How do you deal with all the suicides in the trans community?
They all hit so close to home and I'm a good listener, so people always share their demons with me and it's so brutal what lives some must suffer through. Hurts me too but I can't just look away.
Half the time I feel like suicide myself, but the rest of the time I feel I got some capacity to try and help people. I got lots of time and money and I usually ask people to come see me before they kill themselves so we could try to figure something out. Wouldn't even mind taking someone out for holidays wherever. But obviously that hasn't ever happened. I don't know what else to do, I hate feeling so helpless.
Last time I someone killed herself I cried for a whole month and could barely function, now I'm afraid someone else I loved dearly might have killed herself too.
She was someone I could effortlessly talk to about everything and the one thing we knew best about eachother were the things we'd never tell anybody else.
Losing others to drugs is almost as bad, but I can't stop meeting these people and I wanna help, but I also can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do. Pls help.
Stop killing yourselves, it's killing me.
There isn't a lot of suicides in the trans community or so I heard, since I live in Alabama and there just isn't a lot of "out" trans that I meet
but, I do have popping thoughts that say I want to kill myself
then, I think about and come to a conclusion that, that would be a shitty thing to do to my friends and family
because all of dem either don't care or support me
So, I figure hey its just depression and then rage hard in rainbow six
>shitty thing to do to my friends and family
Maybe, but it's also kinda shitty to suffer for them.
Good that you seem to be more or less dealing with it however.
I seem to be a magnet for these people though. Whomever I talk to, they usually soon tell me everything. And I'd say that goes for like 90% of the people I do meet in private.
And I guess because of that I get all these people that have to get something off their chest too.
And that's okay I think, but I can't handle the suicides.
I'm so sorry, OP. No one should have to lose dear friends that way.
I don't know if I can make you feel better at all, but maybe you can be a little comforted in knowing that I am helping to keep girls like your friends alive. There are people trying their best to help.
And we're sorry that you have lost so much. I hope that you have someone who loves you.
No. I'm sorry to say that my efforts aren't professional. Perhaps one day, but for now I'm just doing the best I can on my own time, mostly over Skype.
You're strong and beautiful, anon. Please seek more support so that the world can enjoy your spirit more and for longer.
>my efforts aren't professional
I think that's relative anyway.
So nice of you however you do it. I think it takes a pretty stalwart personality.
Not sure where I'd find help though. I'm still hoping she'll just somehow show up again...
>How do you deal with all the suicides in the trans community?
you get off the internet
I dont get attached to anyone so I cant help you there. I usually try to convince people that it's cause of depression - serious illness that needs treatment or it can literally kill you.
Had one trans friend who was on suicide watch and talked her into going into treatment and encouraged to go on with hormones and her life in general.
Oftentimes people really need someone to talk sense into them and convince them there is solid way out, give them hope (still wont work without meds in bad cases)
Drugs is another thing, I'm not even bothering, I lost some mates to h, you cant help it if they don't want to (maybe best you could do if switch them to a less shitty drug, even that might not work).
>serious illness that needs treatment or it can literally kill you.
That'd sound pretty hypocritical coming from someone whom none of the treatments she had in her time helped at all.
And as one such I really don't think advice to get treatment is any helpful advice. Personally hearing that just makes me mad anymore. That's like asking someone for help only to hear that person tell you that yeah you should go and find help.
That's why I try to be there rather than shove the responsibility elsewhere.
>how do you deal with all the suicides in the trans community?
It's true that not everyone can be successfully treated with antidepressants and therapy but for majority people it does help, and people absolutely require qualified medical help and very likely require medication. And in case of trans they might need both - to transition and treat their depression too.
You are looking at it the wrong way, its not shoving the responsibility elsewhere, its helping them the best way possible. While you personally can provide moral support that can be as good as psychotherapy you still cant change their neurotransmitter deficiency w/o proper medication.
Of course it might not even be depression, it's just what I had to deal with and what often causes people want to seriously end life, so again you better take person to a specialist to get the right diagnosis
Ya desu I find it funny and don't care at all. I even think about myself but I don't expect people to care. Its especially funny when they are ugly hons like that one with the huge chin who blew they head off with a shotgun
>How do you deal with all the suicides in the trans community?
Being dead on the inside seems to work pretty well desu
>to get the right diagnosis
I must've been to 8 or 9 therapists myself and they either refused to give me a diagnosis or diagnosed me with a myriad of stuff. Right now I got so much stuff on my medical certificate, it's just laughable.
I've lost all faith in those people, can't imagine they know a damn thing about what they're doing.
My meds were also try this and if that doesn't work try this, and this and this and so on. That seemed super unprofessional trial and error. And naturally in the end those meds just shifted my issues around subtly.
By now I feel just as qualified and got a small pharmacy at home from all the meds I've been through, lol. That's not to say I'd believe that "qualification" is worth shit.
Well here goes the fourth day I haven't heard anything from my friend
>Stop killing yourselves, it's killing me.
Im so sorry to hear.
Thabks god nobody cares about me and the only persons who will miss me are my parents who are transphobes and they will never know i was trans.
Also a trans friend killed herself 5 years ago, it has been hunting me since then.
So they're down with cis folks? That's nice of them.
Why shouldn't I kill myself, doc?
Nobody would care if I died, I don't have any friends and my family has disowned me.
I'll never pass since I started too late and lost the genetic lottery.
The only people who have ever loved me want nothing to do with me anymore.
There is no future.