Ok /lgbt/, if someone can assist me with my issue, I will award you with whatever is in this box.
Me and my boyfriend are two months off of dating for nearly a year, and it's been amazing except for one thing.
I'm the top, he's the bottom, he absolutely refuses to look into or even try anything sexual with me. I can suck him like a vacuum cleaner, but he will not blow me due to him not liking the taste of it. He will not have sex either, and everytime I try and talk to him about it, asking him when will we at least try, he replies with "I don't know" then changes the subject.
Fuck, he hasn't even been able to make me finish ONCE the whole time we've been dating, he'll give me a handjob then say "his arm's getting sore", and even then, the handjob is absolutely amateurish or even painful at times.
The worst thing about all of this is that when I say I'm not giving him any anymore, he says it's fine, and that he doesn't really have a high libido. I know that's bullshit, since whenever he has a hard on and I ask him if he wants any, he replies with "if you want", never showing any sign he wants some, even when his body is physically showing it.
Send help /lgbt/, there's only so many times I can masturbate in the shower whilst my boyfriend receives pleasure and I miss out.
TL:DR I'm allowed to blow/handjob my boyfriend but he refuses to blow/have sex with me.
He is though, he's very affectionate, into kisses and cuddling, absolutely enjoys being with me and vice versa, repeatedly telling me his life would be a mess without me.
If he can tell me all these things, why would he flat out refuse to compromise with the one thing that he cannot live with?
I'm considering this option
Is there any material that I can ease him into it? I think he's just concerned about the pain factor since he has said he's concerned it's going to be painful and not enjoyable.
Material as in those cheesy yaoi manga's that we all started reading in middle school that eventually led us into the path of hardcore bara, emotional rollercoaster comics and gay porn?
He does though, that's the thing you're getting confused about.
He has a sex drive, he gets horny, he does want sexual pleasure, he's displayed it and I've seen it. It just feels like he doesn't know how to express it or how it works at all, that's what I need help with since I am his first gay partner, and his previous partner was an abusive girlfriend.
>He has a sex drive, he gets horny, he does want sexual pleasure, he's displayed it and I've seen it
I think I didn't make myself clear. Asexual people still get all that, but they still don't like having sex.
>an abusive girlfriend
well, that's something to take into account. How abusive?
They were childhood friends, began dating around early middle school until she became anorexic and started becoming very abusive to him.
He also had another straight relationship with a girl he really liked in middle school, but she also broke up with him very shortly after.
Another incident was that a school friend who was male became good friends with him, until that guy promised a relationship with him if they did sexual shit, and didn't follow through after my BF gave him a handjob.
>has told you his life would be a mess without you
>has had multiple terrible relationships and he's only 20
>doesn't like sex/doesn't give you sexual pleasure
run the fuck away from there anon, he sounds like a psycho
Sounds like for whatever reason, you guys are sexually incompatible. Also, remember that for some, sexuality can be fluid and that there are gay men that do like anal sex (top or bottom) and only do bjs and frotting.
He could be asexual, have low testosterone, be homophobic/ hate himself for being attracted to guys, be realizing that he's not actually gay and is attracted to girls, find anal sex gross; or he could just not be attracted to you and finds sex with you gross. ...or any other reason you can think of. You will never know until he tells you. Bottom line is that you guys have a problem in the relationship and he
seems like he's not willing to work on it with you (from what you've posted). You need to decide if you want to stay with someone that isn't going work at maintaining a relationship or not. Personally tend to agree with this guy >>5664869
This is probably the most insightful response in the thread, thanks anon. Here's your reward.
He's discovered the superiority of the big black cock, and can no longer serve your inferior little white dick.
Every time he stares at the pitiful, flaccid, organ you call "your penis" - he cannot help but feel disappointed inside. He is becoming increasingly apathetic to you and the relationship, because he knows every second he spends with you is a second not spent with Tyrone's ten-inch anaconda.
Sorry, anon. You've been kuk'd.
Highly doubt that, I keep a very close eye on him with regards to that. I shut down any chance of it happening before it even seems like it's starting. He doesn't seem like the one to cheat either, as others have betrayed his trust before and he's very big on trust with me.