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I'm dating a MtF, I sure love her, but she avoid sex altogether in name of the hormones, she doesn't even wanna talk about it. It's hard to keep a relationship like this. Can someone share experiences?
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>>5638955
What?
Some trans people have issues with sex from dyphoria but it's not "in the name of hormones".
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>>5638955
Junk-pop science asserts that orgasm produces excess testosterone, so should be avoided by trans women. This is partially true, in that there is a short testosterone spike (then dip), but it's largely irrelevant beside the fact that we're taking a massive dose of anti-androgens, and wasn't that major even to begin with.
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>>5638955
There's a minor spike in T when she cums, but it's pretty negligible.
Other than that, some of us will just never want to have sex while pre-OP.
If you do love her you should sit it out, maybe opt for blowjobs or something.
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>>5639414
When I say sex, is all of it, BJ excites her and she avoid it too. We don't even light dirty talk.
I have "sit it out" for months now, it's making me distance (I know, it's my fault).
A OP? Isn't that years? Like at least 5?

>>5639401
Dysphoria is really an issue I can't even...
I understand it. But I really wish she could love her body at least half as I do.

>>5639412
>>5639414
Could you PLEASE back that up?

Thanks! Srlsy Thanks.
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>>5639475
>A OP? Isn't that years? Like at least 5?
I'm 19 months into HRT and scheduled my SRS for the later half of this year. Depends if you can afford it.

>>5639475
>Could you PLEASE back that up?
Back what up? The T spike? I don't think I have a source for that. I'm sure google will tell you.
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>>5639475
Seems I was being misled, too. My apologies.

Here's a big long thing examining research on the subject.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/book/export/html/148
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>>5639475
Research aside, a lack of comfort with communicating her thoughts and feelings about sex is a major relationship issue. The two of you may have a lot more to tackle than just research results.
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>>5639500
Apologies?
The studies seem to show a decline (reallyyyy small, but a decline) on testosterone levels after orgasm.
[Or I'm reading it wrong? I may be.]
>>5639509
I don't pretend to shove facts down her throat.
I just want more info and different views to make sure I'm not hurting her transition.
It is THE major issue. But I don't know how to tackle dysphoria.
Because she likes my body, and lust for me (allegedly), but her body is always on her mind.
Sometimes I fear even after the SRS and every other surgery she would feel uncomfortable.


>>5639493
Good for you [Unironically]
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>>5639581
I was apologizing for answering based on hearsay earlier.

Your response is nice, but I'm really sorry to say I don't know your girlfriend well enough to speak to her body issues, or really offer any insight at all. If she's not up for discussing it with you, perhaps she'll be able to do so with her therapist at some point?

I hope you'll be able to continue supporting her. You sound like a very caring, considerate boyfriend.
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>>5639797
Thanks! You was very helpful. And for the kind words, sometimes I fell on the wrong side for wanting this. :)
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>>5639414
>There's a minor spike in T when she cums
unless she is not on AA that's bullshit, matey
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>>5638955
Hahahaha that's not how that works. She don't want you hon. You're probably just a meal ticket.
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>>5638955
>I'm dating a MtF, I sure love her,

>im giving a MtF financial support, I sure am getting cucked by her

Sorry to break it to you pham but if she isnt letting you beat up that sweet tight bp any time you want then you arent her bf and there is no relationship 2bh.

Sorry if you dont wanna hear the truth my nig, just trying to keep it real familia. Open your eyes.
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>>5638955
This is fucking retarded. He's bulletproof, but hitting a rock breaks his neck? Makes no goddamn sense
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>>5638955
What comic is that?
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>>5638955
>>5639581
You seem like a really nice bf, who truly loves his girlfriend. Good luck you two
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>>5638955
Take this question to /lgbt/ imo

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>>5639414
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>>5645595

What board do you think you are on?
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[spoiler]OP Back

>>5643836
Top kek
She is way more wealth than me, by a lot.

>>5644203
I'm new here. Is this /pol/?

>>5645314
Thanks. Really appreciate it. :)

>>5645075
Injustice Gods Among Us #16
[It's on the filename...] :^)

>>5644815
Nightwing is not bulletproof, he is just a [spoiler]spoiled acrobat[/spoiler].
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>>5638955
>but she avoid sex altogether in name of the hormones

More like her sex drive decreased after hormones.

I used to fap A LOT before HRT and now i only do it once every 3-5 days.
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I really don't wanna judge, but it honestly seems like you're just trying to gather up the courage to twist their arm, which despite what >>5645314 says is not good b/gfriend material.

Yes you want sex in your life, for some reason, but they want transition in their life, and maybe more. Instead of trying to browbeat her information/misinformation, why not just honestly, truly tell her how you feel. Tell her you want sex months into a relationship. I don't know y'all age, but I'm pretty sure that it will come out as understandable or pathetic, depending, and your problems will sort themselves out in a hurry.
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>>5648502
>I'm new here. Is this /pol/?

>relationship
>no pussy
>no communication
>relationship

"you are getting cucked"

>b-b-but back to /pol/

kill yourself my man
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>>5648593
>once every 3-5 days.
Still a lot more than none like OP is getting.
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OP Back

>>5648593
I knew her before. That's true, the sex drive dropped significantly...
But I started the thread under the misinformation that orgasms increase testosterone.
But thanks to >>5639500 its all cool.

>>5648615
I understand that putting my short term needs before long awaited resolutions is a total jackass move.
That's why, I'm trying to learn, I don't want to put her on the spot. This question is for me, I'm worried.
Seems that I haven't talk to her how I feel... But I have.
We are both aware of the wants of the other, but sacrificing to meet that is hard.

>>5648642
>in a loving relationship
>killing myself
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>>5653782

So you haven't gotten laid yet? Also, what? You knew her back when she presented as male?
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>>5653885
We had sex already, just not lately.
To her friends yes, but her facebook name was still a male name.
So I never knew her as a male, but when we meet she was doing the hormones by herself.
Just after we started dating I insisted to go to a endocrinologist.
So the sex drive was bigger at the time.
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