Loneliness isn't a switch you can turn on and off or rationalize away. Some people are used to being alone and isolated and thus more comfortable in that isolation, others aren't. Some crave the attention and ego validation that comes with social stimulation, and the greatest form of that is between one and their significant other.
>>25744451 But the feeling of being wanted and loved doesn't necessarily have to come from a romantic relationship. Comparatively, I rarely see anyone lamenting the fact they don't have real friends who truly care for them, but every other thread has something to do with complaining about no gf.
>>25744499 really? I see a similar amount of people wishing they had good friends. there is a point to what you said though. perhaps it's because in a relationship vs friends people think it's guaranteed sexual acts or that they won't walk out on you. Personally the best thing to me would be a good friend where you can do whatever you want with each other.
It would do wonders for the robots of this board to know that you can provide yourself with love and acceptance. Normalfags do it so well they can eventually do the whole b urself thing.
I'm not saying become a monk and live in isolation but if you tried you could actually learn how to provide love and acceptance to yourself so that eventually you could reach out for someone else and share it.
>>25744734 The funny part is that just by providing themselves with love and acceptance these people would become more confident which in turn would make it easier for them to be in a relationship. The tfw no gf and woe is me personality is what is holding most of the robots back.
Because, like it or not, you're a result of genetics and finding a way to pass your genetics on to another generation is literally the only reason you exist. I don't even mean that in some edgy way. Just that's why it requires a great deal of trauma to truly turn someone away from the idea of a partner. Even /r9k/ (most anyway) WANTS a partner, just not the potential partners the present offers.
>>25745561 You're not paying them to love you. You don't give them $50 every morning to love you. Those people just gravitate toward you because you're successful and will remain loyal by your side while you're successful. >but that's not real love It's as real as 'real love'. The people who 'really' love you despite the money love you for a set of reasons if you change something or they find out something about you that they don't like they'll leave you just the same. Nobody loves anybody unconditionally.
>>25745589 It's not that they're no important it's that you don't feel comfortable with yourself and need to get your happiness from an external source which makes your less likely to actually develop a meaningful relationship with anybody else.
>>25745702 >if nobody wants to interact with you Nobody? Really? Every single person you come in contact immediately rejects you and finds it repulsive to be in your presence? Sure, I'm positive you're not being dramatic or projecting how you feel about yourself to others at all. Yeah anon the world is out to get you by actively avoiding you, you're such a disgusting freakshow that we can't stand to be in your presence for even one second. Well now you know what you got a do, only one way out of this. Fuck you, you just want to wallow in self pity and sadness.
>>25745777 every girl i've ever shown interest in has turned me away and every "friend" i've ever had has gotten bored of me
i've never had a single person as interested in me as i was in them. i constantly feel like i'm catering to other people with nothing in return. friendships and relationships can't function this way, i don't want to be a fucking doormat.
>>25745805 >every girl i've ever shown interest in has turned me away and every "friend" i've ever had has gotten bored of me Look at your fucking attitude asshole. You have a one-track mind and that is "I'm a loser" and you're acting like one. How do you expect people to be interested in you if you're not interested in yourself. Seriously if you hate yourself and you think you're boring you're gonna start acting like it. And at that point can you blame the people for doing that? Wouldn't you do the exact same if you were in their position.
>i've never had a single person as interested in me as i was in them Why are you interested in people who think so little of you then? >i'm catering to other people with nothing in return. friendships and relationships can't function this way, i don't want to be a fucking doormat. Why do you think you have to cater people in order to be their friend? If you act like a doormat you'll be treated as a doormat.
>>25745995 Yeah, I'm such a chad. I'm a 23y old virgin, lower middle class with one friend who lives in another continent. I still live with my parents as well. The only thing I really got going that r9k might consider useful is that I'm in college.
>>25746122 You act like a loser because you think you're one, likely because something bad happened to you in the past. And nobody fucking hates you, they just get tired of your constant neediness. You're asking people to like you not only for themselves but in your stead as well. You keep attitudes like this and eventually even the friends or lovers you made before you changed into that state of mind will leave you because eventually you get tired of being there to justify the other person existence. >>25746211 It's not circular logic at all. He's(you're) in a vicious cycle. You can break the cycle but you can't expect someone else to do it for you. You're not even looking for a friend you're looking for salvation from strangers. That shit doesn't exist. There is no magic formula that you applied to your life that turns you into a chad.
>>25746307 The sad part is I don't even know if you're trolling or if you're so egomaniacal that you honestly expect the world to change itself to accommodate your current state of mind. >Hey let's hang out with anon. He's such a nice guy to be around, always gloomy and sad. Always saying things like 'I'm such a loser why do you even hang around with me'. That guy is blast. >Hey stacy, if you still don't have a boyfriend why not date anon? He's always so self centered with his own issues to the point that he ignores everybody else, but isn't that what you want in a guy?
You reject anybody who wants or tries to help you and ignore everything they say. And you go around complaining how the world doesn't accept you. Like I said on a previous post. Fuck you, you just want to wallow in self pity and sadness.
>>25746561 Help doesn't mean salvation. Someone help might just make him a tiny bit less self centered which in turn would make him actually consider others. Unless of course you want to believe his tale of nobody ever caring for him, which is bullshit, he even said himself that people got tired of him. And being around a self loathing egomanical gets tiring pretty fast. So by help I mean the multitude of people who he approached or approached him and tried and were rejected by him and he can't even realize that the only person actively rejecting people is him not the entire world.
That's your test in life then. It's so fucking HARD, and it's going to follow you to your grave.
So, what do u do? Do the normie thing. Provide love for yourself, so that you become hyped and prove those people wrong. People calling you ugly and creep? Fucking prove them wrong. When you are normied up and full of love everything just bounces off of you.
I still have days when I fail to put on the normie emotional armor. But on the days I succeed? Life becomes easy mode.
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