything, but I just feel like I have a really girly personality. I'm sensitive, I'm submissive, I get emotional easily, I'm not tough, stuff like that. I've never had anyone that wanted me, or loved me. I want to be wanted. And sometimes I think that if I was a girl, people would want me. I could be myself and people would just think I'm nice and special and valuable. I want that.
>>25922697 No. That's not being a girl, that's just a pale imitation of a girl. Plus I'm sexually attracted to women. I've thought about being reborn as a girl, but not actually transitioning. That's not me.
>>25922791 Sort of? I'm 19 and I have a very round fat face despite being in shape, I have blonde hair and a gay little nose. I don't want to transition though.
>>25922271 >female therapist Fucking idiot Do you honestly think a woman would ever understand what male loneliness is like?
>Told my therapist how I've started to distrust women and have animosity towards them because of how every single one of them have acted towards me, deceitful and selfish >Keeps telling me that not all women are like that and that I'm wrong >Tell her about the times my mother and sister took advantage of me or females from school bullied me or how I've been horrifically rejected the few times I've tried to initiate with a girl >She still keeps making out like it's my fault >Let some /r9k/ stuff slip out like women only wanting Chad and that betas like me may as well just stay home and masturbate >Tells me that saying sexist things like that only makes it worse Women are awful. Find a male therapist or don't bother
>>25922271 I've had many therapists, and all of them were male save two. One of them was a social worker, and very, very unprofessional. I stopped seeing her after a month. The second one was a sex therapist, and under the supervision of a male forensic psychiatrist. She was very empathetic, but also very unprofessional and ultimately could not help me at all.
Now I have a male psychologist and he's the best therapist I've ever had. I've told him some horrible, horrible shit and he takes it in stride. I attribute it just as much to his decades of experience as I do his gender, but going off of my experiences alone I would have to recommend seeing an older male if you want to stand a chance at getting some respect from a mental health worker.
Normally I would never point this out, but since it's applicable to my post, I will. I'm female, and I feel like it's not just a matter of relating to your own gender, but that women are too empathetic to remain professional and stay detached from what you say to them. It clouds their judgement and makes it more difficult than it should be for them to do their job properly. Ideally, I would be able to have a female therapist that could relate better to my personal experiences, but since that is not an option I find that male therapists ultimately provide much, much better service.
She was not exactly wrong doe. I think /r9k/'s biggest problem with women is that while they believe that women are somehow inherently different from men, they should be treated the same way for some reason. Of course emancipation is to blame for that and while I think that it is not a bad idea basically, it warped itself out of control in recent times. The average /r9k/ poster slowly becomes a mirror image of a feminazi, whose view on women is just as warped as the view of a neo-feminist on men. I somehow think that men and women unlearned how to treat each other in normal fashion, mainly because equallity forced a behaviour which is simply not alligned with a natural man-woman relationship in any circumstance.
Both parties simply are stiff as hell nowadays, while being emotionally soft as a sponge and full of distrust and vitriol. Of course every encounter is going to end up in hurt feelings.
>>25923301 you missed the "but ugly" part. If you have more feminine facial features then they will treat you better, even if you're ugly. A cute face evokes their maternal instincts, but of course nothing sexual.
>>25923411 >share an anecdote to provide some background for your opinion >include your gender because the major concern OP has is his therapist not relating to him due to his gender >somehow this makes you worse than hitler
>>25923430 IKTF my psychiatrist tells me most times I see her that she's proud of me for maintaining a job and not killing myself or anyone else, no joke and my psychologist just wants me to take it easy and not push myself so I don't snap again
in a way it's comforting to be held to such a low standard, but at the same time you have to wonder if you could do better if people expected more of you
>>25923406 Not him, but you underestimate the power of their maternal instincts. Why do you think Justin Bieber was so popular among females a few years ago? Because he triggered their maternal instincts.
I had a similar face to JB. I was uglier though, but females always treated me better than males because of my cute face. I'm not gay though, so being a cute beta wasn't an advantage since females want Chad features.
>>25923441 >Share an irrelevant anecdote >Point out you're A GURL despite your point needing no insight from the female side >Dumb attention starved slut can't help herself Better tell daddy about how mean everyone was to you next appointment.
>tfw get new therapist >for our first meeting tell him about all the problems I have >skip ahead to next week >he tells me I need to find someone else, since he'll retire in 3 years and thinks that thats not enough time to get rid of my problems
I wonder if a therapist has ever acknowledged how bad a patient's life is and just started to agree they should kill themself. I can't really trust one if he/she is just always going to be blindly optimistic.
>>25923499 >Why do you think Justin Bieber was so popular among females a few years ago? Because he was a pre/mid-pubescent female's wet dream and then other women saw how popular/rich he was and so also wanted him The best way to be attractive to a woman is to be seen as attractive by other women
Don't bother with psychology bullshit. These people go to school to get a piece of paper that gives them the power to slap diagnosis on people. They're either trained to deal with slobbering retards or sad normies that play pretend suicide over their gf leaving them.
Whenever I go to a psychiatrist I just lie about whatever I need to so I can get the pills I want.
>>25922431 Girls are not empathetic. An old woman maybe, but girls can not be empathetic because they have not matured long enough to learn empathy.
This isn't even edgy shit. At 26 I'm milestones more empathetic than I was at even 20, simply due to accumulation of experiences and alternative points of view: things that a GIRL, nor BOY cannot simply have by virtue of sexual assignment, but can only develop through emotional maturation, which is ironically something that many women even struggle with.
You are a male, yes? And so you need a male's guidance to deal with your strictly male problems. You want a male "therapist".
I never defended her lack of work ethics. Anon just went off on a rant about women being untrustworthy as a gender and I slowly wonder how the fuck you people do not realize that you are spouting the mirror image of feminazi propaganda. Of course she did a shit job, but is it so difficult to stay on point for once and not to turn it into an echo chamber "no girls allowed" club? No wonder you idiots can't do shit in your life but complain about everything being shit.
>>25923675 I didn't like him because he was faggy, not because of his face. He could've been any other guy walking down the street who WASN'T known for singing shitty pop love songs like a little girl and I wouldn't pass him a second glance or consideration. You misinterpret people's motivations as being universal.
>>25923184 >women are too empathetic Nope, women are empathetic only with other women. Women are unempathetic with men. But it's interesting to notice that female therapists are fucking useless, for different reasons according to your gender.
>>25922513 Having a female therapist worked for me just as well as a male one. Actually I only had 1 male therapist I was comfortable with (my best and current one), otherwise I only got comfortable with female ones. They were all fairly attractive, but I am weird in the sense that even though I'm ultra high libido I didnt find it hard to not be appropriate. I don't care about flings much, none of them were my exact type, I either am super into someone or don't care, the first time I was too young to consider it with an adult, and after that I wouldnt fuck a woman who saw a soft side of me immediately due to my wishes
>ITT: people who don't know about the differences in male-female brains men have a larger amygdala than women overall and since it deals with emotions, men have a much better grasp on their emotions and empathy than women don't be fooled by the lies from society, women aren't the "fairer sex", they aren't nicer, if anything they're much more calculating and cruel
>>25922498 Hahaha she obviously got all offended and feminist on your ass. Apparently her "womyn feelings" come before her professional behavior and she sort of lashed out at you. Actually a pretty big mistake. A doctor could be held accountable for something like that but therapists get away with anything so nothing you can do.
>>25924357 It's just bad therapy. I wouldn't make it about gender. I have a lot of problems that piss my female friends off, and none of my female therapists ever were mean to me. The majority of therapists are crazy, unresolved, and inadequate to dispense therapy. Just keep shopping. If you want mental health treatment, shop around and scrutinize these Dr fraudlanders and their phony degrees. You need someone who isn't super troubled or incompetent.
>>25924447 I told her that most people nowadays take any physical contact as granted and that I even keep thinking about someone giving me a handshake. So she just asked me to stand up and gave me a hug, at first it was really awkward for me and probably for her too, but now I don't feel that weird anymore
People, especially robots, actually go to those snake oil jews? You're literally paying money to embarrass yourself in front of normies. Any and all help is a placebo from the fact that you're giving them money. How pathetic, I'd laugh at you too
>>25923672 Gonna just add on to this as another anon. I found that regardless of being the same gender female therapists were garbage. Working on getting a psychologist preferably white male. What are the odds of a psychiatrist being African American because I refuse to talk to any ethnic minorities that aren't Indian or East Asian.
>>25923544 A therapist should be there for support and to listen. If someone really truly wants to die and there is not option or salvation for them, the yes they should be coerced and given strength and support to end their lives.
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