>Bf starts drifting after a year
>Really isn't that good a bf now, but I love him
>Catch him getting on grindr
>He apologizes, cries, talks suicide, says he wants to fix everything and change
>Literally does it again days later
>No libido, no one I know now who I'd even want to date
>Even though I ended it and am completely in the right, still thinking about him, depressed, lonely, while he's probably just fine
How do you all deal with this shit? Break up stories and recoveries pls
He tried to meet up but the guy bailed on him. Also he lied to me about all the details. Sent nudes and sexual preference stuff. It was a whole long messy thing, posted it on r9k.
I guess. Mistakes happen and if he was sincere I think we could have worked through it. But the second time confirmed him a liar so no point really continuing. Why do people lie?
Just sucks. I should be happy and moving on just fine but its really hard.
There is no such thing when it comes to cheating. If someone actually attempts to cheat, they clearly don't appreciate or deserve you. There's no excuse for being on grindr when he has a bf. What that other anon said about maybe he's just looking is bullshit. If he wanted to look at hot guys, there's you and there's porn. Hope you find a guy that actually sees you for what you're worth.
I agree I agree. I'm just saying I'm frustrated that it really is so cut and dry, and yet here I am hopeless and depressed as fuck. Frustrated at myself for not being able to just drop him and the baggage and move on. He'll be able to.
>bf dumps me
>was an emotionally distant asshole who didn't know how to socialize properly
>few months later I start dating a guy I met on grindr (hold your criticisms, I know)
>we hit it off great
>he's not a whore, not a total degenerate, is an excellent student and is working to become an anesthesiologist
>we've been together for six months
>occasionally download grindr for the lulz and each time I've seen my ex there
>each photo he posts looks increasingly more miserable and disheveled
>part of me feels bad but part knows he deserves it