>>25723792 autism, social anxiety and stuff like that. it has gotten really bad for me, so bad i cant even leave my house anymore or do phone calls. thank god my mom is willing to help me now or else i would probably kill myself
>>25723792 For me, I have all these insecurities I don't want to let out, so that makes me self focused and paranoid which makes it very difficult to relax and focus on what the other person is saying. I'm very scared of people and usually just want to get away from them. I don't want to socialize or talk to them because I know I am not good at it. I have negative expectations. Also I don't want to bother them or annoy them with my presence do that inhibits me a lot.
>>25724231 i have almost the same problems. i am in a stage where its physically hurting or getting uncomfortable when im around strangers like in classroom or stuff like that, especially with people i know i have to see again. and when you have to go through this everyday you get really tired
All you have to do is literally start talking. I went up to a girl on the beach and asked her if she had weed. 'No' she said. Then I said David Bowie's dead. And we talked about that, then we went back to my house and we didn't have sex because she's got a family and stuff but I fingered her.
>>25723792 i literally do not know, its like parts of my brain just completely shut down and then hours/days/months after the conversation ends i'll have randomly though up a better response that i should have said.
ya, you faggots will say this shit but then it turns out you actually have a job and have had a gf and you're nothing but a lying failed normie who thinks being a shy cunt is the same as having social anxiety.
>>25725031 according to that diagram the psyche has for many situations the reaction to streanthen a particular belief. so the more you get into these situtions the stronger the belief will be. Believe it! Now if only the anon could replace negative represetentation of self with something more awesome.
>>25724082 if it was lunch break at our job (I don't have a job so I don't know) and I had to strike up a conversation with you I could only come up with something like "sup bro" or "let us discuss the finer details of scrubbing toilets" or something, I have no idea what to say
due to my experiences with normies I fully expect them to treat me like a weirdo and try to get rid of me, any attempt to express that I am a human being like them and to give me a chance to learn how to socialize even if I was a little annoying at first won't shake them out of it, they will continue to make excuse to leave then giggle with their friends as they walk off, this is assuming they don't outright verbally abuse me
>>25725169 >Now if only the anon could replace negative represetentation of self with something more awesome. You actually can, but the first step is acknowledging that you have an illness and that the perception that everyone is thinking you're autistic is false, mainly because most people in social interactions don't give a fuck about you and will forget you as soon as you walk out. I.e. the key is removing the "Focus on self" part in that diagram.
us robots don't have normal hobbies or habits that most people do. we don't have as many common experiences with others as you do. normies can relate to other normies easier because they have more common ground to base the relationship on.
theres a reason robots only really associate with robots here. we've got a common background of lack of social competence.
>>25724082 >someone jokes around with you >remain silent because you don't know how to respond >never make eye contact or say hi to people >just walk quickly with your head so you don't have to interact with them
In my experience trying to do your little routine gives the following result:
> meet someone > start talking > if you share a common interest or like the other person invite them to things > they say "sure thing, we should do that sometime" > when the time comes they make an excuse and bail > invite them to something else > "sure bro sounds good" > they can't make it
eventually it just becomes obvious they are not interested and you give up.
>>25725031 How can it be that I don't think the "I'm boring/people will laught at me stuff", and the only negative thought I have is that I know I'll get the physical symptoms? I don't get how this is possible. I rarely talk to people, so I have no practice, but that's it. No low self esteem and "people won't like me" thoughts.
>at work >Co-workers are social and constantly joking >Never initiate conversations >Make up a lie every time someone asks me a question about myself whenever I'm not prepared. >Prolonged eye contact is impossible ( not unlike involuntarily blinking when a sharp object is near your eye)
At least when I laugh at their jokes it lets them know I have a sense of humor and I'm not totally damaged.
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