How do I conquer shyness?
I have no friends. I've never come close to getting a girlfriend. I can't make friends online. I really want a friend but I just get so nervous.
Even doing basic stuff like waiting in line at the grocery store and talking to the cashier makes me want to cry. I would rather be lost than have to ask a stranger for directions. Talking on the phone makes me want to throw up.
I'm almost 30 and about the same. I've overcome it enough to hold small conversations, get jobs and support myself, but I've never been the first to talk to someone in my entire life. Don't have any advice...just put yourself in places where people might talk to you anyway I guess. I have never been able to get over it. Have hardly any friends and no gf obviously but I'm content enough.
I feel the same way anon. God forbid someone comes and knocks on the door to my apartment.
Any time I get a text message or a phone call, I legitimately start to sweat.
I want to be normal. I want to be normal. I want to be normal but I can't do it.
I hate being shy. I feel like I'm generally just a lot more hesitant, emotional, and submissive than than the average person. I really don't like it. In another life I'd be a cute waifu but for now I'm a wimpy dude.
I'm not even gay. Things would be easier if I was. I like girls, but girls hate this personality type.
I feel you. Sometimes I think I might be gay though. So there's that, but I check out girls in public places almost exclusively. Idk what's wrong with me I'm fucked in the head ;_;
>Ask teacher to go the restroom
>Stutter uncontrollably and speak very quickly
>Teacher looks at me strangely
>Spaghetti spilling everywhere.
Anyone else burst into tears a lot in elementary school?
I feel like I was at the counselor twice a week for a while there...
I burst whenever I had to do oral presentations, I dodged them in high school by simply taking the F for the project or getting someone else to do most of it if it was a team project
>Alright class, we're going to go around the room and introduce ourselves. You'll stand, say your name, and say something interesting about yourself.
I used to be really shy but I kinda conquered it by playing a game with two friends. One of us had to talk to a girl on the street, if he didn't do it he had to pay the other two $2 each. It worked pretty well. I'm still shy to a degree but much less than before.
Now, I had two friends on the first place, so it's much less severe than your case likely.
>too fucked up and shy for normal people
>too normal for the "gay steam anime RP" crowd
This feel is a strong feel.
The middle fucking sucks. Let me be a dudebro or enjoy my full on autistic bliss. Why am I burdened to know the shallow ends of both?
>be in high school
>raise hand to ask question
>teacher asks if anyone wants to go take books to the library right when I lift my hand
>two Stacey girls lift their hands to get out of class
>teacher makes me go with one of them
>too shy to say I just wanted to ask something
>we push the cart of books to library
>books keep falling out of it
>keep talking about how these silly books keep falling out haha
>haha yeah anon these books
I've never been more embarrassed in my life
any attempt to cover that gap would just be filled with either normals or gay weebs, there is no home for us
>tfw hate cookie-cutter ERPers and hate finding the good stuff
I'll manage with the few pump and dumps I have.
I honestly haven't ever felt like I've "belonged" anywhere. Not at school, not with friends when I used to have them, not in any clubs or anything. Even on 4chan I sometimes feel like a stranger.
I feel like I'm passively observing life. I want to participate but I don't fit in anywhere.
So, firstly in assuming that the posters here are vey young, say early 20s or late teens. Secondly, I'd like to talk to people suffering this way, I'm a total normie but weirdly, I really do care
>be me in pre-school
>shy as fuck
>have to go pee
>need to ask one of the teachers to take me to the bathroom
>come up behind a teacher who's with someone else
>start poking her (too quiet to get her attention otherwise)
>she doesn't notice
>still doesn't respond
>end up peeing myself in front of everyone (though I don't know if they noticed)
>teacher takes me out of the classroom to get changed
>have to wear purple sweat pants the rest of the day
o-okay I understand.
I wish someone would erp with me and make me fall in love with them.
I get stage fright so bad at public restrooms I literally can't pee at a urinal if there's even a hint of another person, even if I feel like I'm about to explode, and then It just gets embarrassing when i'm standing there and nothing comes out.
I've learned to cope with it by occupying stalls and peeing by sitting down like a faggot.
If there's one thing I could wish away, it would probably be the ability to pee anywhere I'd fucking want regardless of how many people are near me
If I woke up tomorrow and looked like 10/10 Chad, I think my life would still be shitty. I cannot talk to people.
I've never had a female friend. I wouldn't even know how to hold a conversation with a girl if she was interested in me, let alone actually dating her and doing stuff with her.
I just want someone to stay inside with and hug really tight and nothing has to be said.
Don't have much physical symptoms.
It just becomes practically impossible to talk unless I'm answering a question and when I answer my voice is shaky as fuck.
I usually just stand there with an expression of pure stoicism as I'm screaming in my mind.
I was in school once, making a project with a group of girls
>welding some mothafucking LEDs
>oh shit this is going to look great
>girls are already ignoring me while I do all the work
>ask for a hand
>the hottest comes
>I'm not ready for this
>breathing mode: MANUAL
>try to weld this fucker but I can't because of shaking
>she asks "are you THAT nervous?"
>n-no I'm just in an uncomfortable position
>she kinda smiles for some reason
>I finish with the LEDs and go to my chair away from theirs
I'm sure you can find someone fellow anime, I merely like to play with one person until they move on. Plus, I only like submissive types too.
I hate the pee shyness so much. It's embarassing having to wait for a stall when I only have to pee.
And it's not like I'm worried about someone looking at my dick, I just can't relax enough to pee with people around me.
I'm a submissive type desu. It's not my place to get in between you and someone else though that's rude.
I'll find someone I hope.
I did find one anon and we had a couple nice conversations but I've been scared to message him and he hasn't messaged me :(
Lately I've just been trying to come with terms that I'll be alone forever. Once I get past that hurdle, I think things will be okay.
I don't offer anything in a relationship. I'm boring, I'm weak and mushy emotionally, I'm submissive, I'm sensitive, and I'm so fucking shy.
If I found a friend or a girlfriend, they would get sick of me, for sure. I'm too clingy and pathetic.
Idk...we came up with a Rp-ing universe and everything in google drive. And our characters and stuff we just haven't actually RP'd yet. We're in vastly different time zones though so it's weird. Usually when I get online he's about to go to bed. :/
ok fuck you
i'm out of this thread dont even reply this post because i won't read, loser
Oh I understand, I find a lot of people just want to be used in my case though, so I don't really get too many luxuries in creating characters and whatnot. I think they find it simply acceptable that I have a bigger than average dick and it's exciting all the same.
Definitely not a fan of the timezone differences though, a lot of the time people are horny at night when things are quiet and it'll end up being mid day for me.
>Be me, 13 normal highschool studend a bit of a clown
>we gon on class vacation for 1 week
>go play cards with 2 girls alone in the girls dorm
>they had alot of candy it was awesome
>we had fun, but nothing sexual
>her "boyfriend" came up to me the next day, told me to stay away from her, i being alpha fucked him verbally up.
>now 20, beta, social anxiety, depression
All that happend after i got internet
>tfw you could have been a chad.. but now you are a beta faggot.
Fuck Internet, and fuck me for being such a bitch towards my mother for wanting to destroy my pc.
I've done a little bit of the shallow stuff too but I like embodying the character. true role playing not just
>My dick is hard anon, suck it
>Aww yes anything you say master
I want to actually get to know the other character and fall for them :3
Yeah, the quickie stuff is nice and all but the master stuff is overplayed and boring too. Needs some spice.
I'm glad you wanna do the good stuff though, getting a good dom for that sorta thing can be tricky too. They can be very generic, do you like long sessions too?
every time i've tried to make a friend on /r9k/, they've gotten bored of me within a few weeks
Force yourself to talk to people.
Realize that normies run into multiple people throughout the day and will probably forget about you by the next day even if you sperg out or make them uncomfortable.
Force yourself to interact with others through volunteer work or something, would be a good thing to start with since the people you meet through volunteering are more likely to be nicer, thus easier to interact with.
If you have trouble looking people in the eye, try looking at their nose instead.
Oh I'm sure they'll look for new flavors eventually, most subs are sluts like that. But it's okay! There's always more for the taking.
I think it's the same for both sides really, you'll just have to find a keeper who hits all your notes. Have you had that in the past?
Oh! Well then. You'll certainly find it if you're new then, then maybe like 2 years later realize it was meh and get into more intense stuff should it come to that, who knows. Either way like I said, I'm confident in ya.
Anywho, I need to rest now. You take care friend, thanks for chatting with me.
I was a loner until sometime in high school.
My parents forced me to volunteer at a hospital where I had to make patients feel comfortable. Met like 10+ complete strangers every day, stuttering and making people feel uncomfortable until I got the hint and left their room. After a while you just realize how little people actually pay attention to others, people are too worried about their own fuck ups and people around them.
Just look at the closest eye to you, or look back and force for longer then 3 seconds, would look less awkward.
>After a while you just realize how little people actually pay attention to others, people are too worried about their own fuck ups and people around them.
THIS so much
literally nobody cares about you, and if you act awkward or weird they'll care even less about you
and its not like you care about them in the first place
I conquered my shyness to the point that I could approach strangers in my classes.
But by now, I don't bother anymore. Things don't go anywhere anyway. I have a few low tier friends in my classes, nothing more than acquaintances really. Then for some, after some time of not seeing them I would be like "Hi <name>" (yes, I forced myself to remember all their names) and they would just look really uncomfortable.
fuck me, dude
I guess I could be a "switch" but it's so unnatural to me. I don't know how to flirt, I don't know how to talk dirty, I don't know how to be alpha in a relationship
I don't want to be such a fucking pussy
idk what the fuck I'm doing either desu.
At this point I feel like I'm Bi but I only check out women when I'm in public. I've had faggy thoughts in the past but idk if they were just random fantasy or not.I wish I could just be happy for fucks sake.
Hello, this is Alice. Mind telling me why you are using my likeness in this thread?
How do you make friends online?
I don't like online games but I tried playing them. It didn't get me any friends.
I don't want to post contact info on 4chan, every thread for stuff like that sets off all my alarms, like "post in this thread and eventually everyone on the internet is going to know you and call you a faggot!"
It always feels like I'm on the outside of some massive in-joke and I'm all alone out here.
That's been my experience as well, even if I try to keep it going. It usually just ends up with me being the only one putting in effort.
The only thing I can suggest is to play more online games, especially with /jp/.
Pretty much me. Tried talking to people before online and we only talked a little before running out of things to talk and never messaging again.
I did make hang out with the few (three?) people from /jp/ during the PSO2 beta. I wish I realized how good friends were and got their contacts before I stopped logging in.
Lately I've played FFXIV since launch (but with lots of breaks between) and I talk to maybe 3 people in it because they are in my free company. None of them share my other hobbies though so there's nothing outside of the game.
The idea of making friends sounds nice but I naturally don't do it for some reason. I think I'm meant to be mostly alone with some acquaintances in the places I frequent.