I'm dating a MtF, I sure love her, but she avoid sex altogether in name of the hormones, she doesn't even wanna talk about it. It's hard to keep a relationship like this. Can someone share experiences?
Junk-pop science asserts that orgasm produces excess testosterone, so should be avoided by trans women. This is partially true, in that there is a short testosterone spike (then dip), but it's largely irrelevant beside the fact that we're taking a massive dose of anti-androgens, and wasn't that major even to begin with.
There's a minor spike in T when she cums, but it's pretty negligible.
Other than that, some of us will just never want to have sex while pre-OP.
If you do love her you should sit it out, maybe opt for blowjobs or something.
When I say sex, is all of it, BJ excites her and she avoid it too. We don't even light dirty talk.
I have "sit it out" for months now, it's making me distance (I know, it's my fault).
A OP? Isn't that years? Like at least 5?
Dysphoria is really an issue I can't even...
I understand it. But I really wish she could love her body at least half as I do.
Could you PLEASE back that up?
Thanks! Srlsy Thanks.
Research aside, a lack of comfort with communicating her thoughts and feelings about sex is a major relationship issue. The two of you may have a lot more to tackle than just research results.
The studies seem to show a decline (reallyyyy small, but a decline) on testosterone levels after orgasm.
[Or I'm reading it wrong? I may be.]
I don't pretend to shove facts down her throat.
I just want more info and different views to make sure I'm not hurting her transition.
It is THE major issue. But I don't know how to tackle dysphoria.
Because she likes my body, and lust for me (allegedly), but her body is always on her mind.
Sometimes I fear even after the SRS and every other surgery she would feel uncomfortable.
Good for you [Unironically]
I was apologizing for answering based on hearsay earlier.
Your response is nice, but I'm really sorry to say I don't know your girlfriend well enough to speak to her body issues, or really offer any insight at all. If she's not up for discussing it with you, perhaps she'll be able to do so with her therapist at some point?
I hope you'll be able to continue supporting her. You sound like a very caring, considerate boyfriend.
>I'm dating a MtF, I sure love her,
>im giving a MtF financial support, I sure am getting cucked by her
Sorry to break it to you pham but if she isnt letting you beat up that sweet tight bp any time you want then you arent her bf and there is no relationship 2bh.
Sorry if you dont wanna hear the truth my nig, just trying to keep it real familia. Open your eyes.
She is way more wealth than me, by a lot.
I'm new here. Is this /pol/?
Thanks. Really appreciate it. :)
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I really don't wanna judge, but it honestly seems like you're just trying to gather up the courage to twist their arm, which despite what >>5645314 says is not good b/gfriend material.
Yes you want sex in your life, for some reason, but they want transition in their life, and maybe more. Instead of trying to browbeat her information/misinformation, why not just honestly, truly tell her how you feel. Tell her you want sex months into a relationship. I don't know y'all age, but I'm pretty sure that it will come out as understandable or pathetic, depending, and your problems will sort themselves out in a hurry.
I knew her before. That's true, the sex drive dropped significantly...
But I started the thread under the misinformation that orgasms increase testosterone.
But thanks to >>5639500 its all cool.
I understand that putting my short term needs before long awaited resolutions is a total jackass move.
That's why, I'm trying to learn, I don't want to put her on the spot. This question is for me, I'm worried.
Seems that I haven't talk to her how I feel... But I have.
We are both aware of the wants of the other, but sacrificing to meet that is hard.
>in a loving relationship
We had sex already, just not lately.
To her friends yes, but her facebook name was still a male name.
So I never knew her as a male, but when we meet she was doing the hormones by herself.
Just after we started dating I insisted to go to a endocrinologist.
So the sex drive was bigger at the time.