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2016-02-01 17:19:07 Post No. 5646402
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Can cishet women really be gay allies?
We need allies, the gay community is too small to reasonably pass any legislation without allies. Allies with money are a good thing and cishet women control about 70% of all domestic spending meaning that companies and politicians will continue to cater to them. Cishet women are in a position to put their overwhelming privilege to work and really help out the gay community.
However, the consumer based nature of women is extremely detrimental to gay identity and gay rights. As it stands "gay" media is really just cishet women's media. That is to say, for a gay tv show or movie to get funding it must pander to the wants of cishet women. This is an extremely problematic view as it portrays stereotypical ideas what it means to be gay and then reinforces those ideas into the consumer market. Women want to see sassy gay men, so sassy gay men get tv shows. This reinforces the idea that all gay men are sassy.
Cishet women's ally-ship is largely conditional on what we can do for them. Women like us when we are doing their hair, making their clothes, decorating their houses. We are pets, not people. Sources of entertainment to make them feel good about themselves. When we do not fit these roles, women don't want any part of us.
Cishet women's ally-ship centers around cishet women, not gays. When a woman says she is an ally it is to prove to her friends that she is a good, progressive person. While any support may be better than no support, the self centered nature of women's support may be a detriment. We need people who are going to be doing more than putting on a rainbow filter and begging for likes on facebook. We need allies who will not just dump us when it is no longer vogue to support gay men (as we are currently seeing).
So should cishet women be allowed to be our allies. Pic related, it is how they like to talk over the group they are allied with.