I need your advice, /lgbt/. Recently my mother found out that I was bisexual, and got quite upset. She smashed my modem and completely "banished" me from the internet because she believed that the internet was "planting ideas in my mind mind" that I was gay. She did at least promise not to tell my dad, since he would probably destroy my computer. I live in a very Christian household, where homosexuality is seen as the most evil thing ever. I really just want any tips, maybe a way to get my mom to not hate me so much? All of my friends say that I don't act like most gay(bi, whatever) guys do. That's what urks me the most about my mom, I've been like this for years now, and she couldn't even slightly tell, and yet when she finds out, she loses her shit. Any advice helps. (pic unrelated
If your life is at any risk by coming out, be it a minimum, medium or maximum risk, you wait and build a strong foundation for yourself, move out on your own where you are safe and then 'come out'.
It might be worth investigating how homosexuality/bisexuality intersects with Christian beliefs, so that you might be able to combat or at least "talk down" religious arguments if the need ever arises.
Just curious: How is your mother going to explain a smashed modem? How are you posting this?
They wouldn't kill me, but they might destroy all of my electronics, and since I want to be a software developer, effectively ruin my future.
My brother is really cool and bought a phone for he and I to use for internet stuff. He seems to be the most accepting of me right now. And she just said I was looking at porn, which she is also against, but doesn't actively prevent.
there is no quick fix to your family coming to terms. especially religious fundamental types thet dont have progressive views.
It takes time, and them willing to re-evaluate their stance on the topic. you can help by trying to provide them with info and to logically challenge their views, but that can lead to confrontation.
if it doesnt appear to get better with them, or it gets worse, then my advice is... if you are old enough and able, gtfo.
Go along with the bible shit. Sometimes lies are best.
Say you accept Jesus Christi as your lord and savior. Then follow up with you still being attracted to boys but asexual in the sense you couldn't imagine yourself intimate with one.
Then tell your mom to be more like Jesus and not be such a hateful cunt. Jesus wasn't a cunt. He accepted homos.
Besides, in the new testament, Jesus is supposed to be the new light, way, word, etc and he never said he wasn't okay with homos. The old testament is where hateful shit came from.
Also this will make her rage out of control b/c she got got.:
You're an alright guy, anon