Trans Identity

>>5586498
Curious, how long have the been acting like this since they came out? Are they transitioning at all and do they own a tumblr?

>>5586513
A few are actively transitioning, one isn't yet due to money. All have tumblrs.

>>5586513
Also, they've been acting like this since they publicly revealed they were trans to our group of friends at large. It's like a switch was flipped the moment they did that.

>>5586520
This is merely my opinion but I was like that for 2 years on/off because finding out you may not be that sure about your gender and sexuality is uncomfortable and new territory and tumblr definitely fed my quota of nonsense gender politics before I decided to give it a rest. If you find you find yourself having to tiptoe around conversations just to have a basic interaction, I'm sorry bro you may have a couple of those identity politicking idiots.

>>5586520
Well there's your problem. Tumblr is cancer and breeds this type of shit.

>>5586498
Give them a little while and they'll level back out. Transitioning is a huge undertaking that literally changes your entire life, so for the first few years it's kind of all consuming. Once they get settled into their new identity and new life it'll be easier for them to refocus on other things again. Just give them some time anon

>>5586552
And that's it, I do feel like I have to tiptoe in conversations; I've actually taken to just outright avoiding most get-togethers with this particular group for several years now due in part to this, but I hate it. I really want to see this from their point of view. I want to believe there's some good reason for them acting this way that I'm not seeing, because they were all reasonable and intelligent people before.

I was kind of insufferable to my friends for a few months at the start of it. I just had to get out all the shit I've kept to myself for so long and talk about it. They got pretty sick of me talking about tranny stuff so often but I got it out and it helped me I think.

I needed my friend to let me know that I was being kind of a twat not shutting up about this stuff. That really helped and we're getting back to a more normal and I can finally shut up and just hang out. I do feel like I needed to vent at the time though, it helped me a lot.

Mtf here
2 major reasons this happens

first is that its something they are new to. This is usually a bit more introspective, they may find lots of external stuff to talk about but it usually relates to them in a feels way. its because they are looking for who they are in their identity

the other is more common in recent years with people using it as something to get attention or the fad aspect of being in the "counter culture" They will make absolutely everything about being trans and gender and all that stuff.


With your friends it could be either or. kinda have to play it by ear.
A point you could bring up is saying something like "you are just a women/man to me, The whole trans part is the least of who you are to me, Just the woman/man you are no prefix or quotation marks "
This validates the identity they are transitioning too without keeping the label of needing to be trans or "woman" etc.

>>5586576
At which point they realize, "wow, none of this actually means anything to me now."and either slowly revert to androgyny or stay comfortable in the identity they've built.

>>5586578
That stage huh, well I'd say you are a very unlucky man as they are using you their clutch of normalcy. I had two friends who I told this to and they were very indifferent [positive indifference] and the conversations died down pretty quickly since I guess self reassurance and self validation is the core aspect to it. As much as they are you friends [or not depending how you feel about it now] you don't have to buy into every aspect of it since it is discovery period and I too have said my share of embarrassing information. You don't have to nod to everything that comes out of their mouth you don't become the emotional dump.

Doesn't it tell you on your state issued ID?

>>5586498
as someone who just started transitioning this month I can tell you that it literally becomes the only thing you can think about. I try so hard to not think about it, and go back to doing what I used to talk about (ie. games, esports, etc.) but it's like being trans and transitioning literally consumes your mind to the point that you either talk about it or silence yourself for months.

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>>5586816
>or silence yourself for months.
22 months and counting...
Get me off this ride ;_;

Your friends are losersand they will never fully transition. They will always be "trans". Personally I have no interest in talking about with my friends outside of talking about my sex life and trying to figure out if they have tranny fetishes or not

>>5586576
I hope that will be the case for some of them, but one in particular is going on 4 years now of being like this.

>>5588487
Then he's a fake piece of shit in it for oppression points, and you should cut that cancer out of your life.

>>5586576
I've known a MtF for 13 years. She's been out for 10 and transitioning for 7. Everything is still about being trans. How long does getting settled take?

I dunno if this is just the case for me but I completely broke off all ties with all the guys I knew after I decided to transition.

>>5586498
First off how in the fuck did more than one of your friends go mtf? Like is there something in the water there? And also I don't think you have anything in common any more with them. Like I said above, I cut all ties before I even came out because I only hung out with my old guy acquaintances because I was repressing.

>>5586498
I feel like a lot of minorities are like this. When a group feels oppressed or marginalized they will naturally band together, which helps strengthen their identity. For some people it pretty much consumes their lives. Many feminists and blacktivists are the same way, for example.

In fact, you can see this phenomenon quite well just by looking at the stormfags in /pol/.

>>5589165
Your gender identity defines your interests?

>>5589165
Not just you. I stopped seeing my friends period after I began transitioning. I sorta realized that I didn't want them to keep thinking of me as a guy, and that being around them like that was painful.

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>>5589218
Doesn't that make the whole concept of identity sort of idiotic?

>>5589382
Yes. Yes it does.

>>5589436
I'll believe in good faith that this isn't a troll, so, why?

>>5586498
tranny here.
i prefer not to talk about trans topics with my normie freinds. granted only a few of them know i even am trans, but i still dont really talk about trans stuff with them. usually when we talk about trans things they are the ones bringing it up.

now with a few other trans friends i have a lot of what we talk about is trans related, but we also talk about general shit too sometimes.

basically a lot of loud an proud trans people kinda want to be all about the trans shit, while all the stealth trans people only talk about that shit amongst other trans people.

>>5589395
Yes.

>>5589382
No but i hated hanging out with cis men. I get along better with women and its so easy to get lost in conversations with them. Its funny, I met up with one of them last week and we went to lunch and I sat in the back of the car with his girlfriend and we talked about makeup and fashion the whole time, and when the car stopped my old guy friend looked at me as if I was a stranger and said he never thought I would become a girl.

>>5589463
That's a really shitty way to treat an old friend who had done nothing to you.

>>5589470
What? I really wanted to catch up but like I dunno I just felt drawn to just girl talk with his gf. Hrt results in mental changes too so like I am not the same person I was, I can't stand guy talk.

>>5589515
I guess the disagreement is in whether there exists "guy" or "girl" talk then.

>>5589463
Probably because you're just settling into your new identity and you've never experienced talking to a girl, as a girl. While "girl talk" is pretty fun, after awhile you'll realize how awesome your old male buddies really were and you'll long to have that again at some point.

>>5589463
Haha kayla. You are socially retarded. You don't get along with men or women. You have the mind of a dumb brooding 14 year old boy