What are /r9k/'s thoughts on this? Is he right?
Hurr durr, it s your fault that your ability to pick social cues is minimal. It has nothing to do with that part of your brain that just happens not to function. People use just 10% of their brains anyway, I ve seem them movies, so I know my science!
Only two things in life are certain.
Robots and normies.
>implying you can actually change being autistic
pham, r9k DOES NOT WANT TO FIX THEMSELVES
do you know how many Chad advice threads I've seen in the 4 years I've been here? 100's
Why haven' they worked? because r9k doesn't want to change. Stop trying
well they make it harder, but not impossible.
plus there are meds and therapy to help.
dude I take ( mild) antidepression meds everyday and still am normie as fuck.quit the fucking excuses
Normies take antidepressants. It s normal. By the way, "mild" antidepressants means literally sugar pills. When you take antipsychotics, come back to this board. Until then, fuck off you fakin normie.
all I see are excuses and blaming others.it doesn't mather who I am or what I say.
you still know you could change or atleast imrpove your life a little.deep in your heart you know it.but you don't want to
Looks matter and personality too. It depends a lot on the person and what they are looking for.
Eitherway it's fair to assume that physically atractive people can be emotionally atractive too. Ugly people only has their personality going for them so they are at a great disadvantage yes or yes.
No clue why you are here in the first place.
How can you be yourself when you don't even know what you're supposed to bee?
The only thing this guy is good for is making goofy faces.
>mfw the surfer model dude who is the actual bf of the girl in OPs pic made a hedonistic self-promotional lifestyle video (featuring mostly her)
They always come so close to just being honest but never do
>put in the time...
>....to be confident
Nigga fuck you. Just come out and say "put in the time to become attractive". He's half right in that, really, anyone can become Chad. Put in enough effort and you can become ripped and rich, it's not impossible, just hard. Even if you have a fucked up face, women will be all over you the second you pull out your wallet, show off your abs, and act a little douchey. Why does nobody want to admit attractive people are attractive because they are attractive? Chad doesn't get girls because confidence, he gets girls because they see him as "better" because of his muscles/money/status. He's right in that people just blame Chad instead of hitting the gym, working on their bank, etc. to BECOME Chad, but he's full of shit in saying it's just hurr confidence. I don't care if r9k goes full "normie get out" but I lived through this shit. All my life I was told I was goofy and awkward, suddenly though when I started exercising and got a less shit job and now have some money, girls find all the shit they used to hate about me attractive. For example I bumped into a girl who I went out with on one date in high school, she stopped talking to me the following day because (in her friends words) I was too awkward. Bump into her and suddenly she's giving me her number and saying we should hang out and catch up. My personality didn't change one fucking bit. I still have shit confidence and still loathe myself yet girls like me. Why? Because I have money, looks, and some degree of normal status now. Admit this shit is looks/status normies, just fucking admit it.
>hurr but the fat guy got her number
And probably then never called him or texted him. Or friendzoned him.
>tfw you literally can't even imagine living a life like this.
Seriously. This is what people like the guy in OP video don't get. I can more realistically imagine myself living the life of Mario or something before I could even imagine a single day in that life. Fiction doesn't have shit on how unimaginable that lifestyle is.
there are no "kinds" of women. all women iz teh saem. just pick the one that pleases your eye the most.
rEdit: the moment you expose a woman to western degeneracy is the moment you lose a faithful companion.
It's nature people. Good looks are the first sign you carry good genes. Why do these people not realize there is a natural reason people have a prejudiced towards unattractive people? Nature makes us use looks as a shortcut, even if you pretend it doesn't. Evolution is great and everything, but it doesn't do away with something so embedded in who we are as a species.
It's also potentially why people prefer lighter skin, even in dark skinned cultures. Lighter skin lets you more easily decide if someone is carrying a deadly disease or not.
The thing that pisses me off about this video isn't the fact that the information is wrong, it's the fact that this advice only applies to men.
Women don't have to "look inwards" because men do all the work for them relationship-wise. They don't have to mature in any way or gain confidence in themselves because the hard part of getting a relationship isn't there for them.
And after all this, there is nothing anyone can do about it.
Nigger pls go nobody wants a nigress whites and asians only
ok but who are you to ask women to change to be more masculine? are they all trying to fuck you? if the advice is for men that's because men aren't women. if you're a dude who does fine getting girls, then you don't need advice. get a grip dude.
That's because there isn't a reason for women to do so. Replace humans with any other animal and it's more simplified. All the female has to do is be able to carry offspring, that's it. The man has to be able to fend off attackers, provide, etc.
>ok but who are you to ask women to change to be more masculine?
What does this even mean? I never implied that women HAVE to be more masculine. I stated that women don't have to follow this advice because it will never apply to them.
If you're a dude who does fine getting girls, you still have to go through the experience of actually getting women instead of them coming to you.
>That's because there isn't a reason for women to do so
>it will never apply to them
and it shouldn't. i don't understand your point. you implied earlier you want women to be more like men but that it will never happen. but there are plenty of masculine women.
He is right, but he isn't saying anything that I don't already know.
I know that the reason I'm lonely and depressed is because of me, but I think it's far more fun to be in my own little shithole wallowing in my self-pity while fantasizing about my delusions of a better life than it is to go out and actually try to achieve dreams. Reality will simply never live up to your vision of a dream, so in the end, why even try? I've come to a realization that I'm far more content in thinking that I want something, but never actually getting it, than I am in going out and doing it.
The other day I almost talked to a girl. I was sure it'd work. Like 100% sure. I've never felt so confident. But I thought "is this really what I want".
The ansser was no. I didnt want to talk to a bitch. I wanted to get home and shitpost and complain. This is the kind of life style we chose.
>Reality will simply never live up to your vision of a dream
I understand this feel, it's the source of all my self-created problems. It's not just that reality is not gonna live up to it, but the road towards these dreams, no matter how tough, is not a guarantee that you'll get there. Pussy is one thing, but a worthwhile relationship and all the other worthwhile bullshit? A lot of it is luck. Work just makes you need a little less luck, but all in all, luck is always a component.
Social skills are just that, SKILLS. They can be learned and taught. Some will have a better grasp on it than others, and some will struggle to learn them.
But at the end of the day they can be learned.
Another generic comment of someone not understanding that "just b urself" is told a 1000x times because people like you w/ social anxiety can't wrap your heads around that.
Most anxiety is about control, "just b urself" is coming to the realization that not everybody is going to like you and that's okay. You are going to get rejected and it's gonna suck but that shouldn't stop you from going for your goals.
Try being an average or below average looking woman with the types of social issues that lead you to r9k. Women do have to look inwards, do you seriously think the only thing guys care about is a body?? For hookups, a lot of them do, for relationships, every man who isn't desperate wants a girl with a mature outlook on life (and stunning good looks of course, which also take effort to maintain).
>Following Chad's advice
>Not being yourself as staying true to your principles
>not autonomiously unlocking the secrets of your life by your safe
>that indian guy and vietnamese guy
The indian is 5'7.
A shitskin manlet has a better life than you, I wonder whose opinion I should consider more... I think I'll take at least some of his advice.
Tell me your story, anon.
But.... Why? And why did millions of people watch this video?
Honestly it's pretty awkward and I don't think portrays him or his girl or anyone in a particularly good light..........
he's not wrong but he's missing the key point: girls will ALWAYS want a cute guy to be romantic with. You can approach a girl and make her your girlfriend sometimes even if she's not physically attracted to you, but this means you have to work harder than is necessary. Girls preselect by the face. Never forget this. That's why you should always approach the girls who are making heavy eye contact with you.
>take the time to learn to be confident
>learn to be confident
What a stupid cuck.
Social skills can be taught, successful social interactions build confidence. That is why losing your virginity for a guy is such a societal milestone. You've completely your biological imperative of "convincing" a female to mate with you.
Confidence is not something that can be learned like a set of rules; confidence is a state of mind. Positive thinking, practice, training, knowledge and talking to other people are all useful ways to help improve or boost your confidence levels.
Your low confidence isn't gonna change from sitting around doing absolutely nothing.
Girls don't fuck you because you're obviously insecure about it
Not because of your height
You can still fuck a bitch that says
>hurr no 5'1 guys
If you're confident enough
Literally, and i sincerely mean LITERALLY talk to someone. Strike up a conversation, even if it dies in the middle or they walk away.
See that qt, go say hi and see where it goes. I don't give a shit if all you say is "hey" at first and then you run away flailing your arms like zoidberg, just do it.
I feel like this would make my social anxiety even worse afterwards. I cringe even thinking about the awkward situation.
Even if my voice slightly cracks at one word I usually scream into a pillow as soon as I come home. Talking to a random person and fucking up would destroy me.
Im 100% unsure what the literal fuck reddit has to do with what I said. Are you saying because I made a futurama reference that's reddit? Because if so fuck off, you petulant child.
Then what is confidence, smartass?
Everyone starts somewhere. The only way to deal with social anxiety yourself is immersion therapy. If no one talked to random people because they were scared you wouldn't be born.
Of course he is.
But it's nothing new, really. I think most of us know that in the end we're the ones to be blamed for our misery. We haven't tried hard enough.
Doesn't change a thing, though. It's the fixing part most of us have problem with, not being blind to what's wrong.
yo do realize that to get diagnosed it usually needs to impair your daily life. the second guy speaks properly but clearly has tics.hes more talkative than most aspies so why wouldnt you claim its just a meme
also 50 bucks says he loves vidya
>that lifestyle is more unrealistic then actually living in an anime
10/10 QT gf, the blokes easily a 9/10, rich from daddys money, and literally just drives and travels while fucking his gf every day
They only work if "urself" is confident and desirable. We're at least honest about how fucked up we are.
>see average men in relationships with average women
Go outside once in a while. It'll be good for you.
Your problem is you're probably a 5/10 thinking he deserves nothing less than an 8/10.
Yeah it's cause she's half persian half somali so that may be why you think that.
>the reason you don't get girls is because you lack confidence and don't put effort into making yourself a better person or show that you care about others on a humane level (you're not just nice to people for sex or because they provide an immediate benefit to you, e.g. money/make you look good/they can do favors for you)
>Life is a constant struggle to secure resources
>this faggot exists
FATHER WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?
>That fucking video
Eugenics should be legal
He's right in the idea that most of you guys here are average or better looking but want to fit in with a bunch of helpless retards and keep yourselves down. He's wrong in that you don't have to be attractive. Most "robots' are attractive, they just act like retards on purpose or refuse to change.
I'll never have this, fucking gringos REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
The shitskin didn't seem to address anything about Steps 1 and 2 before he went on various tangents. The comment was about not being unattractive, everyone he showed was attractive (including the obese lad).
no projecting here, bucko. It's just the only reason anyone says that kind of dumb shit about these kinds videos. They enjoy wallowing in their self-pity because it's easier than having to deal with the possibility of failure.
I sat down in an acquaintance's Cadillac a few years back, the sound system was beautiful and for a moment I took it all in, rich people live lives we couldn't possibly dream of.
You guys dont get it?
These people are models. They have to make money somehow right?
I bet they didnt pay a cent for anything in this video. The hotels pay them/or give it for free, as free advertisement.
It's pretty much an advertisement for rich kids.
>implying i like being a a kisless virgin fuck up
>don't put effort into making yourself a better person or show that you care about others on a humane level (you're not just nice to people for sex or because they provide an immediate benefit to you, e.g. money/make you look good/they can do favors for you)
I'm sure that drug dealers are great people, that's why they are chased by women