Do normal people really keep 2-3 second eye contact with strangers and then look away to communicate to them that they do find them attractive/allow them to approch? Is it how it really works or was I being lied to?
yeah if you keep getting prolonged eye contact (2 seconds even) across bar from a girl she is saying "come talk to me"
this is a screening method. she'll never come talk to you because if you don't have the balls to go say hi yourself then you're unworthy
I don't know.
Even during times I feel relaxed and confident around people, I still sense a mildly odd reaction from them regarding eye contact.
Typically I look them in the eye and then look away really fast (which is one of the most beta things to do).
Other times I look them for a second or so and then look away. This seems to give me the most normal feedback.
Anything more than a second implies intent to interact.
Big guys that aren't afraid to fight me sometimes keep staring. Other semi-beta or beta people look away first in defeat.
Some others just keep staring a couple seconds in doubt, as to why I'm looking at them (they might try to remember if they know me or something).
Girls understand I'm checking them out and either look scared/annoyed, or kind of smile a little, and given my /fit/ness level, I'm pretty sure they smile sarcastically.
Nonetheless the bottom line is that:
1. People are away of whether or not you're looking at them.
2. If you want to send a signal that you like her, you should look at her and understand if she's into you by her reaction.
In normal Western conversation, eye contact is important to keep in 2-3 second intervals, but be sure to break it periodically. Girls who lean in to make eye contact are interested in some regard, but a stiff back, clasped hands and generally unresponsive body language are red flags.
If you're close enough, you can watch their pupils. Dilation means she's attracted to you, but a widened stare means she's more concerned for her safety.
Avoiding socializing was probably one of the worst things I could've done.
I used to not even think about what I was doing when talking or hanging out with people but now I feel like I'm ALWAYS FUCKING ANALYZING EVERY LITTLE MOVEMENT I DO. Pretty sure this makes me come off even stranger than I did before, and I think I started doing it initially because someone said I behave awkwardly sometimes.
There's no winning for me.
If this isn't how the world looks through your lens then you don't belong here.
Just sacrifice or make enough to afford hair transplants. If someone reputable does it even a barber wouldnt know anythings up. It's basically the only reason I'm bothering with school still, I don't wanna be bald.
Plus 10k isn't even that bad, hell it's what a lot of people spend on a used Kia they get rid of after a year. Even if you save 2k then take out an 8k loan over 36 months, it would only be 220 a month. Is that not worth your self confidence back?
>this is a screening method. she'll never come talk to you because if you don't have the balls to go say hi yourself then you're unworthy
No. The extra whorish ones are like predators. It's disgusting and uncomfortable.
>friend was trying to point out something to me that was behind some roastie skank in a restaurant/bar
>look past roastie see what he's pointing out
>roastie ends up staring right at me
>look away as fast as possible because I'm not interested at all
>10 mins later her and her roastie friends come over and harass me and I awkwardly completely disregard their presence until they leave
I wish they would keep their cum-drenched hands to themselves.
If you're implying that you always stare straight down as much as possible then yes. It's the only way to navigate through public.
Hardmode: Do it while partially smiling/ having that "hmm im content and happy" look on your face.
(actually, it's not that hard, because if you straighten your back and do a superman pose for 5 minutes, then go outside to walk among a crowd and smile, your confidence will override the analytical part of your brain)
Am I the only one who stares closely to everyone walking past me? I judge them from the bottom to the top, familias. I can't help it. Not sure if it's normal, most other people only seem to be looking forward
Nah, don't stare straight down; just never look into or through anyone's "personal bubble". You can keep your eyes level looking straight ahead, at a clock on the wall at the far end, to the walls on one side, and if you're completely surrounded, vacantly staring through a constantly shifting blur of people as you step around/ past them.
I don't even notice people I actually know when they're in front of me/ appear on my side.
Yeah I do this too.
my mom once said to me
"why do you stare at people like that? I'd be wondering 'why the hell does this guy look at me like that?' "
I'm not really sure what to make of this.
>sitting in the bus
>person sitting in the reverse seat in front of you
>compulsive need to stare into their face non-stop
>can't do this
It kills me inside every time.
It's an addiction, senpai. I can still remember the faces of people I've seen on the subways years ago. Wondering what they've done with their lives, what that phone call they did was about. It's just so amazing to tap into so many people's lives just by staring at them for a few minutes. Their clothes, body language and conversations say a lot.
>walk down the road
>look at girls walking next to me
>don't even look at me for a split second, eyes always forward
it's so fucking weird, I don't even look that bad. I must come off as creepy or some shit
I can't do this.
People notice me WAY too easily. I seriously cannot look at people for more than an aggregate of 1.5 seconds, otherwise they notice me and try to confront me in some way. With girls its' they point and giggle, or approach me. With guys it's not a big deal, but I become registered in their minds if we're in a room or something. 50/50 chance they start a conversation if they're over 40.
I want to be invisible. My clothes are shitty, my hair is shitty, I have no control over my life right now, so I just want to be completely invisible until I've got all my shit together.
And it sucks when I get approached/ fall into a conversation. I literally want to die from the boring shit people WANT to talk about. I've been trying to become more welcoming/ let people just talk talk talk and share their story, smiling and getting involved in it. But as soon as the conversation is over, part of me feels like it dies. The conversations aren't awkward or run out of material to talk about, but I feel like I can't get anywhere with anyone.
So I just looking at people by any means necessary.
I literally don't want to assimilate, unless it's with people more easy-going or "checked out" than me.
That's the worst paradox for me about social situations, I don't really hate/dislike people per se, I'd like be warm to them and maybe even enjoy their small talk, but I just frankly don't give a fuck about them at all and nothing can change that about me and I don't want to plaster smile on my face, because it would be fake, a lie, dishonest act and I don't want to cheat people like that.
Sometimes I feel like I got dealt really terrible cards at life and these kind of situations are really dire for me.
I love talking about my own stuff but I never listen to other people (but I pretend to) unless it interests me or it's someone I am interested in to get to know better. Which 90% of the time means I'm not listening.
I'm actually interested in other people, and I want to believe that on some level there's some kind of either "wildly fucked up" or "truly fiery passionate" aspect to everyone.
I want someone to sperg out to me, cause when they get talking about stuff they REALLY love, it becomes interesting to listen to. And if they can't really put it into words, I'm trying to help them/ spot connections ahead of them so we can have the "EXACTLY!!!" moments. In the back of my mind I feel like I'm training them to package what they have to say more easily for other people who aren't as patient as me.
But NO. NO ONE TALKS ABOUT ANYTHING. It's ALL superficial or petty shit that does not matter. It's like no one realizes that one day they'll die and regret never having expressed anything they believed.