This board depresses me like no other, why is the reality of being lbgt so shit?
>Tfw major anxiety issues will keep me from getting a bf
>Tfw will die a forever alone virgin
I'm in the same boat.
>bad social anxiety
>meds do nothing
>tfw never going to get a bf
h-how do we solve this sir
The thing that attracts me most to guys is their protection, tfw just want a bf to take me under his wing and protect me from the world
>why is the reality of being lbgt so shit?
The world is cruel.
The world is wicked.
Out there they revile you as a monster.
Out there they'll hate and scorn and jeer.
Why invite their calumny and consternation?
Stay in here.
Be faithful to me.
Grateful to me.
Do as I say.
You have to man up, yes I'm aware of the irony, seriously though. Nothing good is going to come out of dwelling on those thoughts, you're just going to dig yourself further down and make it harder for yourself.
I'm in the same boat but I'm confident that I'll meet someone, I've had opportunities but those just didn't feel right, I'm waiting for the right one, if it doesn't come around, well fuck it, there's other things in life.
I know this is the final anwser but it's also the hardest one to do.
I managed to work up the courage to go on a date with a guy once, he sounded nice but hr took me back to his flat that was full of other gay guys and made me uncomfortable
I meant to add they were the extremely flamboyant types and pushy and it made me panic.
I just need someone who's sensitive to my autism and in return I'll be the most loyal and loving bf ever ;_;
Honestly and its hard to hear but you need to just do shit. ive been in and out of hospitals my entire life. for this kind of crap. You need to push yourself way out of your comfort zone for some shit and not act like a victim because you cant do something.
Most important part is a BF will not help you be you. You cant expect someone else to love you if you cant love yourself, or if you want them to solve your problems.
Not to mention a partner is not the end all and not the only part of life. if you look for a partner desperately you wont find the right one.
I have pretty bad social problems, but i can find a partner because its not my end game, its not what controls and drives me. its part of my life. find those other passions, those drives and trust me both anxiety and finding a partner will be a hell of a lot easier to manage.
Anxiety will not kill you
Anxiety is a fear response, to danger which may or not be there, you need to learn to look at the situation and address it for what it is. The feelings may not go away, they may not even get better. but you will have control over your actions and you will feel better for doing it.
Yeah sort of, I got a work & holiday visa so I'll be around for a few months maybe a year.
I literally just got here from the other side of the earth, I'm on the north island at the moment, about an hour from the downtown area of Auckland. I don't know anyone around here so if you wanna be friends that would be really nice :)
Sweet, I don't have a computer with me, only my old phone and the occasional wifi from a cafe or my flat though but feel free to chat whenever you want!
Sometimes I think lgbt have it real bad in terms of finding love and I think to myself how miserable I am and how easy it would be to have someone by now were I straight.
But then I consider that I haven't actually tried to look around me; actually looking for someone, anyone at all, and that simply has to do with the fact that maybe deep down I understand that I do not feel ready to be with someone just yet.
If I were straight, I'd probably be in the same position, whining to myself how lonely I am and how hard it is to find someone.
The reason I'm Hans right now has more to do with my attitude than externak factors.
>die a forever alone virgin
It's not so bad. I'm a musician and apparently one of my biggest heroes (Nick Drake) died a virgin. He was a great looking guy but he was incredibly depressed and anti-social. It's just something that happens, I guess.