Ok /lgbt/, if someone can assist me with my issue, I will award

>>5664732
Sounds like he's either a massive cunt or not enjoying it at all.
Either way your relationship is heading towards a cliff.

You are a human dildo to him.

>>5664732
Stop being a bitch and fuck him in the ass whether he says no or not, that's probably what he's waiting for

>>5664742
He is though, he's very affectionate, into kisses and cuddling, absolutely enjoys being with me and vice versa, repeatedly telling me his life would be a mess without me.
If he can tell me all these things, why would he flat out refuse to compromise with the one thing that he cannot live with?

>>5664748
I'm considering this option

I've even stated I would even be the bottom if it would make him more comfortable for the first time, but even then he said no.
I really don't understand this situation.

>>5664732
have you considered the possibility that he might be asexual?

>>5664766
has OPs boyfriend even considered that.

>>5664766
Does that still apply when he has sexual desires and requires relief?

Is there any material that I can ease him into it? I think he's just concerned about the pain factor since he has said he's concerned it's going to be painful and not enjoyable.
Material as in those cheesy yaoi manga's that we all started reading in middle school that eventually led us into the path of hardcore bara, emotional rollercoaster comics and gay porn?

>>5664775
Yes. Asexuality means not liking the act of sex itself, not never getting horny.

>>5664775
He does though, that's the thing you're getting confused about.
He has a sex drive, he gets horny, he does want sexual pleasure, he's displayed it and I've seen it. It just feels like he doesn't know how to express it or how it works at all, that's what I need help with since I am his first gay partner, and his previous partner was an abusive girlfriend.

>>5664795
>He has a sex drive, he gets horny, he does want sexual pleasure, he's displayed it and I've seen it

I think I didn't make myself clear. Asexual people still get all that, but they still don't like having sex.

>an abusive girlfriend

well, that's something to take into account. How abusive?

>>5664732
Like, NO sex.... For a whole YEAR??
I wouldn't have out up with that for more than a month or two.
Talk to him about it. Or just dump his ass.

>>5664802
They were childhood friends, began dating around early middle school until she became anorexic and started becoming very abusive to him.
He also had another straight relationship with a girl he really liked in middle school, but she also broke up with him very shortly after.
Another incident was that a school friend who was male became good friends with him, until that guy promised a relationship with him if they did sexual shit, and didn't follow through after my BF gave him a handjob.

>>5664822
umm... how old is your bf?

>>5664831
19 going onto 20 this year, I'm 18 going onto 19. I've known him since Grade 9 (15yr for him, 14yr for me)

>>5664822
>has told you his life would be a mess without you
>has had multiple terrible relationships and he's only 20
>doesn't like sex/doesn't give you sexual pleasure

run the fuck away from there anon, he sounds like a psycho

>>5664835
Sounds like for whatever reason, you guys are sexually incompatible. Also, remember that for some, sexuality can be fluid and that there are gay men that do like anal sex (top or bottom) and only do bjs and frotting.

He could be asexual, have low testosterone, be homophobic/ hate himself for being attracted to guys, be realizing that he's not actually gay and is attracted to girls, find anal sex gross; or he could just not be attracted to you and finds sex with you gross. ...or any other reason you can think of. You will never know until he tells you. Bottom line is that you guys have a problem in the relationship and he
seems like he's not willing to work on it with you (from what you've posted). You need to decide if you want to stay with someone that isn't going work at maintaining a relationship or not. Personally tend to agree with this guy >>5664869

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>>5664894
This is probably the most insightful response in the thread, thanks anon. Here's your reward.

>>5664732

oh my god it's the same for me!
for four years now at least i'm a bit relieved to do not be alone

>>5664732
I kind of do this.
I don't think i'm actually gay, getting a bj doesn't do anything for me, but I fucking love cuddling.

Maybe I'm asexual I don't know.

You're crazy. I probably would have stopped dating him a while ago :/

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He's discovered the superiority of the big black cock, and can no longer serve your inferior little white dick.

Every time he stares at the pitiful, flaccid, organ you call "your penis" - he cannot help but feel disappointed inside. He is becoming increasingly apathetic to you and the relationship, because he knows every second he spends with you is a second not spent with Tyrone's ten-inch anaconda.

Sorry, anon. You've been kuk'd.

>mfw

>>5666569
why are you wasting your time on /lgbt/? don't you have a shit ton of posts to spam /pol/, /r9k/, and /b/ with?

>>5666616
The post was a meme, but the essence is truth. What if anon's BF is cheating on him? Loss of libido in a relationship is a major sign of that.

>>5666619
Highly doubt that, I keep a very close eye on him with regards to that. I shut down any chance of it happening before it even seems like it's starting. He doesn't seem like the one to cheat either, as others have betrayed his trust before and he's very big on trust with me.