>crush invites me over to watch anime and play vidya with

>>25905727
well go have fun anyways

>>25905727
>>>/soc/
>>>/adv/
>>>/b/

>>25905727
>getting to spend time with another human being you really like
>whining because they won't have sex with you
man c'mon

>crush invites me over

Stopped reading there, normie scum

>>25905727
If the two of you enjoy yourselves enough and the vibes are pretty comfy you might get a cuddle or even make out. thats what movies are like at least

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>invite girl from work over to hang out and watch tv and shoot the shit
>she thinks I'm trying to have sex with her
>I just live a horribly empty life and want a friend

I mean, it's good she's not a whore that is just willing to have sex with you because you are good friends.

But honestly once you have a crush that invites you over, that is farther than I am right now. You're good, don't worry about her sexual modesty being better than normal.

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>>25905727
Son, you've gotta do this shit man, you've gotta get touchy whit her and get near her and try to kiss her man if that shit don't work then fuck it man you still tried aniways

There's nothing to lose at this point. Have a lot of fun. Make physical contact. Begging wine or weed. Escalate until she says stop.

There's no point in not making a move. It's either years as a beta orbiter or it happens for you.

Orchestrate a situation where she feels as if it "just happened". Nothing is less attractive than a guy who does not at least try for a kiss and then more. It's your role as a male

If she rejects repeated advances, don't get butthurt. Just say okay cool, then make am excuse to leave in the next ten minutes. Don't hang out with her out contact her after that. You might end up a booty call somewhere down the line since she knows your dtf

the only way to win in this situation is to friendzone the fuck out of her OP

>>25905882
this

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>>25905727
I would be honored to just chill with a girl.

>>25905879

If a girl invites you to hang out with her alone, she is telling you something. Consciously or subconsciously. Charm hey pants off and then actually remove her actual pants

>>25905889
>Escalate until she says stop.
Question, how is she supposed to say "stop" without pissing OP off or ruining the friendship or making things awkward?

Honestly, I think her passive-agressive tumblr post and probably maintaining a policy of being deliberately obtuse about romantic intensions is her best bet in something like this.

I don't even know what I'd do in her situation.

>>25905940
Or maybe she just sees you as a friend and wants to hang out. Ever think of that?

You're just deluding yourself here.

>>25905940
Yeah it's not always sex. It's a very real possibility she is interested in being closer friends, or interested in a non-sexual dating relationship. Some girls are like that.

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>>25905727
I don't netflix and chill, I crunchyroll and tug

>>25906035
>or interested in a non-sexual dating relationship
I'm pretty sure that's called "friendship", dude.

>>25906049
>What is saving until marriage.

>>25906049
Romantic relationships, ever heard of them? It's before you marry for some girls.

>>25906049
I BTFO the last cuck who thought you can't have a romantic relationship without sex family
Don't go there

>>25906141
>I BTFO the last cuck who thought you can't have a romantic relationship without sex family

No, you can.

The thing about dating is that without the romance angle, it really is just dating. You hang out, you get to know each other, you spend time with each other, you grow closer, you share secrets and spill controversial views, you grow to love and trust.

Dating a girl without making it explicit you're in it for the romance and expect to make progress in that department (i.e: "get somewhere", whether that's marriage or whatever) is a dumb, dumb idea.

>>25906035

There is no good reason to be friends with a woman, unless you are out of her league and she has friends you can hook up with. The older you get the more obvious this becomes. You cannot have close opposite sex friends after marriage unless someone is getting fucked emotionally

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>>25906198
He said there is romance without sex. He didn't say there was dating without romance.

>>25905863
I know that feel my man

>>25905971
>some poor confused fembot
How gives a fuck? If she didn't want to ruin the friendship she should realize there are different interactions between girl+boy friends and girl+girl friends. Jesus.

#1 is not inviting you over.

>>25906237
>unless someone is getting fucked emotionally
No, anon, that's just you.

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>>25905727
Never read too much into the shit girls post on tumblr. Go hang out with her again, be a weeb with her whatever until she's comfortable with you. Have some fucking patience anon. Do not get mad, wait for your opportunity.

>tfw no gril will ever invite you over for anime and vidya

>>25906258
>or interested in a non-sexual dating relationship

His exact words. I was just going off them.

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I wish I had a female friend to play video games and watch anime with.

>>25906397
Those weren't his words, those were mine. You're thinking the second comment was the same poster as the first, when the statements were different.

I was talking about a romantic relationship too, I don't think there is a dating relationship without romance, I agree with you there.

>>25905940
not true, i orbited a girl for years and she always got me to hang out with her

she had absolutely zero sexual interest in me, i was just the entertainment untill her boyfriend came over to fuck her

i cut contact with her ages ago and i feel a heavy weight has been lifted from my shoulders

>>25906350
>#1 is not inviting you over.

So a guy approaches you. He wants to study with you. You take it at face value, you've studied with a lot of people over the years and it's always been 100% focused on the work. Guys, girls, transsexuals, didn't matter.

Then he starts asking awkward, surprisingly personal questions (over text) for someone you've had only one full conversation with in your life, and who previously kind of just plain avoided you. He also is clearly escalating by touching your arm, shoulder, etc. during that first conversation.

When you have your first study session-- in a public place, mind you-- how do you establish boundaries that it's only a study session? You're willing to lose this study session option, but that's a lass resort, because enthusiastic study buddies are difficult to find.

I mean, wouldn't you be a bit bewildered by this exact scenario-- previous avoidance, sudden interest in reconnecting and studying for the same class, coming on rather strong without outright being honest about intentions.

>>25906457

I guess you're right. I'm old. In your late twenties I think my statement does apply

>>25906508
>You take it at face value--
This is a red flag. Dropped.

>>25906449
Ah, sorry. Easy to mix people up.

>>25906508

Yeah that's a date


I did one study session with a girl. She didn't even come prepared because she knew it wasn't about studying. We barely studied. Talked. Asked her to a movie at the end of it. We were together for three years

You're gonna frustrate a lot of guys doing this

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>>25905882

Very normie thinking but this is what you gotta do OP. Otherwise you waste time and then you will dedicate time and effort and energy rationalizing your beta passivity

>finding an attractive girl who has similar hobbies
>she wants you to hang out with her
QUit bitching, faggot. You've already made more progress than me and at least 70% of the betas on this board.

Hell yeah bro at least you got to chill with her right? Let me guess she initiated everything and literally asked you over and you didn't even fuck her. Instead you talked to her or some shit it was a fucking waste of time.

>>25906554
bullshit no it isn't. ive gone and studied with girls before and it was literally about st-
oh. right. im a math major. we actually have to study

>>25906532
Alright, well, hypothetical person was already a dumbass and agreed session before it became clear there were ulterior motives. In the dumbass's defense, this has never happened before, and said dumbass is completely thrown for a loop on this sort of thing.

Dropping hypothetical. I'll just have to establish boundaries clearly when we have our study session. If he drops me after that, fine, whatever. If he's actually interested in studying anyway, great.

Honestly, I would have much rather he had asked me in person if I'd like to have a coffee-study-date than the way he actually went about it. If he hadn't taken a more professional route, I'd have been completely flattered.

>>25906554
In all my previous study groups, the guys really were interested in studying (and in other cases, it was a mixed gender group). They didn't care who they studied with as long as they knew their stuff and were willing to quiz and test and correct them (which I'm good at, I learn best by teaching.)

I'd have recognized it as a date much, much earlier if he hadn't sent me a very formal email asking if I'd study with him (and these emails aren't unusual for me, it's just that they've all previously been completely honest without hidden intentions.)

>>25906723
No, it's a red flag because you lack any kind of empathy at all. You would be a horrible girlfriend, wife, mother, etc...

Like I said: dropped.

>>25905834
This, the infestation is real

>>25906723
>In all my previous study groups, the guys really were interested in studying (and in other cases, it was a mixed gender group).
Or you were just autistic and oblivious and missed the cues.

>>25906738
> lack any kind of empathy
>Honestly, I would have much rather he had asked me in person if I'd like to have a coffee-study-date than the way he actually went about it. If he hadn't taken a more professional route, I'd have been completely flattered.

nigga do u even read
oh wait U have no empathy

>>25906269
Thank goodness I'm not alone. I use KODI for tv shows and have a really good net hookup so we could have watched a bunch of stuff no problem and I had shows she might like ready to go but she just thought I wanted some pussy.

>>25906774
>I know you are but what am I?!
Also dropped for immaturity and lacking in basic social interaction skills.

>>25906738
>because you lack any kind of empathy at all
...because I took someone at face value, which I've done many times before without problem, and am now backpedaling because they were not only dishonest about intentions (which would actually have been forgiven, I understand nervousness and wanting to develop it "organically" through exposure) but just came on strong and pushy over text? Asking personal questions of someone you barely know and approached in an entirely formal and professional capacity?

I'm not lying when I say his email sounded like he was asking a professor to work in their lab, minus the resume.

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>>25905889
>escalate until she says stop
>then she doesn't say stop
>regrets it and sets you up next time she invites you over to a room full of cops serving you an order of protection

Happened to me senpai. We really liked each other too, she even seemed to like me more and wanted to lose her virginity to me. She dropped the bomb on ME that she wanted to be my girlfriend and I got scared it was getting too serious too fast and I was in for a world of hurt. Still hesitantly said yes even though I really liked her and didn't want to get hurt from it but I never thought it would escalate to the point where she called in law enforcement, just a simple "I don't want to see you ever again" would've been enough pain.

>inb4 did you rape her

No, she would've taken me to court.

I've never been more scared of getting close to a woman, mostly avoided them for the past 4 years and don't see it getting any better for me around them. All I get is a flashback of very possible jail time.

>>25905727
>someone tolerates your presence enough to invite you over


Fuck off normalcuck

>>25906759
>Or you were just autistic and oblivious and missed the cues.
No, they either had girlfriends, were flamboyantly gay, were interested in someone else, etc... I'm not oblivious to signs once they're there. I'm at a female-majority school, girls are not in shortage here and I am not a first pick for anything except homework help.

>>25906810
nigga im a boy

>>25906818
>lying on the internet
Why even bother to say this? No one's going to believe you were a perfect angel led astray but a weird and consistent alternate reality string of occurrences?

Own up to your part of it, you nutcase.

>>25906810
Describe for us what "empathy" from would have looked like in this scenario.

>>25906860
>>25906878
>>25906904

Who would think there's so many Arby's customers?

>>25906443
You should hang out with people from /jp/ sometime. There are a few females, but regardless, they're always a good time.

>>25906895
>Why even bother to say this?
Because it's true, and gives context for the circumstances?

Not sure why it isn't perfectly believable. He sent a professionally sounding email that only asked about studying, it was very polite and formal, I said yes of course. We arranged times and dates, exchanged numbers, etc. That was it. Then the questions and constant texting came pouring in.

>>25906971
>OMG ONE WHOLE GUY HIT ON ME IT'S TERRIBLE!
Why are you even complaining? Did you fucking believe it was NEVER going to happen or what? WTF are you even going on about with this whole, "Setting boundaries," bullshit if you, yourself, said it only FUCKING HAPPENED ONCE YOU GODDAMN WHORE?!

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST KILL YOURSELF.

>>25905727
>Crush
>Frequent tumblr blogger

Hi anon what are standards even for a fucking robo

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>>25905727

Pay attention to if she objectively seems to be attracted to you. If she isn't, move on and find someone else.

It's always best if the guy is upfront with the girl if he specifically wants to date her and is not okay with just friendship. Never pretend that you're okay with being friends if you're not. It's just a waste of time for everyone. If she doesn't like you in the same way that you like her, don't hang around hoping that she'll eventually say yes - find someone else.

If you enjoy her company and are okay with being just friends, that's another story. But if not, forget about her and keep looking.

>>25907015
Calm down, Sparky. I didn't say it was terrible. I said I was bewildered by the situation and having difficulty navigating it. Which I am-- I've never been in this situation before. I asked a couple questions further up to help me figure out how to handle it. Not a terribly big deal in the grand scheme of things, but its pretty nerve wracking if it's the first time that's ever happened to you, and you don't want to offend or hurt anyone.

>>25907135
>I said I was bewildered by the situation and having difficulty navigating it.
And now we're right back to: (Also dropped for immaturity and lacking in basic social interaction skills. >>25906810)

>>25905727
First of all
>reading her tumblr
you dumb fuck.
Secondly
Pretend as though you haven't read it. The next time, be sexually aggressive. Show her you wanna fug her. Either it works, and you can get your dick sucked, which is great, or it doesn't, and then you can just cut her off and move on with your life instead of getting emotionally hung up on her. Both of these options are vastly superior to staying her beta friend with your silly crush, you're just going to get crushed and used as an emotional tampon when she tells you about this really dumb, stupid, asshole she dragged home last nite that fucked her in the ass and didn't even clean it off before she gave him a bj, what a total dick that guy was! I sure hope she meets a great guy like you some day!

>>25907178
Well then, I could sure use some advice, couldn't I?

>>25907214

This.

It's probably a shit test.

Question is... do you really want to have a girl around that puts you through shit tests?

>>25907220

Oooooooooorrrrrrr... you could just fuck off. Chances are you'll just argue with everything we tell you anyway.

>>25907135

I'm sorry. You must be confused, a roastie, or both. Allow me to help you with your romance dilemma.

>>>/soc/

>>25907246
>Chances are you'll just argue with everything we tell you anyway.
Only if you wrongly attribute characteristics of the circumstances that are incorrect, such as assuming I led him on, or that there wasn't anything in the email that a reasonable person would have interpreted as flirting.

But yes, I'd like some advice for how to handle this going forward.

>>25907294

Well, you led him on. You probably missed the flirting.

It was also probably not nerve wracking. Or a problem for you. In fact, you probably contrived this entire situation to fuck with robots.

Also this: >>25907290

If you really wanted advice for it you'd FUCKING POST THERE YOU GODDAMN WHORE.

>>25907332
>Well, you led him on. You probably missed the flirting.
>It was also probably not nerve wracking. Or a problem for you. In fact, you probably contrived this entire situation to fuck with robots.
Neither of which are true. Just because I'm not freaking out with multiple exclamation marks doesn't mean I'm not staying wide awake figuring out what the fuck I should do.

I'll go back to lurking. Have a nice night.

>>25907382
And chances are you'll never post about this on >>>/soc/. Because this was never about advice.

>>25907290
what is a roastie? i haven't been here in forever, i keep seeeing it everywhere and i can't figure it out

>>25907508
Google is literally a webpage away you dumb roastie. How the fuck do you breathe without choking on the air?

>>25907508
"Whore" and "cunt" are no longer effective, so they've taken to calling girls "roasties" instead.