I would never date a guy who described himself as much, I mean I pass ok but you have to fess up you are at least Bi to be into me (especially non-op) otherwise you are likely a closet case who will murder me
This so much.
Guys who constantly have to remind themselves how straight they are despite being into someone who was born male are just too exhausting.
It's like they have a mental breakdown as soon as someone implies they're anything other than hetero.
I do, however he doesn't know I'm trans.
Started hormones when I was 14 and had srs when I was 19, am currently 23.
Boyfriend is my first, he was kinda of a loser before I cleaned him up. Yes we've head sex and he hasn't caught onto anything[spoiler]I think he may have been a virgin[/spoiler] and I always make sure the lights are off. I'm perfectly content with my srs but I've made sure I haven't given him any opportunity to compare.
That being said I'm ready to pull the trigger on the earliest sign our relationship is going sour.
Why you may ask?
Well living a lie can give you a new perspective on life. I've come to the crippling realization that I'll never find someone who truly loves me ignoring the fact I'm trans, because that's unfortunately what I am will always be. I'm never going to bear a child and will never have a normal family or life. Sure there's more things to life than relationships but what's the point if there is no end goal.
Just a word of advice; it's not worth it.
>I've come to the crippling realization that I'll never find someone who truly loves me ignoring the fact I'm trans,
Why? Why couldnt there be someone that loves you even though you're trans? shit, there are lots of people that are complete monsters, or even mass murderers and there is people that can love them
>literally living the dream
What does it matter how you started your life? Just tell him you have a medical condition you don't want to talk about that makes you infertile. Live your life as a woman, wasn't that the whole point of transitioning?
Only if you hold yourself to the standard of a cis womAn. Personally I'm going to have kids even if I have to have them alone. I'm looking for someone who likes that I'm trans but is otherwise a normal attractive guy. I'm comfortable not getting bottom surgery. I think life is worth more than the motivations like "how can I copy average cis women's lives exactly because I'm a tranny and I just need validation soooo badly"
So you are right its all about perspective
She didn't say he was a BLACK heterosexual, just a heterosexual.
Supportive family, and connections.
Honestly I think nowadays due to trans awareness their a little more apprehensive when handing out hormones or even t blockers in some cases.
>shit, there are lots of people that are complete monsters, or even mass murderers and there is people that can love them
"Normal" peoples perception of trans is on a whole different level though. For them it's just as much mental as it is physical. I'm not looking for validation it's just that I want someone to love me for me not their idea of me.
Also now that got I got a taste of the real thing I feel there's no going back and deal with too many chasers(are they even interested though if I've had surgery?) or other fetishist before I meet someone who "truly" loves me.
I already plan on saying I had a run in with uterine cancer resulting in my infertility. I've already dug myself so deep I feel there's no turning back.
Perhaps it's cause I've never personally encountered any issues being trans, and I'm just insecure. It's just that this lie has made me feel like I'm living how things should have been from the start.
Also I'm not trying to mirror the life of a "cis woman", I've genuinely just always wanted a family and being in a relationship I'm coming terms with that fact, and that is hurting me the most.
Chasers won't be interested in you post surgery, outing yourself will only alienate you. There really isn't anything immoral about what you are doing, because you aren't pretending to be some one you're not, you're not wearing a costume. He's into you as you are, just because he doesn't know what you were like as a kid doesn't mean anything.
Don't throw it all away by being neurotic, he's happy, and you could be to if you embrace that you are a woman, and that's as far as anyone (including yourself) needs to know