So I have been in a relationship with my SO for roughly 10 years. Been devoted to one another. He brings up that he wants to bring a girl into the fold. Normally I would have been into it, but something got to my stomach, a shitty feeling, and I pretty much stood on the stance that I can't abide by it. So, like an asshole, I'm going through his iMessage and find the girl he's talking to. She's some severely depressed schizoid who cuts and all that shit. Through the messages I've learned that they plan to meet up, so their thing, and then make it known and somehow make it okay and work me into it.
Should I just shove this iPhone up his ass/down the toilet, or try to be rational/reasonable?
I'm thinking about it. Our relationship has been great for so long that it's hard to just up and do it. I think he regrets not fucking more girls before we met. Monogamy is monogamy though. I guess the sex is worth more than our relationship ever was.
It fucking kills me.
Nice Fooly Cooly Pic my son. Anyway, you probably should talk to him about it calmly before yelling at him/throwing his phone/ etc. He isn't going to react well probably with that type of reaction. Tell him how you feel honestly, and if he isn't okay with it then you gotta cut him loose. If he can't respect how you feel about this then it just isn't right.
Lustful bisexual hedonists... Nothing new. They always cheat on their wives and have one night stands on Grindr so why do you expect different treatment? Bisexuals will always cheat and betray their significant other, open relationships came into existance to please them as a matter of fact. This is bisexuals are hated. Personally I'd rather hang out with a murderer than a biscum slut.
Even if you manage to convince him to dump her can you truly trust him after this betrayal? You will never ever be able to trust him until you die. If you can live your entire life with someone whom you cannot trust and who will betray you at the first given chance then fine, but I suggest you leave him after first destroying everything he owns.
Also I really feel sorry for you anon. You thought biscum are people and you devoted 10 years of your life to one. Your relationship meant nothing to him, biscum have no feelings other than a continuous urge to pleasure themselves. Let it be known that bisexuals are animals who deserve a special holocaust designed just for them. The gay community needs more bisexual awareness to prevent gay people from your sharing your fate.
Biscum are shallow subhumans. They cannot comperhend any higher feeling like love or devotion. The entire life of a Biscum revolves around fucking everything that moves, which explains why bisexuals were the first to come up with the concept of open relationships. For a Biscum having fun is the only importand aspect of a relationship. The moment he gets bored he will cheat on you, leave you or demand an open relationship. Biscum are not human, they are instinct driven primates.
Going to have to agree with everyone about biscum being biscum. This anon >>5704413 especially makes a good point; how will you ever be able to trust him again?
>they plan to meet up, so their thing, and then make it known and somehow make it okay and work me into it
This is seriously fucked up. It's not a moment of weakness and temptation - it's explicitly premeditated and manipulative.
I know it's easy for us to casually say leave the person you've been with for the past 10 years, but we are coming from a perspective of clarity not clouded by emotion.
>For a Biscum having fun is the only importand aspect of a relationship. The moment he gets bored he will cheat on you, leave you or demand an open relationship.
This has been 100% of my experiences with biscum and open relationships. People with this mentality cannot be in a loving relationship, they care more about busting a nut than they do about the feelings of other people, including their so called loves.