>>25752136 Mundane subjects can be fun to talk about, it's just about how you pose the conversation. Don't focus so much on being interesting or knowing complicated subjects, just focus on being enjoyable to be around. Make sure not to dwell on wondering if you are boring or not, never ask them if you are doing something wrong unless they seem offended.
Come up with questions for whoever you are talking to, give feedback to whatever they say in a positive way but add your own thoughts to give them room to ask questions if they want. It's more of delicate dance to keep someone engaged than it is being interesting or social.
>>25752369 Oh, I forgot one thing, make sure to be sincere and encouraging. Do not be insensitive at any point, don't be emotionless while speaking of a subject unless you are in a business or academic setting. Talking to a friend is not when you should try out emotionless debating.
Always imagine that you want to make this person happy with what you say. Remind them that you really enjoy talking to them, they're a good friend, etc. People will be more likely to try talking to you again if you leave the impression that you enjoy their company too.
I get nervous as fuck even just typing one on one with someone. I don't have IRL conversations period. I refuse to engage in small talk and ignore anybody who tries and try to scare them off. Can't look anybody in the eye and I hate my voice. I talk to myself but I'm even shit at that.
>banter is totes fire af when i'm with mates (as long as they aren't autistically quiet faggots) >absolutely shit at small-talk or conversing with strangers in small interactions >tfw hairdresser's apointment tomorrow shitting myself tBh lads pls let me get a shy person that doesn't ever speak and just cuts the damn hair, pls god i beg
>>25751665 I can hold a conversation, but I find it hard to keep one going that I get interesting feedback about something i'm interested in. I don't like talking about myself but I find that if I ask people questions they give me too direct answers and I either have to keep asking them relevant questions, which I find rather tedious after a while, or end up discussing something that happened to me (which is also hard as I find most things depressing therefore I have to lie about how "fun" it is). As I've grown older I find it more difficult to have a full conversation with others, not to mention I have bad social anxiety which makes it all the much worse. This whole concept completely destroys my ability for find a qt3.ie. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?
>>25751665 I can hold a conversation usually. I just can't start one. A girl says something to me I can usually bullshit about whatever's going on lately, but holy hell I feel like a creepy weirdo trying to talk to someone.
Because I know that they know I'm just making up excuses to start conversation.
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