is it wrong to never try to comfort a roommate who is depressed and gets drunk/high on a weekly basis?
He voice acts, draws, produces music, edits videos, and animates for a few Youtube. He's so self-conscious that he never reveals his face to anyone he talks to online. He doesn't even use his real voice when he has to talk to Skype or talk on voicechat in a game. He never goes out with friends or has friends over . He spends a lot of his free time just working on commissions or making content . He says he's too socially retarded for meaningful social interaction with others so his only interaction with others is through his skillset.
He constantly looks stressed. He's very self-loathing and occasionally refuses to go out with me when I offer to invite him to eat out with my boyfriend or my friends. Sometimes when he leaves his bedroom door open, he just sits at his computer chair just slouched and looking into nothing with a sad look on his face.
I'm a girl. If you ever talked to him, you'll see that he's not just shy. He doesn't know how to talk properly. He has trouble understanding context or picking up on sarcasm. If you're indirect with him, he won't pick up on what you're implicating.
>refuses to go out with me when I offer to invite him to eat out with my boyfriend
>I offer to invite him to eat out with my boyfriend
>with my boyfriend
There's the problem.
He doesn't want to spend time with you because being single and hanging out with couples is torture, both because what's interesting to couples is retarded to singles and because it triggers biological impulses of envy and self-loathing.
Different worlds that can't collide.
Also it's very possible that he wants to fuck you and it's killing him inside.
I'd look for different living arrangements.
I don't think he has a sex life, but I know he's not a virgin because he mentioned having a previous girlfriend.
There is no issue with opposite gender living together as long as both are mature and generally good roommates.
I really don't think he likes me because I don't pick up any vibes from him. I'm a robot too and can tell when someone is just being shy or envious around someone they like. I been with my boyfriend long enough for us to just act like friends in public. We don't do stupid couple stuff like acting like idiots in public. We don't make out or get all touchy in public. Same goes for when roommate is around.
People with depression are usually giant assholes.
He would probably snap at you for "not understanding muh pain" or whatever.
Just let him figure it out for himself.
That's what you do with people with mental illnesses. Not coddle them like our touchy feely society tells us to.
>I really don't think he likes me because I don't pick up any vibes from him.
Consider this: he has a reason for not spending time with you and your boyfriend. If it were enjoyable, he'd do it. Why isn't it enjoyable?
Make very sure you're not deceiving yourself. Women have a strong tendency to ignore signs of suppressed interest because they seem to like cross-sex platonic friendships a lot more than guys.
It's almost a cliche for girls to be confronted by an angry sexual outburst from a male "platonic" friend seemingly out of nowhere because he was keeping his feelings under wraps and eventually couldn't stand being cucked.
>There is no issue with opposite gender living together as long as both are mature and generally good roommates.
If you were mature you wouldn't be living with a man you weren't related/married to
>I'm a robot too
I have never even had a friend you cunt. You are a fucking normie
what I mean is, he doesn't try hard to get my approval like other shy guys. A shy person will indirectly try to get praise or approval from the person they like. He doesn't try to impress me or show any jealousy when he catches me being intimate with my boyfriend.
I don't think that it's the problem with me or my boyfriend. He says he doesn't like socialization because he's bad at it. If he knew how to talk, he probably wouldn't mind. My boyfriend and I are never mean to him.
Actually reading through the thread I retract my statement. He doesn't try BECAUSE you have a bf probably.
But what I do know is you're not a robot, fuck right off. Anyone who spouts "my gf/bf" does NOT belong here.
Contrary to believe, people who are down don't want someone to "drag" them with or people who constantly get out of their way to "help" them.
If you want to help, just look up some councelers/psychiatrist number and pin them on the fridge, if he asks tell him that you need to see one due to lots of stress and general bad thoughts and decided to put them where you'd remember them, just in case.
Buy magazines who have "good" content on depression/social anxiety and offer worthwhile inside and advice, read them through to educate yourself and then put them on the living-room table or near the shiter.
The idea is to leave pointers but not push. He has to be confronted with possible reasons for his situation, but not constantly shoved into it with a helping "careing" hand. It also usually works way better when the people in question think they came up with it on their own. Otherwise they'll probably not going to take full advantage of it anyway.
Also, I doubt it's about you. I've lived in a mixed WG (no idea what the english term is) for years and if anything, it only made me despise the girls I lived with, since they all were fucking selfcentered cunts who wouldn't clean the kitchen after they cooked their thirdrate crap or because they would steal my prepared my food and I'd had to cook after gym.
I still would cut their tiers today If I'd see them.
I made my oldschool father seek out theraby for burn-out that way, after he refussed to go for about 3 years of makeing us all misserable "since we constantly said something was wrong with him". He literally told me once that "if he hadn't read all those magazines and helped himself, we'd probably had pushed him to suicide" Was thanks enough to me.
Keep it frosty, anon aka. "femanon"
Ah and please do get off my board, you have to purpose here