Does one have to be in shape to be loved? If one is even slightly overweight or is skinny, will they die alone? If one is fat or skinny, should he work on getting ripped and not even try with girls until he has a body like pic related or similar? Can he try while in the process of looking better (he'll still not look great to start but he is trying to get better).
Not really. Some girls have a thing for pudgy guys, and if you have a lot of money/charisma, it doesn't quite matter how big you are. If you have neither money nor charisma, then yes being in shape is your only option for having a chance.
No, girls only love your status and what being in a relationship with you means to her status.
Being in shape could help but that alone isn't enough, neither are good facial features, loads of money or your personality. It's all about what people will think when they see the two of you together.
>she's dating fat neckbeard? Wow she must not care about looks, he must have a good personality because she can do much better
>She's dating really-hot-guy? They look so cute together, good for her.
It's all about these things, being able to say "i don't care what other people think about us dating each other, etc etc..." even though she truly does care.
Your money, fit body, personality, attractive face and skills will be the propelling force that'll push her towards you, but your status (as in: what being in a relationship with you displays to the people around you and her, about her) is what holds you two together.
TL;DR it's about the type of attention you'll bring to the table.
most normals are not fat, however
fat people (particularly guys) have a much higher chance not ever finding someone, so it's either lose the weight and get in shape or die having never been loved
not really the case with girls tho
You have to possess some attractive trait to attract someone. Attractivity is relatively subjective, so even a disgusting obese pig-whore can be attractive to the degenerate eye. :^)
However, fact of the matter is, Attractivity is also heavily influenced by social norms. With few and fewer traits met, the chances of finding somebody who'll find you attractive decreases significantly.
I'm going to the gym to start the journey to shredded tonight. I can't even convince myself to flirt much now because i feel so unattractive as a skinnyfat. My self-confidence is like 0.
You're probably an exception. Most guys who even have the slightest amount of chub are nonexistent to most women (including fat girls). So you're best bet is to get that six pack and toned arms if you want to be loved and have companionship
Being in shape definitely helps when it comes to attracting and turning women on but you still need to be able to handle women and keep that attraction going. It's no guarantee that you'll find fulfilling relationships or that you won't have to put effort into them. Being hot only gets you so far. Women look for the whole package.