Who here made a successful transition from basement dwelling neckbeard to living independently?
How long do I have to move out of my parents house for before I lose my dependence on them? When will I start being happy and comfortable by myself? Will it take months? YEARS?
I tried for a week renting somewhere and it wasn't enough and was a traumatising experience.
I need a goal I can set: If manage to force myself to move out for a given period of time it will guarantee my transition into an independent adult.
>Are you employed anon?
Yes, self employed.
>Can you cook?
>Can you do basic cleaning?
>What is your relationship with your parents like?
Reasonable, but I need to get away from them.
>I tried for a week renting somewhere and it wasn't enough and was a traumatising experience.
now you need to expand on this, it seems you have the basics down, what exactly were you finding so traumatising?
If you're miserable and insecure while essentially living the life on an extended teenage life, then you'll be far worse off trying the same with an adult life. You need to see a therapist/smoke weed and figure out what's wrong with you psychologically.
>You'll get used to shit like grocery shopping and living alone
But how long will it take? That one experience was bad. If I thought it would take 6 months of pain, I literally could not do it. I'd rather stay in the basement forever than go through that (or at least try other things to increase my confidence but which don't involve living independently).
Trying and then failing and moving back home will make me even more depressed. I felt like a failure for months after that one week trial away.
But if I thought I might be OK and feel happier after 2 or 3 weeks I would be more motivated to push through the pain and try again.
>then you'll be far worse off trying the same with an adult life
I think it's my lack of an adult life that makes me miserable. Or rather the lack of confidence. I might gain confidence by pushing through the pain, if I knew it would end at some point.
just some kind of primal fear of people? It dulls with hours spent in public, leaving the house is always the worst.
well, I can do it. But I guess I'd have to do it several times a week to become used to it. Parents don't even go shopping that often. Part of the problem is I live in a rural area so it's very hard to get practise unless I move completely.
>I feel you on the loneliness anon, i live in a tiny studio of my own and it gets to me sometimes.
I meant to do work on that week away, but I was so miserable I just spent the time watching fucking daytime TV. Something I never do.
If it was hard for you, and you took the plunge, how about actually answering my question?
>How long do I have to move out of my parents house for before I lose my dependence on them? When will I start being happy and comfortable by myself? Will it take months? YEARS?