who else here doesn't fit the 'gay' stereotype? nobody can tell I'm gay at all unless I tell them. I'm not attracted to super flamboyant queens nor do I act like one. but I feel so isolated from the gay 'community' because I feel like I'm not like almost any of them.
I used to be annoyed by flamers, but then I grew out of it.
I once had a drag queen freak out at me because he refused to believe I was gay. I ended up proving him wrong by fucking him in the back of my car.
Then maybe you see where problem lies?
Go to your local gay bar and pick out someone you like. Also since you seem to know people who already know you're gay I assume they're more like you anyways. Get with them and not the guys they set you up with
It's not like we walk around with yellow stars on our jackets to identify us all as faggots, OP. We come in all shapes, sizes, colours, personalities and lifestyles. You can't tell with the non-flamers because why would you? We're all just people, the only difference between us and the heterosexuals is that our sexual preferences are for people of the same gender, that is literally all there is to say.
inhibited, dull, colourless void of a man here
is it bad that i really like the stereotypical gay guys?
theyre so confident and happy and nice
id do anything to be like them
i mean just to have that much life and energy in you
they make me feel so defunct
Not true tho, seen plenty of homosexuals and they all seem to have picked some of that lgbtgg culture into their personalities.
I know I'm walking on an eggshells here since most of you would deem this as self loathing or whatever, but masculine like guys are quite a rare breed among gay men.
I guess it depends on what you mean by masculine like, most gay people I meet are not flamers, granted I meet them from online dating sites. But most act like any other guy, not really macho or "acting gay", just natural I guess.
Look up a movie called "Do I Sound Gay" the narrator only developed such speech patterns and ways to act after going to college, coming out, and embracing "gay culture" as he called it, it wasn't his natural way of acting, it was something he picked up from imitating others.
Ultimately it depends on how much people decide to indulge in that culture and hang around and imitate the behavior of those they are told "act gay". There is some pressure to act that way as the anecdote with the drag queen someone else mentioned suggests, but it is not that strong a societal pressure, a lot of people ignore those slights.