Cis male biscum here.
I'm kind of new to the whole "bisexual" thing, and am pretty confused about this whole "sexual fluidity" business.
I was pretty damn straight until I hit 30. At least I think I was. Then - out of nowhere it seems - I started finding men (pretty boy types) more and more attractive. I started watching gay/bi porn for the first time in my life... and I enjoyed it.
I still have a definite preference for women, but I can't deny that I have a desire to fuck dudes and be fucked by dudes.
What really throws me for a loop, though, is that one week I will be really into gay/bi shit... and then the next week I will be mostly interested in women.
These changes are totally chaotic (as near as I can tel)... and sometimes it makes me wonder if I really AM bisexual.
Is this how the whole bi thing works? Are we slaves to random fluctuations in sexuality?
Some of my straight streaks" could be driven by self-loathing. It's hard to tell.
Does the ride ever end?
I came out three years ago. At first I went through the same sudden fluctuations you did, but over time it settled down. I think it has something to do with the novelty of being more free and open with yourself.
That only exists for bi people, but what you're experiencing is normal for any healthy male.
It's a natural thing to have your preference swinging back and forth between the many types of things you're attracted to. Like a gay guy one week preferring to look at bdsm porn and the other at gangbang or interracial.
That seems to be something that mostly only happens with porn tho
I can't speak for anyone else but my "fluidity" is much less frequent. I can go months being attracted to one sex, having a relationship with someone of that sex and, when it ends, flow to the other side and be interested in the other sex for a period of time (months or even years).
I've talked to guys who say they are "straight" but get that itch every few years, hook up with someone for a few months and then go back to being "straight".
I like to watch straight porn(big meaty cocks, mo cocks, mo pleasure), does that mean I'm bisexual? I can't really get hard looking at pics of pussies or tits, but I do get hard looking at a nice erect cock.
I'm only interested in girls when they are covered in cum, or are sucking a dick(I want to be on my knees helping them), when I see a dick going into a pussy I want to lick the balls. I never find it arousing when I think about myself having sex with a woman though, only when other men do it.
Does that mean I'm bisexual? Or just a weak straight man that can't see himself fucking a woman? The only porn I can picture myself in is gay porn, being a bottom bitch, or thinking of sucking cocks.
I think I've got one of those switches deep in my asshole. I use men's dicks to see if they can turn it off. So far, it hasn't worked. Looking for bigger dicks to reach it, maybe one day all this fucking with fix me
>is that one week I will be really into gay/bi shit... and then the next week I will be mostly interested in women.
I know this feel, am AGP too, so its like my gender feelings change with it. I just keep my homo side to myself, I don't think I would carry it out.
Well, apparently a bisexual man leaving a gay man for a woman, because it's usually easier to be in a straight relationship, is something that happens pretty often.
(To be honest, it has happened to me, too)
So, it was expected that some butthurt -pun intended- gays started to hate on bisexuals because of that.
Personally, I just think my ex was an asshole, and that his sexual orientation had little to do with that.