Has anyone read this book? I'm trying to change my attitude on life and have read a few reviews in praise of it. Group therapy isn't helping much because girls are just talking about how slutty they are and their daddy issues.
That's strange, I just started reading this book today. I'm actually pretty familiar with most of the concepts in it already because I'm a postgraduate performance psychology student with an interest in positive psychology, but I wanted to read this book to get a better understanding of some of these issues. I'm also deeply pessimistic (I think that it's a stable part of my personality rather than a learned cognitive style) and frequently depressed, and I wanted to see if Seligman had any sort of solution for that.
To any skeptics, I know it seems like a bullshit self-help book, but so does pretty much everything in performance psychology. The difference with this book (and a few similar ones) is that they're grounded in decades of rigorous psychological research, rather than just being charismatic preaching from some unqualified hack.
Thanks, but I already know how my mindset contributes to my shortcomings. Does it say how to change your mindset? I just can't seem to change what my first thought, feelings, and reactions are to a situation.
Hate to be this guy, but you've just gotta do it. Your will is your own. Reach out and take what you want, don't let yourself get in the way.
Also, read Aurelius' Meditations and the Dao De Jing
I can't remember if he follows scientific referencing protocol (i.e. APA format, including article title and journal name) but he describes decades of research studies in a decent amount of depth. Make no mistake, this isn't some hack espousing the power of 'positive thinking' or anything like that - this is a clinical and experimental psychologist who has spent his lifetime studying firstly depression, and secondly positive functioning. The framework he uses (cognitive-behavioural) is probably the approach which has had the most success in treating depression, so there is a good amount of evidence behind this book.
If you want to read his studies as they appeared in the journals, they're pretty easy to find. Just go onto Google Scholar and type in Seligman, or go to his webpage and see the list of publications. If you're not at a uni then accessing some of them might be tricky, but you should be able to find a few pdfs you are able to look at.
Positive thinking, change-your-attitude style self-help represents an unhealthy skepticism of human nature and a hostility towards experience and life, the notion that everything is beyond repair, which is the exact of opposite of what you need, I'm guessing. Wilful ignorance is not the answer.
Just get into literature, philosophy, and art. There really is no one book cure except, for many, the Bible.