>having dinner at home
>dad watching tv
>mom checking facebook on her phone
>"My, have you seen this, husband?"
>Pic of gay cousin with new boyfriend
>Dad looks at me
>"I know it's bad to say this nowadays but I'm so glad you turned out normal, anon."
hahaha yeah right dad hahaha
I mean can you imagine haha
it'd be like i don't know
Oh! You missed the PERFECT opportunity to come out!
> I'm glad you turned out normal
> Dad, I'm gay.
You know he knows enough to have to act nice about it, because he acknowledges it was a bad thing to say, and so you get to zing him while ensuring a good response!
>Know that same feel
>Dad: "I love your (gay)cousin and I'd love you no matter what but boy I'm glad you're not gay"
>Don't want to come out as MtF lesbo because he's already depressed and slowly killing himself with alcohol and I've been trying to help him cheer up and trying to strengthen our father-"son" bond
At least if I wait until after he's dead to come out I'll have a lot of cash for surgery the moment I'm out. I can deal with being a HRT femboy until then ;-;
How I came out:
>be in high school, gotta write a short story
>character is a lesbian, only casually mentioned
>ask parents to read for constructive criticism
> dad: well it was good but it didn't really make any sense that she was gay
>mum: yeah there were no clues
>sometimes people are just gay, parents
>but there should be signs or something- she didn't seem like a lesbian
> do I
Got a B on that story tho, maybs I should have listened to them
So, I have this gay cousin whose father would have thrown him out on his ass or worse if he came out earlier. And, my father was so scared that I might be trans (Ha, I am...) that he nearly had an anxiety attack asking if I was after I grew my hair out long, which I obviously said no (I so don't want to add another body to that pile). It's just "wow, LGBT panic much".
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>be me, closeted mtf
>watching that theroux doc on TV
>desperately want to turn it over but parents interested (in a really bad 'look at these freaks hahaha' way) and don't want to raise suspicion
>that hispanic 14 year old on easymode comes up talking about how she realised she was trans while watching a documentary just like this one
>realise she is going to have a happy and normal life in a way that I will never, ever experience
>trying to hold back or at least hide the tears, sink down below blanket on the sofa
>dad notices from across the room
>"what's wrong? are you crying? anon, are you transgender too?"
>"no it's just embarrassing, I'm cringing"
>"yeah, good... fucking liberal perverts"
Death cannot come soon enough.
>tfw closeted but on HRT because I would literally have already killed myself otherwise
>tfw (violently bigoted) parents starting to give weird looks at my chest even when I say I just need to work out more
I'm living on borrowed time
You kind of need your own payment card for that to still be a private purchase...
And if OP is still living with their parents at the age when they have a payment card... Well, perhaps death is the choice for them.
You can get credit cards at 18 and you can use pre-paid debit/credit cards at any age.
Plus there's lots of payment processors that link directly to your bank account so you don't have to have a credit card to buy things online.
>as a kid I would always get into lots of trouble
>fights with other kids, teachers, random adults etc.
>school calling home constantly
>social services are called in
>dad has an alcoholic girlfriend
>to this day he still has stress related "injuries" from that time
>I freak out over something and barricade myself at my moms house
>after alot of talking, dad finally convinces me to come out
>during the car ride home, he turns to me and asks: "Are you gay?"
>"what? How did you even come to that conclusion?"
>I dont know, its just alot right now, sorry
How the FUCK did he know? Parents, man, I swear.
When I got my checking account at 17, Chase had the policy that kids at least 14 years old could make checking accounts as long as a parent would link their own checking account to the child's. Now you can be as young as 13.
Shit, I wish I knew years ago what I know now.
Damn it feels good not having a reason to come out to my parents. I stopped caring years ago about trying to get their approval about what kind of people I want to stick my dick inside. It's not even worth bringing up to them
it also feels great being aromantic
Was there something other than the hair which could have tipped him off to you being trans?
I was going to tell you to take a closer look at how easy mode she really was because I could have sworn she had a tremendous brow ridge and sloped forehead already. But I looked it over, and I was wrong. Plus, I would guess she's actually half Filipina.
Man, that bit about what the father said hit hard, though.
>There are two things you can do here, I mean you can...
>As a parent, you can, you can... be in denial, which to some degree we were.
>You can say "And we could fight it" and we could say, "No, this is not the way you were born. You were born a boy."
>And there's a good chance that Nikki would have conformed. For a time.
>Nikki would have become an adult.
>And this happens all the time, where people become adults and they find that they still feel this way.
>And then they learn to transition when they're adults.
>Life is a lot harder, in my opinion, when as parents, we fail to see that. And I see it as protecting the life of my child. In a way, in taking that right fork.
>And that's why I justify what I've done here.
What I wouldn't give to have been in her position at her age.
That's your dad, though. My father says he didn't notice a damn thing about me being trans. Which isn't that strange, I kept everyone in the dark about everything. I'm sure my grandmother and mother already suspected on some level, though.
If your a "lesbian mtf" just stop being a pussy and man up. Id be so embarrassed to have one of those as a kid because you all are clearly just beta males who instead of working hard to get better at the game decided to quit the game and go cry like a two year old.
"Dad im a beta loser who wants to be admired just for existing like females are". This is what you should come out as because thays the equivalent of a "trans lesbian"
>tfw during the conversation that I came out to my parents, my father kept saying he had a question he wanted to ask me, but he really didn't want to ask it. At the end of the day, he finally asked if I had felt attraction to men.
I thought, "Was that all? He had me worried. I'm honestly unimpressed he thought this question was such a big deal" and I told him I had.
Plus, I doubt either of you only like girls.
I know this feel.
Except I'm alright with it because I seriously cannot relate to 99% of women so even if I wanted to be straight I'd never find someone to date. I'm much happier being gay since I relate to guys much better.
I was complimented by an older lady a week or two prior on how pretty my hair was, and that gave me a big head. Plus, I love getting compliments about my hair, nails, eyelash length, and most things since forever, which came from his side of the family. There are others but it's just stuff like enjoying art and finding sports to be super boring.
But, yeah. His attitude and mental state totally suggested that he might do something drastic, and that he was scared/panicky. And, possibly hurt me or worse.
I am kind of glad to be bi, though. heheh...
>I doubt either of you only like girls.
I really am only attracted to women though. I kinda wish I wasn't tho because then I could just go out with chasers, it'd be like dating on easy-mode
>complimented by an older lady a week or two prior on how pretty my hair was
I don't know why but old ladies calling me pretty makes me super happy. Whenever I was in middleschool, around ages 12-14, and still trying to force myself not to want to be a girl I used to visit this neighbor who was an old woman with alzheimers, because I had long hair she always thought I was a girl and would constantly give me compliments on how pretty I was.