i just turned 18 but i won't be able to live on my own until i graduate high school in summer. might not get independence until the autumn season when college starts too. so i was wondering if there are ways to feminise my body or reduce the damage testosterone has done/can do until then? i'm desperate for anything. i'm at my breaking point.
nooooo! don't say that! D: it's not my fault i had to live in a 3rd world country the past half of my life! why is it that now of all times that i can go back to america, i'm already fucked?
so i guess i was fucked from the beginning? i might as well kill myself now if that's the case. why live if you can't live comfortably in your own body? fuck life and everything about it
i'm still in a 3rd world country though. i won't be going to america for a few months. they have no suicide hotlines here. as for psychologists, fuck that. i don't have the time nor money. plus they wouldn't help. i knew a guy who told me they are all awful here
>tfw 20 and pass even tho i just started self-medding sprio
ok :( do you have any tips for me though? i-i mean i think i have a feminine face but idk.. i might just be going crazy because my shoulders are wide as fuck according to my dad and my hands and feet are huge and manly. not to mention my awful and deep voice (that others have said is relatively high to other boys but still). i just don't feel i'll ever pass, even if i start hormones. stuff like shoulder width, height, foot size and all that don't change. not to mention the worst of all, the fact that i'm balding. two people have already commented it. ;-; i'm a fucking freak
hormones won't change your skellington or anything but they will redistribute fat, etc around your body. your voice can also be trained, but if it's too hard you could just get surgery?
also how tall are u? im 5'8
i'm at least 6ft tall for sure.. and i hear surgery isn't that effective unless you train your voice first. but i don't even know where to begin with that. i hate my voice and i know i'll sound like shit no matter what. last week me and this guy were trying to do voices for acting in a class and when i tried doing a girl voice he told me "yeah. don't ever try and do a high pitched voice ever again. you just can't pull it off"
well yeah though that was last year. voices can't change that much over time naturally though right? i recall asking some people in my class if i had a deep voice and i got a response from some girls "yeah but not as deep as the other guys"
well i mean it couldn't have gotten deeper since then. and i do hope you're right about the retraining part.
still sad about my height and general body size, especially with the feet. there are so many cute shoes i want to try but my feet are too massive to find anything in a women's size without ordering online T_T
i'm a little inclined to post a picture of myself to maybe get people to say if i will be able to pass or not with enough effort or hormones. i did it last year and people said i could if i grew my hair out and got on hrt. but that was last year. i feel i've become more masculine since then. :/
>i'm a little inclined to post a picture of myself to maybe get people to say if i will be able to pass or not with enough effort or hormones.
people on this site will probably tear you apart, wouldn't recommend if you're already in a low mood, only people who have business posting pics here are pretty people who have transitioned and are just looking for attention.
oh ok... would it be a little risky or weird if i were to ask a female acquaintance of mine for tips on makeup? maybe hanging out with her and asking to help dress me up? she knows i'm trans and seemed chill about it, but also seemed like she thought i was in a phase so i haven't brought it up much to not annoy her. but i really want to try and do something that would cheer me up. i've been way too fucking depressed lately. i even told her that this entire year has been shitty for me and she told me to tell her if there's any way she can help. she's a rather fashiony person, so i assume she'll be ok with this? i mean, at times she even hangs out on weekends doing makeovers with her friends from what i saw on her facebook...
Nothing. 17-21 is just about the same boat. If you aren't taking at least an AA by 21 abandon all hope of a successful transition.
You might still be screwed over by puberty anyways, but you've got a chance as it is.