Does anybody else get extreme anxiety when they have to talk about themselves?
I can't explain it. But any time somebody asks me a personal question, even a super innocent one like "What music do you like?" or something, I legitimately start to panic. I just get so embarrassed talking about myself and it makes me want to cry.
>order a record in the mail
>mother: "hey anon, what did you order?"
>"oh just a record"
>"cool, what record?"
>"it doesn't matter. heh, you haven't heard of it"
>"well, what is it?"
>"I don't wanna say
>she looks at me like I'm fucking mental
>"is it something embarrassing? just tell me what it is"
>I'm legitimately sweating
>she's getting mad at me
I'm so neurotic it hurts
madlib - shades of blue
I don't have an issue saying it on the internet because people here have heard of it and i'm anonymous
in real life having to talk about something that the other person has no clue what it is, makes me want to fucking stab myself. people ask what games I play and I'll just lie and say counter strike or league of legends or something because I don't want to tell them that I play crusader kings because I don't want to explain what it is and seem like a fucking weirdo and I just hate talking about it
I like listening to other people. don't ask me about me, I'm boring. talk about you please. just ignore me.
You sound terrible. Have some confidence in your tastes.
I have no confidence in anything. I'm boring and spineless. I can only be honest with people when I feel extremely comfortable with them, and I haven't felt that way about someone in a long time. probably because I scare them all away with my awful personality.
Regardless what anyone on /r9k/ says, the number 1 thing you need to be attractive and live a happy life is confidence.
If you're a man, and you're weak and shy, you're going to have a bad fucking time. If you're confident, you could be ugly, or poor, or short, or anything as long as you present yourself as an assertive and proud person. Look at Adam Driver. Dude looks like a bus hit him and he's not only a marine but also a Hollywood actor balls deep in a college freshman RIGHT NOW.
However, anxiety and lack of self-esteem are also some of the most difficult things to fix.
>tfw physical interview next week
Like what everyone else has said, that's due to low self-esteem. I am downright embarrassed by nearly every single thing that I like. Can't tell people what I like because of a lack of confidence, the fact that most of the time I feel like I'd just be name dropping stuff (given the autistic amount of time and effort put into the things that interest me), and that I'd look like an idiot for liking that sort of stuff.
Also having 4chan the only place were having some interaction (90% of the time being just lurking) with discussions on the things you like the majority of the times hasn't helped. And seeing others insult each other for their opinions on this site might have influenced a lack on confidence in my own opinions in general.
God damn, these posts hit close to home.
I'm so ashamed of myself. I'm pathetic. I feel like a girl. If I was a girl, people would think my shyness and anxiety and tendency to get emotional and cry is cute. They'd want to protect me and care about me.
I don't want to be a girl. I don't want to be a boy. I want to be a man.
>Went to interview
>Got through things company does and my schooling
>"So Anon, what do you think is your best quality?" aka what do you like most about yourself
>Default to repeating "my academics" in different ways
>Didnt get the internship
>mfw I have to send out emails to companies that I havent talked to since last fall to see if any of them would want me in for an interview for a summer internship if they dust off my resume from their files
I am deathly afraid to send them emails and get back nothing but rejections. Not to mention I only have one real summer job listed on my resume that is hardly relevant to the field I am going into.
>Does anybody else get extreme anxiety when they have to talk about themselves?
>I can't explain it. But any time somebody asks me a personal question, even a super innocent one like "What music do you like?" or something, I legitimately start to panic. I just get so embarrassed talking about myself and it makes me want to cry.
yeah i do feel that i usually tried to escape the situation other time i end up not talking but if i was forced to talk about something i usually say stupid shits keep asking stupid questions
>I just can't talk to people in general. In 9th grade I failed a test because my pen ran out of ink and I couldn't force myself to ask for a pencil.
there are many situations i encounter like this and people always get mad at me being beta faggot fucking kill me already
>What do you do for fun?
U-um... well... s-sometimes I play v-video games, B-BUT I--
>Oh cool, what games do you play?
W-WELL I, yknow, lots of stuff, but... I, uh, I like playing Dota, b-but not alw--
>Dota? What's that?
Has anyone here conquered extreme shyness/anxiety?
I can barely go to the grocery store.
How do you do it? I've been prescribed diazepam but it doesn't really make me better, it's kind of a patchwork solution.