>meet girl online
>on a website for book recommendations
>we get on well
>she lives fairly close to me
>she actually asks me out
>decide to google her as extensively as possible, like a fucking autist
>she's on fucking Fetlife
>she's a fucking sexual deviant
For a moment there, I thought I'd made it.
>Oh man, I sure can't wait to eat this delicious sandwich!
>Wait, what's this?
>The delicious filling has been removed and replaced with rotting feces!
>Oh well, at least there's still bread!
I'm going to go out with her.
If she goes on more than three dates with me, tries to kiss me or otherwise escalate our relationship without telling me she is a sexual deviant, I will yell at her.
>be kissless virgin sperglord who waits for a qt virgin gf to be handed to him
>find a qt who looks like she might be a virgin
>find out she is not a virgin
OP, you should just start sucking cocks, since I don't know how much more gay you can be.
>hurr ur virginuhtee
I have specific desires when it comes to a relationship.
To me, there's no difference between fucking a roastie degenerate and masturbating.
Fucking somebody isn't important to me.
I'm sure I will soon.
No, not the first thing.
But we have been speaking for quite some time, relationships being the topic some of the time.
I told her what I wanted (the very opposite of a deviant slut), yet she still asked me out, with obvious romantic intentions, without ever telling me about her previous behaviour.
I don't have a problem with BDSM, I have a problem with her being part of the "scene", and taking part in it with multiple people.
I just feel that if a guy tells you he does not like the prevalence of casual sex in modern society, does not like how women send nude photos of themselves and thinks sexual intimacy is something that should be between two loving partners, you shouldn't ask him out if there are pictures of you tied up naked on the internet captioned "It was so nice to meet you, had a lot of fun".
This is why you are alone.
You think people having kinks is the worst thing that could happen? Have you imagined the opposite? Not having _no_ kinks - but being totally devoid of imagination.
You deserve to be as lonely as you are.
God you people are such snivelling fucking pussies for not being able to just accept some fucking normal human variation. So the fuck what there's something weird about her. You're on r9k; you're probably a complete fucking lower with plenty weird about you.
>flaws or will have things about them you dislike
>meeting random people for casual perverted sex is just a small flaw that can be overlooked
I have no problem with women, or with them masturbating.
I don't know why you think I do.
I don't know how to explain it to you man.
In Buddhism there is a metaphor of "hungry ghosts" that live among normal people but are forced to eat degrading substances to survive.
It's like that. BDSM isn't destructive like normal casual sex is because we eat the resulting destructivity.
>le cockroaches face
Not even. Manbabies here are so mentally underdeveloped, their mental complexity is easier to dissect than a Skype spambot.
As for what I'm talking about, both sitting on fetlife sharing your fetish with someone for the sole purpose of indulgence is the same thing as masturbating to porn for the sake of indulgence. The only difference is that you don't have anyone to do it with.
It just boils down to the usual "I'm a failure at life and anyone who doesn't have the exact same shittiness as myself, I will not accept into my life". It seems that the only reason you even want a girlfriend is to validate your own pathetic existence, by specifically finding someone as failing as yourself in order for it to seem normal and acceptable.
Yeah it absolutely is something that can be overlooked.
Being transgender is something that might be a big deal for people
Having been imprisoned for a serious crime might be a big deal for people
Fundamentalist religious view might be a big deal for people
^^ these are some random examples of things that may legitimately alter the way you should view a person (for better or worse)
Someone enjoying casual sex when they are not in a relationship is not one of those things.
You dumbasses itt.
It's one thing to have fetishes, but quite another to actually go on fetlife websites for hooking up with people. There's a world of difference.
not wanting some BDSM girl is hardly a novel thing
You said he's being presumptuous about how she was acting towards him, how can he mistake politness and shyness as anything other than politeness and shyness? If you're assuming she's a slutty bitch in the first place, theres no way you can mix the two in the first place.
What is it with all the whiteknights and cucks itt?
You fucking niggers, having a fetish is not the same as going out of your way to meet people with the same fetish and fucking them.
The girl is a filthy degenerate, AND a liar.
As usual, theres a passive aggressive sjw who tries to be a special snowflake in a shitheap because they simply can't stand being the same as everyone else, so refuse to hang out on tumblr and reddit... where everyone agrees with them, thereby not making them feel so special.
>Implying sexual fetishism is a flaw
Seriously, i can go on dating sites and get 92% on matches but sex is always the lowest category (like 60%) because its always gentle missionary position bullshit.
>tfw no pervert waifu
>how can he mistake politness and shyness as anything other than politeness and shyness?
It wasn't just the politeness and shyness, I am well aware, now even more so, that polite and shy girls can also be depraved sluts, it was that I explained very specifically what my criteria for a girlfriend are, which included not having casual sex.
She then said we should date, and asked me out, quite soon after I told her this.
I think it is completely fair for me to assume that her saying this means she feels she matches the criteria I have stated.
>Still unironically being a virgin on /r9k/
>"I will be literally ANYONE's boyfriend!"
>criteria for a girlfriend
My gf is a "good girl", nice and polite. She's also constantly horny and kinky in bed. I just can't figure out why all these turbovirgins want a girl who doesn't like sex and will only do it in missionary, lights off, for procreation purposes.
>not having casual sex
I am a complete degenerate, a kinky muthafucka, who enjoys alot of festishes and yet i have never had casual sex or sex outside a committed relationship. The two, fetishes and promiscuity, are not synonymous.
>>"I will be literally ANYONE's boyfriend!"
I've never said that.
I've always been selective about the type of woman I would date.
>I just can't figure out why all these turbovirgins want a girl who doesn't like sex and will only do it in missionary, lights off, for procreation purposes.
I don't care that she has fetishes.
I don't care that she wants to do weird kinky shit.
I care that she implied her agreeing with me about how sex should be between a loving couple in a committed relationship, despite obviously not believing that.
>writing memes on the internet is the same as casual sex
Do normies really see sex as this insignificant of a thing?
This is why promiscuity is a red flag for me, I care a lot about sex and value it as an expression of love and bonding.
I don't want to be with somebody who thinks of it as being on the same level as posting on the internet.
>If I was I wouldn't be on a columbian frog posting website
Normies still think they will be happy by being the 10th+ man to put there dick in a female, marry her while she cucks him and steals his money. Anyone who buys an engagement ring worth one month let alone three must have a cuck fetish.
Thank you, I'm glad somebody agrees.
The part that annoys me the most is that if I had not googled her, I would have never found this out.
If we'd continued to date, we'd have sex at some point, and it would have meant the world to me, thinking I am sharing this moment with a girl who thinks it is as significant as I do, when in reality, this was something she just did with random strangers.
Why are you such pussies? Men are meant to have casual sex. A lot of casual sex. And the more casual sex you have, the more desirable you become. This is your sole gift as a man. So get out there and have casual sex!
If she's a slut
Treat her like a slut and fuck her once then disappear. Don't fall in love.
Just get what you want then leave
If you're not into that thing I support your convictions. OP doesn't want a slut and this girl is clearly a slut who's hiding her true self. She can go fuck herself.
Also those defending BDSM, women actively into the scene who have fetlifes are always always fucked up in some way. You shouldn't go near them for a relationship. Fuck you fat bdsm idiots.
I hate the scene and people in the "scene" they're degenerate idiots or fatasses who make their sexuality into an entire identity
Oh anon, it will be significant but it will be significant because it represents a high point in your relationship and the removal of emotional barriers between you two, not because of some antiquated notion of the sanctity of sex.
That may be true but it wouldn't represent that to the woman in OPs case because the women is already fucking cusual guys. And since it wouldn't represent that to them both he sees it as fruitless.
I don't care about getting laid.
I don't intend to have sex with her at all.
What I am looking for is a stable, loving, committed relationship with somebody who shares similar values to me, and I'm not going to find that with her either way.
>why, polite, nerdy girl
>photos of casual sex with strangers on fetlife
It's like poetry.
Robots, please remember that ALL girls are like this. They like it. They are never what they seem, and they have lots of sex all the time.
Go or it, If she's too deviant to your liking ditch her, have in mind that you don't want anything serious with her and It should be good.
If you want a serious relationship ditch her, you really want to spend your time with a girl that will cuck you with stranger on the internet?
>all this virgin shaming
Good goy enslave yourself to the golden Virgina and give women all your money .
sexual deviancy and promiscuity go fist in glove in ass. It doesn't make her a bad person, just a bad bet for a stable, faithful LTR, which it seems is what OP is looking for.
If a woman wants to be a deviant slut, fine.
But why are you shaming OP simply for not wanting her because of it?
You shame and meme him for (supposedly) doing to her exactly what you're doing to him.
>le don't do that face
Feel free to make an articulate argument any time, guys.
It's fine to have a dissenting opinion, but god damn don't just spew memes. Otherwise you're basically telling everyone you're wrong.
If you think she's otherwise cool, just bring it up before you go out. Maybe those pictures are old and she regrets that shit. Who knows? I feel ya not wanting to date here. I used to be the same way about that. I've loosened up some, though, but I still can't bring myself to date a girl into drugs and shit. Do what ya gotta do, man, but give her a chance to explain and yourself a chance to get over it.
He's just got different values, bro. That doesn't make him a sperglord. Going on /r9k/ does, sure, but not that. It's along the lines of a christian wanting to date a christian, or a liberal wanting to date a liberal.
Sure thing bud.
In our day and age, for close to 100 years now, women have had equal rights both socially and legally. Today, the only group of people in the world who still treat women below men are extreme Muslims. If you have a mindset that wishes to restrict women back to the stone age in terms of rights, and regarding what's socially acceptable or not, is reminiscent of exactly that (Islam), and therefore people with such mindsets should definitely move to the middle east to avoid deteriorating our current, civilized society.
Now I'd tell you construct any kind of argument yourself, but you won't do that. Instead, you will say something akin to "no u" or just resort to ad hominem, because you don't know any better.
Saying that you don't want a promiscuous woman for a LTR is not tantamount to "restricting women back to the stone age in terms of rights" and don't pretend otherwise for a single fuckin second, to say nothing of the fact that neither sex has had rights for the vast majority of human history.
Take this strawmanning, ad hominem, faux alpha posturing bullshit somewhere else kid.
Men subconsciously judge womens sluttiness for eminently practical reasons. Being a slut doesn't make her a bad person. No moral equation required. Slut is, in fact, a morally neutral term in the context of the sexual market, where a slutty girl is viewed, justifiably and desirably, as an easy lay who will go all the way right away, and undesirably as a girlfriend or wife prospect in whom to invest resources. It is of critical importance that men get this part of choosing girls for long term investment and wife and mother potential down to a science.
Sluts are simply a poor investment strategy for men seeking something more than a fling. This goes doubly for relationships codified by the state.
She was on Fetlife ffs. What the fuck do you think the site's for?
>I don't care about getting laid.
>I don't intend to have sex with her at all.
You are a supreme faggot. Don't date people just because you want a buddy that will be your personal echo chamber of autism.
>find a treasure chest full of gold
>"omg there's a diamond in here, everythings ruined!"
Nigga quit complaining, it just means you're down for fun sex
Congrats you found a potential fuckbuddy
Why not enjoy her while it lasts?? You're not one of those insecure virgins that have to have sex with another virgin right? Normies fuck other normies who've had odd kinks and fetishes all the time, they just don't be cucks and settle down with them.
It's not like you were planning on doing that right? You wouldn't be that fucking desperate right?
filler text so on so forth etc
[current year intensifies]
>Saying that you don't want a promiscuous woman for a LTR is not tantamount to "restricting women back to the stone age in terms of rights" and don't pretend otherwise for a single fuckin second, to say nothing of the fact that neither sex has had rights for the vast majority of human history.
But that's not what was implied at all. What was implied was that OP did not want a non-virgin girlfriend, yet somehow never made it an issue that men should be virgin in order to participate in a "respectable relationship".
>Take this strawmanning, ad hominem, faux alpha posturing bullshit somewhere else kid.
Hey look, the "I don't have a real argument so I'll try to claim you're using fallacies" retort. I'll just ignore this.
>Men subconsciously judge womens slutti
Stopped reading there. None of it was subconscious. The OP very accurately proves this. OP is perfectly aware of his immaturity (well, not the fact it's immature, but he's aware of his conscious decision that he does not want a "slut" to date).
>Sluts are simply a poor investment strategy for men seeking something more than a fling. This goes doubly for relationships codified by the state.
Let's be honest. OP would likely just try to pump and dump the poor girl anyway, or use her as a "practice girlfriend". He's definitely not searching for a serious relationship.
>how could I ever forget about meme posting
You can't, because you're the one doing it; CURRENT YEAR is literally a meme and a logical fallacy.
How fucking autistic are you? This thread belongs on r9k. Having fetishes isnt degenerate. Making them define you is degenerate. But for some reason you want her to define herself by her fetishes otherwise you'll drop her?
Who else would move to Afghanistan to get a pure wife who will worship you because you would never beat her?
>the whiteknight beta cuck shitposter that constantly whines about how /r9k/ is full of awful men
>who has literally made multiple fembot threads and trip attention threads
>trying to accuse anyone of being a redditor
Saying trip users are redditors is about as logical as me claiming you're a furry simply because most people don't release any personal information on Furaffinity, and therefore stay Anonymous.
Tell me more about wanting to be mounted by a dog, cretin.
you're the kinda faggot that read about 4chin on reddit about how we're all terrible people and pretty much sociopaths and then came here to check it out aren't you?
Jesus, fuck off you gargantuan newshit
>can't even actually read my post and respond to it
If you're not gonna put any effort in then I'm not either.
Observe the tripfag in it's natural habitat resorting to illogical ad hominems when confronted. In an effort to project some sense of worth he must not, under any circumstances, appear weak. The tripfag must not appear weak but more importantly he must not appear weak to himself because he requires the validation of countless (you)s and a shit internet persona on an anonymous image board. Tripfags truly are natures weakest link.
Well hey, man. Arguing without really trying to understand the other person's point of view and being aware of this pretty much is trolling. Not that there's anything wrong on 4chan. Just have fun.
The tripfag shows astounding defense mechanisms. Almost immediately does he fire back the quintessential "no u!" in a pitiful attempt at self defense. We can only hope nature corrects this tragic misstep in evolution.
Trolling implies malicious intent. I have none. I also understand what anyone says perfectly fine.
I said the "no" part, but not the "you" part. That would imply I claimed he didn't read my post and put no effort into posting, which I didn't. How are you capable of messing up the understanding of one of the most simple, bad comebacks?
I mean, on one hand, you said she's why and shit like that. *shrug* so you can pray that she's why and quiet like your anime waifu while forming her into your own degenerate sex slave.
However, from my personal experience, >>25560548, everyone that I've met or seen associated with fetlife have had major fucking mental issues. They're fucking degenerates, selfish, don't take others into account. The dudes are vaping on others at restaurants, I had one guy who just wanted to be Bros but kept hitting me up to come over and show off his slave gf, and kept hitting me up long after I stopped responding, he was obsessed. I knew another girl who kept sleeping around on her bf after he expressed her desire to not be so active in the community (ie not participating in orgies and fucking around with others, which she did all the time). And that was not the only instance I saw that happen.
They wanna pretend like they're not degenerates or selfish or fucked in the head, but I have not seen anything contrary to that. Maybe my community is very small and not very diverse, but...
And also, most of them are kinda ugly, at least in my community. I didn't really see any girls that I was like "oh yea, I'd fuck her". Wait, the was one, and her eyes were wide fucking open like she was on crack and she didn't share the same interests. So.
Proceed with caution.
Idk man. I went from being very kink friendly and open minded and accepting to being very wary of anyone associated with fetlife. Be aware. Beware.
Once again the tripfag attempts to preserve his internet persona in the hopes that the congregation of anonymous shitposts actually gives a fuck about who he is. Hopefully this (you) will provide him with the internet validation he craves.
And we see here another tripfag coming into the pasture to craze. Very long winded, this one is. In an attempt to show his mental superiority he must make his posts long and pretentious.
I namefagged in a wp thread and it stuck here. Wouldn'ta kept it if I caught it. But also,
kill yourself, nigger. Concise enough for you?
OP, maybe she is done with that part of her life and wants to have a normal monogamous relationship now.
Sure she probably won't do kinky shit with you, but that's because shes not interested in it anymore. That's all in the past.
It's not fair to judge her for who she was, just who she is.
Also observe in this creature, a creature who masquerades as an Anonymous but often posts with a trip, a different defense mechanism. The infamous "kill yourself, [generic insulting name]" This is a very obvious and clever adaptation of the 'no u!" defense where the tripfag projections his inner insecurities to people on an anonymous image board as if anyone would care. Truly they have fantastic coping skills.
Yea right. They never let Ave that shit behind. OPs gonna get cucked, either by a bull or she won't love him or she'll resent him. Or not sleep with him.
Or some shit.
>just forgive and forget, bro
You're gonna regret it, I've seen it time and time again man. Being single isn't that bad, trust. Lol. Th en just kill yourself. In a few years when it becomes unbearable.