I was like thinking of writing a Künstlerroman about Hegel in a postmodern tradition focusing on his life leading up to Phenomenology with the climax being the collision of two historical forces in Jena the day he mailed his final manuscript.
>>5904024 get a gf i spent last year getting interesting hobbies, making friends, going to the gym, and eating healthy. i saw a therapist for my social anxiety. i have a well paying job and bought some nice clothes.
>>5904079 i'm here because i like to read, shitpost about murakami/borges/dfw, and i like to keep up with "literary news". also i like to write poetry in the critique threads. i've yet to find a more interesting place to discuss literature than /lit/.
I hate to be the wet blanket, but incontrovertible believe in New Year's resolutions. It's better to just resolve to do something independently of any kind of arbitrary event.
I started running, stopped smoking, quit soda, picked Portuguese back up independent of any arbitrary stimuli. The holidays mean one thing for me: disappointment, it's better to just let them pass by without any notice.
>>5904232 Don't do it anon, trust me, don't do it. I broke up with the love of my life because I wanted to bang sluts and it wasn't worth it. For the first couple of weeks there were no sluts to bang and I felt like an idiot for throwing away a good thing for no reason, and when I did finally start going to parties and banging sluts I was entirely unhappy with the whole ordeal and I just missed my gf beyond imagination. I even thought of her when I was shitfaced and banging these other sluts. You'll regret it, I guarantee that.
mostly stuff that sounds like self-help, they are not really new year resolutions, more like general resolutions >connect more with people, be less of an asshole >write more, maybe finish something or even show it to anyone >read more >get over my narcissism >maybe finally find a girl
>>5904232 All the Chads and Tyrones in a 300 miles radius are laughing their dicks off. Here's what's gonna happen: >you break up with her or cheat and are caught because you're clearly demented >she cries for 3 days and then her girl friends convince her to get out and have fun >she drinks and dances and has fun >she gets picked up by a different Chad every night and fucked in the most degrading possible ways (I'm talking facial abuse tier level), then she gets dumped and hops on the next cock (which, needless to say it, will be 2-3 inches bigger than yours) >this repeats for 5 to 10 years, then she finds a moron like you to marry her busted holes Meanwhile, you'll get maybe 3-4 hook ups with ugly, fat party sluts and a lifetime of regrets for losing the only nice, pretty girl you ever had.
>>5904257 >How could you possibly know what's good for somebody you don't know? I don't know you, but I'm pretty sure putting your balls in a meat grinder would be a bad idea.
Same thing with dumping a great girl only to get some meaningless hook ups with inferior females.
A smart man would cheat without getting caught (it's not difficult: don't fuck girls in the same college or town, don't fuck girls your gf might know even indirectly, don't give the whores your name or your contacts. Done.).
Then she's not perfect for you. I had a girlfriend at a different school all through college (we started dating in high school). Our schools weren't far apart, so I saw her often, and it wasn't like a normal LDR. I never felt like being with other women.
If you want to be fuck around, fuckin' go for it dude. If that sounds better than this girlfriend, it must not be going that well.
Or you're a retard throwing away a good thing for something that you think will be fun.
It's getting exciting now, just got the book back from alpha readers. A family friend is gonna line edit (he's a long-time journalist) and then a mate of his will do a proper edit before I send it off. I always hate telling people I'm writing a book (feels like I'm blowing my own horn) but if I hadn't, I wouldn't have gotten these opportunities.
>>5904428 I wrote a novella recently, I think I'll self publish. It'll be a good practice run to publishing a full novel and it'll look good to a publisher if I do a good job getting my novella out on my own.
Here's a decent resource (some good ideas): http://www.reddit.com/r/selfpublish/comments/2b05rb/my_book_has_almost_5000_downloads_in_a_day_and_a/
My resolution is to read one "Very Short Introduction" book a month. That may not sound like much to you guys that can easily kill a long novel in a week but I'm just getting back into reading books after a while and want to read some non-fiction with a little educational substance.
just the act of telling someone your plans gives you the false impression of having made progress towards your goal. thus you wont be willing to work as hard to accomplish it because it suddenly doesnt seem as far away as it did before.
last year my resolution was to do everything i said i would. made me keep my mouth shut more often lol.
>lit 15 poems/month, 30 in April. Log 24 hours working on one poem. Read another 80 books this year, a larger portion of them being novels; finish Larkin's novels, maybe read some Dickens? Read 10 - 20 plays. Read The Norton Anthologies of British and American literature. Read The Bible, the Divine Comedy, and Paradise Lost. Get more literary friends.
>Personal Walk nearly every day. Build a larger and stronger circle of friends. Explore more of my city. Go to more small concerts, comedy shows, literary events, etc.
>>5905584 lmao if your impetus for self improvement is for the sake of impressing other people you're already doing it wrong.
you think anyone gives a damn about how many books you want to read?
the only time a person cares to hold you accountable for your resolutions or promises is if it has some sort of impact on them.
honestly the only time i could justify telling someone my personal ambitions is if i want their opinnion on a certain thing or if theyre a good friend who i think would push me along (and even then i would keep people kind of in the dark about what i really want)
why do you think new years resolutions are so popular despite them rarely being kept? its therapuetic to tell your friends how good of a person youre gonna be. and if you decide its too hard to keep you can just quit and no one bats an eye.
>>5905635 >lmao if your impetus for self improvement is for the sake of impressing other people you're already doing it wrong.
Who said I am doing anything for them? I'm saying, if you tell someone about your plans, your honor gets damaged if you do not fullfill those plans. Don't start the whole ''lmao living for others hurr durr feggit'' thing, this is simple stuff.
>you think anyone gives a damn about how many books you want to read? This shows how little you actually understand what I said. People remember your determination and commitment to ideals, yes. Do you not care more for the essay you're writing for a teacher you really like? Do you not work a little harder in sports when your family or friends are watching?
>honestly the only time i could justify telling someone my personal ambitions is if i want their opinnion on a certain thing or if theyre a good friend who i think would push me along (and even then i would keep people kind of in the dark about what i really want) Sounds like you have trust issues. I'm not one to go yelling about what I'm doing, God forbid announcing it on social media, but there's nothing wrong with sharing your ambitions with people.
>and if you decide its too hard to keep you can just quit and no one bats an eye. I do. And I've received compliments from other people on actually sticking to what I start, and having a strong will, etc.
>Who said I am doing anything for them? I'm saying, if you tell someone about your plans, your honor gets damaged if you do not fullfill those plans. Don't start the whole ''lmao living for others hurr durr feggit'' thing, this is simple stuff.
lol are you some kind of presocratic greek? your definition of honor is outdated by about 2500 years.
>This shows how little you actually understand what I said. People remember your determination and commitment to ideals, yes. Do you not care more for the essay you're writing for a teacher you really like? Do you not work a little harder in sports when your family or friends are watching?
so basically you have no integrity and want attention rather than personal satisfaction from accomplishing things. cool.
>Sounds like you have trust issues. I'm not one to go yelling about what I'm doing, God forbid announcing it on social media, but there's nothing wrong with sharing your ambitions with people.
theres nothing "wrong" with it, but my objection is based on the psychological tendency i described earlier which works contrary to my plans.
>I do. And I've received compliments from other people on actually sticking to what I start, and having a strong will, etc.
>>5905813 first of all, AA doesn't "work well", it has been shown to be no more effective than no treatment at all. AA was just a small pseudo-christian cult until the government realized it was cheaper to force people to AA than to a real shrink since AA are just random bums that do it for free instead of people with Phds who expect to be compensated...
Second, telling you goals to others is actually a known demotivator. you get "social credit" just for having this goal and so have less incentive to actually achieve it. this seems pretty obvious, but just in case you're a retard here's the idea reduced down to a simple little "ted talk" for you
>>5905902 i was just making a joke because in traditional greek ethics honor and shame are the driving forces of how you conduct your life, but you only have honor if alot of people agree that you do and shame can be grounds to do some pretty neurotic stuff (e.g. in Sophocles' Ajax ajax gets wrecked by athena in addition to being sad about not winning achilles' armor. this is apparently proper grounds to kill himself and leave his wife and child to live in poverty). for an even earlier example just look at achilles in homer.
it wasnt until the 5th century bc that socrates offers the revolutionary alternative of being able to live up to an absolute morality which exists regardless of other peoples opinnions.
of course we want to prove to others that we can do great things, but when i think about it it all seems quite vain.
sorry for being a prick, but i still dont agree with you
i start most of my real goals independent of new years. however, im suprised so many nerdos here actually have 'read more books' on their lists. if anything, i'm actively trying to not read so much as i have a tendency to leverage it extensively as escapism from my own life & thoughts.
my goal is to stop being so 'ideologically' asocial as some justification for being insecure yet insanely self-involved.
on an unrelated note, listening to that overhyped d'angelo album and its srsly lel how overrated this shit is god dayum.
also the captchas now are insanely difficult, fuck you botnet
>>5906106 >my goal is to stop being so 'ideologically' asocial
yeah, you have to give that up if you ever want to do anything, sorry but being social is pretty much the key to everything, unless your plan is to be "discovered" after you die, which is a stupid plan
>>5906133 I don't know any white people that listen to drill tbh. Shit's made in Chicago by intercity hood niggers for other intercity hood niggers and afaik most of them are sincere gangbangers. Dunno how white that is
>>5906141 i saw an interview with the kid who makes beats for chief keef, he was making his beats on his gaming pc using fruity loops and when keef would play a show his mom would load him and his dell into her toyota and drive him to the show...i was like this nig is soft as fuck, drill is pussy shit for whites
>>5906141 as someone who works with a lot of "innercity types" (mainly because i work in the innercity) they listen to a lot of shit that white guys and jews really hate, like 50 cent, jadakiss, fabolous, d-block etc. the only chicago guy i heard them talk about was king liouie, and that was with some skepticism
>>5906148 There are drill producers and rappers beyond chop and keef and I'm assuming his mother was driving before he was old enough to because Keef drives now. He mentions his mom in his music a lot lol family is a big theme. Either way I don't want to argue authenticity of drill rappers on /lit/ of all places, though I'm sure Sosa in particular is much less into the gang banging "hardcore" shit now that he's got money.
>>5906117 having listened to more of it, its okay but inconsistent imo, some parts are nxtlvl tho. by no means AOTY though. its not _that_ 'black', whatever that means.
its better than most p4kcore shit atleast.
>>5906112 yeah ik. i sort of oscillate between being somewhat friendly and social and then getting depressed and misanthropic every year or so, it sucks. ive started exercising and running in hope of bringing some stability into my life.
usually the issue is that i end up feeling an internal dissonance when i go out in society because i 'care' too much about stupid (read: am elitist with) pseduo-intellectual bullshit like book-readan and music-listenan. though ive toned this down extensively over the past year or two, i still cant seem to relate to most people, since i would rather to just talk to people about this sorta shit than just go and 'have fun'. i have a small group of friends that serve this purpose, but they are sorta spread out across my state.
im just incoherently ranting at this point, i dont even know what i want or in what direction i should be heading.
>>5906166 the point is if the kind of "black music" you like is about shooting people, selling drugs, fucking bitches and all around being a republican's caricature of a black guy then you probably won't like D'Angelo's shit and you should go listen to The Weeknd or whatever other closet fag shit is big in the suburbs right now
>>5906175 specifically, i dont actually _talk_ about books or anything that im interested in because if i speak whats on my mind i come across as bookish/weird at best, and snobbish at worst. i can turn this off and just be relatively normal, joking, etc, but it just grinds at me because eventually this leads me to feel insincere / un'real' to an extent, which leads me to dropping out of society entirely.
>>5906180 >music about shooting people, selling drugs, and fucking bitches >is made by black people >caricature of black people by republican white men >IS MADE BY BLACK PEOPLE >black people that shoot people, do drugs, and fuck bitches >is just a caricature of black people
Not him but you sound like a doofus. Obviously not all black people are like this but come on, these people actually do these things. Drill music isn't made by rich white folk to perpetuate their stereotypes and scare white people.
I think it's considered black music because it's polarizing to outsiders. Your average white guy will hear a drill track and say "wow this sounds stupid. Hurr durr, kill people smoke weed fuck bitches, yeah yeah. Typical caricature of blacks." without considering that it's sincere music, just like you've done. If anything you sound like you're too white for it eh
>>5906175 >usually the issue is that i end up feeling an internal dissonance when i go out in society because i 'care' too much about stupid (read: am elitist with) pseduo-intellectual bullshit like book-readan and music-listenan. though ive toned this down extensively over the past year or two, i still cant seem to relate to most people, since i would rather to just talk to people about this sorta shit than just go and 'have fun'. i have a small group of friends that serve this purpose, but they are sorta spread out across my state. If it helps I 100% share that feel.
>>5906201 Don't propose on a holiday. It's tacky and ruins the specialness of the proposal. Choose a day with no prior special meaning. That way when you propose it becomes special and only belongs to the two of you. By the way congrats.
>>5906255 you think? I mean, it's not like we'd marry on valentines, I'd just propose
plus I kinda want to do it early in the year, she's quite christian and has been hinting that she wants to for a while now, honestly I don't want to wait either so I'm just thinking the best time I can before, say, April
>>5906295 That's not really how reading works, or reading well, at least. If you read with a deadline, you start scanning and missing things which is kind of defeating the purpose of reading. I hope you're at least reading fiction.
>>5906295 >got hit by a fork lift at work What the fuck is it with fork lift drivers and being fuck all idiots? My grandfather was hit by a fork lift in his fifties and couldn't work again after that because it caused permanent damage to his hips. The man's 74 years old now and can't stand up without unbearable pain and my grandparents have very little income because he was never able to put his engineering degree to any good use.
>>5906298 Not exactly. I'm 6' 4" but a hungry skeleton and I want to look a bit more in proportion. I'm also horrendously unfit so even if I don't get big I'll be much healthier.
>>5906300 I worded it badly. I bought myself 24 books this year and am hoping to have read them all by next year. I didn't set myself a "two books a month" plan, I just hope to have read them all. If I don't so be it. I'm not going to force myself to read them because it could suck the fun out of it.
>>5906306 The driver fucked up placing something and it was going to fall on the truck. He panicked and reversed without looking. I had almost walked past and the back hit my left ankle and fractured it.
>>5906449 I am painfully aware of how boring I am. I don't want to see my vest friend until I get my shit together because its basically him talking about what he's done for three months whereas I've posted on this board, read books, worked and watched films. I'm happy, but I have nothing of interest to offer in social situations.
>>5906479 i'm so bored of people telling me they lived in thailand, thailand is the most unoriginal fucking place on the planet to live, it's like the most mainstream foreign friendly place in southeast asia, seriously ,if you ever lived in or visited thailand just keep it to your fucking self, it's about as exciting as going on a cruise to the bahamas or some shit
>>5904024 >change my reading habits and finally get some mental peace >stabilize my relationships with parents and gf >start reading only in English >pass nicely TOEFL in April >GPA >= 4.5 >end my bachelor's studies with thesis in topology which'll be accepted as publication in some journal >honestly work over the next few months and put away money for master's studies (I'm fucking tired of it now) >be accepted at Bonn uni (pure mathematics) and get some nice scholarship which'll (together with the money I'm now putting away) allow me to focus only on research and learning things that I enjoy for the next 2 years
>>5905900 I don't really think so. Did you look at my other resolutions? Reading is my job, my career, my life in academia and my main hobby. I generally read around 130 a year anyway, but I want to step up my publishable research next year. So I'll need to read more anyway.
While I was in Afghanistan, I read Ghosts of Empire. It covered all the countries that the British colonized and the legacy they left. Burma stood out to me a lot. Moreover, Indochina history and culture is really interesting.
>>5905993 It is vain till some extent. But a lot of things are objectionable when you think about them from your bedroom, it doesn't change their realness. As much as you reason with yourself, if you're playing football and there is a group of fit girls/family watching, you feel some pressure, it's the same with sharing your goals. If you fail while nobody knows, it doesn't matter. If you don't even try or fail when everyone knows, everyone will know you have failed. The stakes are higher.
This doesn't mean I appreciate the facebook posts on how far a person ran today.
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