How and when should i tell my classmates (they are pretty intolerant) and family that i would like to be a girl? The only person i can actually trust is my sister.
Sounds like you're under 18. Tell your family but not your classmates. If they won't let you start HRT, you can self-med, but do hours and hours of research if you do, please.
You should tell them asap, and you should be straightforward and honest. Voice your concern that you're worried they will stop loving you.
>friend came out as mtf
>other friend came out as fucking genderfluid
>I'm still too much of a cowardly bitch to come out
And now it's probably impossible for me to do so without looking like a transtrender.
What I wouldn't have done to have an out trans friend back when I was young.
I had a friend that eventually transitioned too, and while we came out to a lot of the same people no one ever had the common sense to tell us to actually talk to each other about it.
Don't waste this chance. Come out to your friends.
Why can't you just be effeminate and look like a girl, but still identify as your real gender, which never ever will grisly change.
Why is it so hard for trans to accept their real genders? It's ok to take on whatever aspects of the opposite sex that make you happy, sure. The problem comes from when you start living a delusion about your identity.
You moron. How about you count your blessings and come out to people who will support you. Looking like a transtrender--to fucking who? To your genderfluid friend? Who are you even trying to save face in front of? Jesus.
I guess you're right. This is what I needed to hear. It's not like I have any pride or respect to lose to begin with. I'm a whiny, petty, envious coward who can't even muster up courage when something's handed to me on silver platter, and I already act very girly anyways.
Guess I'll rip off this band-aid soon.
I was kinda harsh, sorry. I understand your thought process - it's of course natural to fear you won't be taken seriously. But if someone doesn't want to take you seriously they will find their excuses anyway, so don't let the fear of them hold you back. Do take advantage of your situation, it really is fortuitous for you all.
You're not petty and you're not whiny, it's understandable to feel overwhelmed by all this shit even when things look positive. But you're in a good situation to fall back on your feet when you do that jump.
I'm in the same situation. Frankly, I wouldn't recommend coming out at all if they are even slightly hesitant about trans people. My mother, who has a lesbian sister and is massively liberal, says I'm mistaken and never talked to me about it again.
Right now, Im just on spiro that I got from QHI until I'm 18, when I'll start with some estrogen too.
Think about getting to a point where you pass first.
Otherwise you aren't living as a girl, you're living as a visibly transgender freakshow that people will assume is some kind of fetishistic male.
Seriously, why the fuck would you want to tell everyone you're trans? Pre-transition, aside from telling a doctor and a few direct family members (if they aren't religious nuts) so you can get on HRT, and post-transition telling your partner (because hiding big things from your SO won't end well), I wouldn't tell fucking anyone.
You aren't going to look like a girl overnight. You aren't going to look like one in a year's time (unless you're fucking 14). Don't tell your classmates.
Just do a FB post on a friday after school.
>just on spiro
omg, i hope you are okay. how long do you have to be just on spiro? its not too healthy.
idk if you shud say anything unless you are already on hrt and transitioning. it might make things really hard for you, all the attention on you and stuff , possibly a lot of bullying also :x
could tell to your family though.
>1year on hrt, still not out to classmates
>people think im this trashy kid still
>only people who say things are the jocks of the school
honestly the only bad things hiding still are the parts where people use your boy name and you have to wear same boy clothes everyday.
couldnt even imagine what it wud be like if i was out, centre of attention and hate suddenly.
Because then they have the weekend to see it and form opinions about you and how to behave around you instead of meeting you with their initial shock.
Back when I was going to come out, I wanted to do it just after the last day of the school year, but someone else came out just before me and his exams finished earlier :/
DO NOT ADMIT TO BEING UND ER AGED ON 4CHAN DELETE THIS POST ASAP FUCKING KID.