Continuing the qt waifu and crushes theme beyond the Western world.
Who is your non-Western waifu, /lesgen/?
Previous thread: Actress crushes edition >>5503853
Kinoshita Yuka is my Japanese waifu, mainly because I love cute girls who love to eat.
I also get myself off while watching her videos, I don't fucking even know how or why I started.
All of them are cute, but there's just something about her.
It's not bad to ask for closure right, I want to move on but break up texts are lame as fuck and would just like to actually talk with actually hearing eachother.
She is just pushing me away by saying everything I say is an attack and she doesn't want to hear me be sad. It's annoying and it hurts
Well yeah, most people with things had gone differently when a relationship ends.
I can very much relate to your need for closure and shit, because I've been burned by it before. But... yeah, she's hurting too, she needs her space. Trying to get closure or any kind of detail from her is just gong to end badly. She wont give it to you, she'll get more upset, you'll get more upset. Down that way madness lies.
You're gonna have to make peace with probably never knowing what the fuck, im afraid.
>Calling someone a cunt for wanting to know why someone broke up with them
Sounds like you're projecting a bit.
This girl if she looked this good in every angle. This is her most bait pic like this pic somehow inflates her rating to a 8/10 or a 9/10 but if you look at her other pics she's pretty eh. I forget her name.
>Deleted Her app
>Probably gonna delete OKC
Fuck it, this semester I'm volunteering at my city's LGBT center and hanging around all the known gay places. I don't even care that much about a gf, I just want more gay/lesbian friends.
Did anyone else have mostly male friends growing up?
I was never really able to keep my female friends for like more than a school year until I accepted I was gay.
I think it's because I would crush on them and feel weird around them, so the friendship would fizzle
Anyone else experience this?
Growing up, most of my friends were boys, and I've always felt more comfortable around them, not to mention that I shared more interests with them.
Lately though, I'm starting to almost dislike guys. Being in the only grill in a dorm full of guys really is the worst.
When I was a kid, yeah, my best friends were guys just because we had more in common. My sister was the same, to some extent.
Teens though, primarily girls, though the only two friends I still have from teens are guys.
gonna get a okcupid and pof dating profile.
How much shit would I get if I typed "no bisexuals, no trans, no closet case ftms, no radfem or sjw tumblr feminist, no mental issues, I just want a normal gay woman who has a chill sense of humor"
I mean shit, if gays can type "no blacks, no asians" in their profiles and get away with it, why can't I be honest about my preferences?
I'm liking this edition already.
>tfw you'll never have a qt, seemingly cold and distant gf who only opens up to you and is dominant in bed
These past days, I have actually felt bummed out by this fact... I think I might as well go celibate, honestly
i've read some of their blogs and a lot of them sound downright crazytown. Like yeah, I don't wanna date transwomen but it's not right for radfems to constantly shit on them all the time. Just leave them alone. IMO, the only thing radfems should be fighting is against the cotton ceiling meme, but they go to far with everything else, it's become one extremist hate campaign.
I just want a chill cis girl who's smart and well educated/cultured and the further she separates herself from 3rd wave feminism, the better. I want a ambitious woman who's striving for a good career, not some blogger with a woman studies degree crying about how evil porn is on tumblr.
>tfw no old depressed seiyuu waifu to love and take care of
>I just want a chill cis girl who's smart and well educated/cultured and the further she separates herself from 3rd wave feminism, the better. I want a ambitious woman who's striving for a good career, not some blogger with a woman studies degree crying about how evil porn is on tumblr.
If you happen to find where all the sane, educated gay chicks have been hiding, please let me know.
I mean, they're obviously not here on 4chan-- but my experiences with OKC lead me to believe I might as well be looking for a goddamn unicorn.
>that's so sad...
Not really. I've gone on enough comically bad dates to appreciate how absurd the whole courtship thing really is. I gave up after a while because I'm a fairly private person, and that's not terribly conducive to the online dating "scene."
Pertaining to our current theme, is anyone in Asia? I'm currently living in Tokyo and go to an almost all female school, the majority of the few men attending being gay.
I think Japanese girls are fucking adorable but after living here for a while all I find myself wanting is another western girl or a half Japanese/western girl.
Fuck, why can't I be more excited to be surrounded by Japanese qties?
My best friend whom I've known since we were both 4 years old turned out to be gay. I knew he was before he admitted it to himself. He dated girls in high school, but in college he finally came out and started dating dude.
We are currently pretend dating for the sake of our super religiously traditional families. He has a bf. They are so cute together
That sounds fun and I'd like to give it a try seeing as I'm not out and lately it feels like close family and friends are butting in a bit on my sexuality. Don't you get sick of lying to yourself after a while though? I'd imagine being with a guy (even if it's all fake) when all you want is a girl seems like something upsetting and depressing after a while. Unless you already have gf, in that case it sounds like fun 24/7
>go to wedding
>bunch of bullshit political Christian propaganda everywhere
>more than the usual at normal weddings
>literally a two hour sermon and then a wedding with more Biblical stuff pigeon holed in there
>pastor brings up gay marriage
>pastor asks me to dance later
>do it because I am a chicken shit
>all I can think about is this one girl in my Church choir I had a huge crush on
>find out she's gay later in life
>do nothing as usual
im going to have a girl over at my place for the first time in like two years, she has no idea that im really into vidya and i dont really have anywhere to put all of my ridiculously embarrassing shit (like world of warcraft books), is it endearing to find out someone is a fucking sperg loser or am i doomed?
If she acts weird about it just say that you play and the books and shit were gifts. It doesn't look as spergy when you didn't buy it for yourself.
But, you can't really hide this stuff from her if you want any chance at taking it further, that's what kills relationships.
when i was a kid all of my friends were guys, but around junior high school i started hanging out with girls and only girls, trying to convince myself and everyone else that im not the massive fucking homo i am
hahahahaha it worked about as well as you'd expect
so im doomed
i was doing so well at being a normie
honestly what's more intimidating is if she sees that shit and then tells me about her crazy dark secrets like she's into beastiality or some shit
Just tell her you're into vidya and shit if she asks. It's not really a controversial thing anymore... Plus, it's a good test. If she acts shitty because of something so mundane, she's not gf material.
>Does that mean that you're not insane, Tumblr tier, feminist lesbians then?
What are your backgrounds?
I can't speak for >>5521261 but I'm just a white, cis, boring as fuq graduate student who barely has time to lurk legbutt let alone keep up with tumblristas and sjws. Don't get me wrong though--- I'm in a STEM field and I consider myself a feminist (like anyone with ovaries who isn't retarded)...however, I have zero desire to argue with people about it. Although I do enjoy watching people get buttblasted over ridiculous shit, not gonna lie.
My best friend is also gay with a hyper religious family. I'm his filthy heathen friend with a mom who hasn't been to church in decades. His parents recently convinced him to break up with his bf, and he's struggling with his religion and everything right now. I would honestly be his beard if he wanted to, but that would probably make things worse for him mentally.
W-What would happen if I were extremely hot? Would all the qts flock to me and I could finally make my harem dreams come true?
Nice. I'm a finance undergrad who roams the internet for interesting sane lesbians because they're so hard to detect in real life - seriously straight girls are too misleading.
Where are you?
Are you also rich? Having girls around is expensive.
But you could probably join a harem if you are extremely hot.
>Biology of the very, very smol
Cool. I have a B.S. in biology. I was planning on going to grad school for botany like a fucking hippie, but I decided med school was a better decision. Going for pathology now.
> decided med school was a better decision
You are correct. What they don't tell you as an undergrad is that majoring in any of the life sciences will require an advanced degree to be viable as a career (i.e., become an actual scientist). Unless you get a MT certification for clinical labwork, bend over for grad school or wash glassware your whole life.
>Going for pathology
As someone who routinely collects animal feces and biofilms, I applaud your dedication to the scrutiny of nasty shit. Are you in a program yet or still applying?
>What they don't tell you as an undergrad is that majoring in any of the life sciences will require an advanced degree to be viable as a career (i.e., become an actual scientist).
Exactly. Undergrad biology degrees will not get you far without higher education or some sort of certification or licence to do some other shit.
>Are you in a program yet or still applying?
About to start my second semester at UT Medical School.
Are you going to go for a PhD?
>I consider myself a feminist (like anyone with ovaries who isn't retarded)
You sound exactly like this girl I used to date, except she didn't consider herself a feminist. She was an MRA, if anything. She was white, STEM, grad student too. I wish I could overlook the whole "men are oppressed!" thing, but it was just too stupid.
It'll get you a job to live comfortably, nothing luxurious though to begin with. Plus any decent job will have me working 10+ hours a day. Not in it to make a lot of money though- just like the work. I don't have the guts to cut things open so I ruled out lots of sciences early.
>Undergrad biology degrees will not get you far
Couldn't stand going to uni for more than 3 years, Plus most postgrad med/bio/vet courses are competitive to get into down here.
Who pre-ordered Dragon's Dogma? You can romance girls in it.
>medfag on lesgen
Marry me and we can be the most qt couple at the hospital.
I went for medicine for pretty much the same reason - you can always get a job and there are so many different fields you can go into. Occasionally I miss STEM stuff though and I think I'd be in computer science if I wasn't in medicine.
When I started I was thinking about clinical genetics or some lab specialty, but I'm mostly considering anesthesia now. I've always been someone doing important things in the background that no one else wants to do, like glaring at monitors for hours for those 1% moments where you actually have to intervene.
Pathology was cool but having to spend a year just doing autopsies scared me off. I don't mind autopsies, but for a year... it's not that fun.
Fuck me, I missed writers in lesgen? This is what I get for getting sick.
>Are you going to go for a PhD?
That's the plan. I'm in my second semester also at Cornell. Do med students do lab rotations in the beginning to select an advisor, or do you go in having one?
> I wish I could overlook the whole "men are oppressed!" thing, but it was just too stupid.
Don't, because it is stupid. MRAs are just as insufferable as radfems.
>Not in it to make a lot of money though- just like the work
Too many of my undergrad friends got degrees in shit they didn't really care about and now work in retail or are stay at home moms. You'll do great as long as you commit to an employer long enough to pad your resume and are willing to move to where the good paying jobs are.
> I don't have the guts to cut things open so I ruled out lots of sciences early.
There's way more to science than rooting around inside dead animals. It's bullshit that kids are taught that biology = dead frogs. My department has a ton of computational biologists who've only ever seen blood during accidents when cutting their morning bagel.
Man, I had the weirdest dream about the only friend I ever had but haven't seen since fucking 5th grade. We were in a classroom although as adults and she began flirting with me, and so I also began flirting with her, and at the end she was joking and calling me "girlfriend", but it all felt so warm and she was so beautiful.
I don't know what to feel, lesgen, I haven't seen her since 5th grade and I wasn't even gay back then.
>Very true, so many of my friends still don't know what they want to do after two or three transfers. I already live in the city and started working early so my resume's looks better than some kids'.
I see your point about science, I did some physics back in high school and enjoyed it. I just don't have the aptitude to build bridges or unlock the secrets of the universe. All the STEM students I know are very academic, I'm running for the hills as soon as I can get out of university.
This gender rights extremism is shit on both sides. I'd remove myself from anyone who was too serious about it.
Soo I have recently started talking with my ex again and reminisced about our past together a lot. Tonight we were talking about feelings and she confessed that she has to tell me something, and I am still waiting for that message. I think I am falling for her again, lesgen...
>This gender rights extremism is shit on both sides. I'd remove myself from anyone who was too serious about it.
This. Just want a normal gf who's not crazy about either side and has better and more productive things to do then angrily argue about gender politics on tumblr/reddit/4chan.
Why she your ex?
Yeh,it sure feels good when it happens. My brain always refuses to believe they are really checking me out, though. In the back of my mind I believe I am merely projecting and there are no such things as lesbians beside me IRL.
If I ever find someone who loves me,I'll be one forever happy camper.
How do you get into med school without preparing at least your sophomore year? I wanted to but it was too fucking expensive for my GPA so I opted for grad school.
I have never heard of exes getting back together and staying together. Not gay ones anyway. There's a first for everything tho. Buy whatever broke you two up can do again if not fixed now.
Who else here /transgenderbutpostherepretendingtobenottransgender/?
> has better and more productive things to do then angrily argue about gender politics on tumblr/reddit/4chan
The loudest are usually the most visible and it makes their true numbers appear inflated. I've met a lot of nice, sane, and attractive chicks in college...too bad they were either straight, taken, ace, or adverse to dating for career reasons.
Although grad school makes people kind of nuts
>tfw I know that feel
>tfw you can't tell if you want her or want to look like her
Either way, goals tbqh
>My brain always refuses to believe they are really checking me out, though. In the back of my mind I believe I am merely projecting and there are no such things as lesbians beside me IRL.
That is me 100%.
I see girls looking at me while smiling, and I always think they're sort of making fun of me for some reason, then I think about it afterward and realise they were checking me out baka
>Just want a normal gf who's not crazy about either side
Me too anon. Too bad they've taken over all lesbian communities. At least radfems won't call me a bigot for not wanting to date trannies. I went into STEM myself to get away from all of this, but it seems like I can't ever be free. I just want a sensible lesbian who shares my worldview but isn't bogged down by self pity.
I think it is true that women face more challenges due to the way we are raised and socialized. There is also a biological aspect, as in, a man will never have to sacrifice his career in anyway to have a child. A man will also most likely be physically stronger. An average man can probably beat me up with very little risk of physical retaliation.
I prefer to move past this, for the most part, rather than dwell on it. I think it is better to be more pragmatic than idealistic with the current set up. The legal side of equality is already mostly in place. It's probably better to work with the system than to demand further amendments. Sometimes it's not fair, but I think we should still try our best to make do, rather than dye our hair green and go stomping around with a protest sign and a bra.
>Sometimes it's not fair, but I think we should still try our best to make do, rather than dye our hair green and go stomping around with a protest sign and a bra.
Maybe that's just the nature of protests and that they're mostly ineffective?
>It's probably better to work with the system than to demand further amendments.
To amend the system is to work with it, I'd say, assuming you're talking about the American legal system. But that's a job for those with political power; our jobs as regular citizens is to stay informed and to hold our leaders accountable for the decisions they make.
>Maybe that's just the nature of protests and that they're mostly ineffective?
I think they worked to some degree. The early days of the civil rights movement, women's suffrage, and pride. I think the difference is that the law is clearly prejudiced at that time. As things currently are, the law already promotes equality and people are protesting social issues. I don't think the social issues we face today can be fixed through protest.
> To amend the system is to work with it, I'd say, assuming you're talking about the American legal system.
My issue wasn't with amending, it was the demand part. No amount of shouting or yelling will stop your average douchebag from calling women sluts, for example. The only thing you can do is probably own it, critique those in power who slut shame/rape (e.g. celebrities), and teach our children better. Social change will always lag behind.
>I don't think the social issues we face today can be fixed through protest.
I can agree in a sense; new times call for new tactics.
>The only thing you can do is probably own it, critique those in power who slut shame/rape (e.g. celebrities), and teach our children better. Social change will always lag behind.
That last one is so important, I think--the messages we send to future generations are vital for creating a better world. People have to lead by example.
>missed an opportunity to kiss at
Just end my shit senpai. As I'm telling this story to the last girl I had the same problem with...she came onto me hard and I had no idea how to respond except being awkward. She ended up having to literally dry hump me as we were half asleep for me to acknowledge the hint. Thst was years ago and we're good friends now but...now I'm going through the same shit with another chick. Why the fuck can't I just stop being awkward around qts for 2 seconds. God. Damnit.
Lesbian-onee-sans, why does it take my girlfriend ninety minutes to come? Even when she's alone, it takes her that long. When I wear a strap-on, I get exhausted and end up just laying there like, a quarter of the way in, and there's no god damn way I can finger her through to completion. It takes me about forty seconds to finish. How do I speed her up? I wanna actually get her to the end, not just sit there like a sex toy, but it's so exhausting.
Nah bitch is all over me; she initiates 99% of the time. Plus, like I said, it takes her just as long when she's by herself. (Studio apartment; sometimes I'm too lazy so she just takes care of herself.) I indulge in her weird-ass fetishes, too.
So, I'm dating a police lady and to be honest the fact that she is a cop is kinda hot right?
Would it be offensive like, try to work that into sexy time?
Has anyone ever had a job that was kinda fetishized like a nurse or something?
Would it have bugged you if your partner was into it?
personality thing. I can't imagine why she would be opposed to it, though, much less be offended by it. As long as you make sure she knows you're not only dating her because she's a police officer. Either way, only she will be able to tell you if she is into that sort of thing or not, so you will need to ask her.
I'm not really good at emotional talk stuff like telling people I love them and all.
Correct, I was asking that.
I posted here after getting my first date with her and a lot of people kinda reeeed over me dating a cop and I was just curious why.
What kinda uniforms? No homo senpai just intrigued.
If she had a fetish for a minimum wage book store cashier I would totally be willing to fulfill that.
You won't. Life is not an anime, your dream girl won't just come over and talk to you, no matter where you are.
Get some self esteem, improve yourself, make some friends, etc... Them you'll meet girls everywhere you go. Become a pussy magnet.
Ask yourself, would you date yourself? If the answer is no, work on the issues and ask again later.
>tfw you rewatch the same clips over and over again, pausing to stare at her face
I think I'm in love.
True, some people get fat as fuck in college since they start drinking and eating like shit.
But as a 5'2" womanlet I still get to wear shit from middle school that fits just right. Also I'm disgusted by fat people, so I stay fit and all that.
Got some real homemade ones on my phone.
>not making your own white/asian lesbian porn
>she's pretty eh. I forget her name.
anzuumanju i think is how you spell it, but i would love love love to have her for lunch, she looks like a pillow princess. I feel so dirty i think she's 19 but yeah she's super cute 9/10
>non western waifu
i really have a crush on victoria lovelace, she liked one of my pictures on instagram and ive been following her work ever since.
she even stalks my art work every once in a while it makes me cry every time.,
That's what you get for not enjoying superior commonwealth education.
My uniform doesn't really fit me that well any more since I've grown a bit taller, so the skirt is a little shorter than I'd like and the blazer doesn't quite reach my wrists.
I'm also part of the army reserve so I've got a very unflattering set of DPMs and boots.
so? I've seen her photos with out makeup she's really pretty to me anon. But i dont limit myself to one type of women top kek
Fuck Victoria is hot, I really love this kinda of look.
Of course I'm in love with Adora as well, damn it why do girls like them have to be so rare?
Army boots are great though, I'd join up just for them honestly.
And besides, even the unflattering kind of military uniform is still fun. Like, loose clothes with nothing underneath? That's a fun time.
And I got lucky and shot up in height quite young, so my year 10/11 uniform still fits me really well. If anything, the skirt's a little big for me now
>tfw don't want to go to work
I'm so tempted to be a lazy piece of shit and call in.
Lesgen are you out to your family? I've been putting off coming out to mom for years and I'm getting kind of tired of it. I'm pretty sure she knows but I don't like the idea of confirming it either. I'm fairly private by nature so I never saw the point in coming out until, like, I dropped an engagement announcement on everyone, but lately hearing her ask me about guys and shit is almost exhausting. How did you all come out?
I told my mum before I was visiting a friend, so she couldn't question me right away.
It was easier for me since my brother is gay too and he was already out so I knew she was accepting.
Rest of my familty doesn't know though. Aside from my parents/siblings
I can't really tell how my mom would be. She says she's fine with gay people and has asked me outright if I was gay, adding that she wouldn't care. But she does say homophobic shit, and use slurs, as well and says as long as she doesn't say it to someone that's gay it's fine. My stepdad is pretty religious, and I've never heard him use any slurs, but he has said he wishes he didn't have to see gay people everywhere on tv. My little brother is autistic and parrots whatever my stepdad says.
I'm out to my friends and had no issues there at all. And half the people I work with are gay so that's whatever. I'm just tired.
>How did you all come out?
My mother had awesome reaction but I regret doing it still
>parents be divorced
>was alone at father house
>he abused me and my sister when we were kid
>comes into my room and hints me that he wants to fuck me
>realises he don't give a shit about incest prohibtion or wtv
>start seeing world fucking oddly
>feel like I'm going to die or have a heart attack
>call my mom and come out to her in fucking psychosis mode
>she takes it well
>I felt fucking nothing
It was like 2 years ago, I was having dissociative disorder, I still have it now, I don't plan on coming out to my father since I want him to stay far away from my sexuality
Told my story before so quick version is that I came out when I was 17 and was kicked out of the house.
If you even remotely feel your mother won't accept you, have money and a place to stay lined up. Have a job to support yourself. If you're in school, and they support you, better to wait.
>friend's birthday party
>20 or so people there
>we're playing cards against humanity
>friend keeps leaning on me
>cuddling all gay like in front of a bunch of people
>people are in different room
>we're both on sofa
>she's snuggling into my neck
>start kissing each other on face
>start making out
>oh dear god
>when people walk into the room, they nope the fuck out
>when girl walks out I call "You can join in if you like."
>"Oh my god, Anon"
>"Just kidding, I'd rather just have you"
>end up going upstairs
>don't want to soil any beds
>go into bathroom
>makeout in bathtub
>fingering and eating out
>someone knocks on door
>"Anon's friend, are you in there?"
>"Is Anon in there?"
>Call out "Yep!"
>More sex stuff
>Stop when we both need to take meds
>go back down and carry on as normal
Neither of us came and she's straight and loves dick. But I love her anyway.
Tell her you've got more penises than she's got holes. They're detachable, vibrate, are ribbed and can reaches places the real thing can't.
I have actually used this while trying to pick up straight girls before. It didn't work, but it got a laugh and once a kiss on the cheek. So that was nice, I guess.
I lived with my mother as a kid/teen. I didn't have this whole big "mom, I'm a lesbian" thing, but from an early age on, I talked about how I find certain women qt, and never talked about guys. So that sort of settled it, it was clear for her that I was only interested in girls. I don't remember if I actually had a proper coming out moment. When we talk about sexual orientation nowadays, I just refer to myself as homo without thinking about it.
>If you were gay
>I'd shout hooray!
>And here i'd stay
>but I wouldn't get in your way
>you can count on me
>to always be
>beside you every day
>to tell you it's ok
>you were just born that way
>and as they say, it's in your DNA
>be kissless virgin
>have qt friend
>she's adores you
>offers to help you experiment
>hold her hand
>kiss her hand
>touch her breasts
>best feeling in the world
Why must I be taunted by dreams?
>holds hands and kisses girlfriends in public
>goes to gay bars and clubs with other gay friends
>only hangs out with girls
>has an older girlfriend who sends me expensive gifts and pays for a lot of things
>"oh your friend is really generous and really seems to care about you"
I'm still closeted to family and some other acquaintances, kek.
From normalfag to /d/, only counting things we do: choking, biting, hitting, hair pulling, tight collars, doggy paw gloves, barking, dog dildos, hand holding. She's a zoophile piece of shit.
She's weird as fuck but I've been with her eight years and I'm still absolutely head-over-heels for her, plus she puts up with my bullshit, so I don't mind.
Sometimes I do tell her that she has to get herself started, but it seems like she resets once I'm added in, and then it takes another hour.
>if only you had a penis, Anon
The last girl I was in love with said that to me, when she knew I loved her. She was also straight and obsessed by the dick. And now she's a landwhale and everytime I think of of her I laugh.
>dream about having sex with Cate Blanchett
It was weird because of our age difference but at the same time it was so good
>tfw when I was one of the Cate Blanchett posters
>tfw older women are very much my thing
>tfw I can't even get laid in my dreams
You lucky lady, Anon. Was she dressed as one of the characters she played?
Hello sweet peas. Did you miss me?
I had a dream that my crush and I were dating. We hugged, kissed, and everything was perfect. I was very happy.
Then my alarm goes off and I wake up only to remember that she has been ignoring me for the past 2 months.
Pls advice baby dyke. In a few weeks I'm going to a lesbian party and my plan is to get 100% laid. Thing is I'm kinda shy and inexperiences, so while I just want to say "take me home with you and have sex all night" when making out with a girl, I just don't know what to say or when. How do?
(it's not in my city so I can't bring someone with me)
Bibimbab is soooo good, it's close to top of "dishes I want to learn"
I hate that this new Her update notifies you when you have unanswered comments and I HATE that now it puts the onus on YOU to comment to people who express interest, not the other way around.
Also, hardly any lesbians in there like snakes or lizards and I just can't be with a woman who'd find my career gross (I'm a herpetology student)
>shy and inexperienced
Have two drinks, no more than that because looking like a sloppy mess isn't cute, it'll make you calm down and will give you this nice buzz and confidence boost. Smile, eye contact, seduce the girl but don't make yourself sound like you're thirsty as fuck by saying "take me home with you and have sex all night".
I have a friend who has zero flirting skills and she always ends up losing the girl to me, not because I say anything in particular that would make a girl swoon, I just ask about her, you gotta act like you're interested in her and make her talk about herself, then it's all about attitude, be close to her, smile to her, keep making eye contact, if you're in a club and the music is deafening it's even better because whenever you lean in to talk to her you can put your hand on her lower back/back/shoulder. Make sure that this is okay though because you don't want to come off as clingy, just read the mood. If she's receptive she'll want to touch you too and will do the same.
Anyway just play it cool and don't let her know that you're desperate for sex.
Thank you, Anon!
(Pictured is the only girl in my life right now)
Damn, someone besides me know Dennou Coil here.
One of my best friends is married, and I've met his wife a few times.
She is hugely into snakes and lizards, and has half a dozen pet snakes of varying sizes, as (apparently) are a couple of her friends.
He has also made jokes a few times about how she seems to have a crush on me. So perhaps she isnt all that straight.
Either way, they're out there anons
I absolutely love snakes, I used to have two boas and a king snake before I had to move overseas. Broke my heart to have to have someone else take them. I used to fantasize about all the different color morphs and go to reptile conventions haha.. I miss it.
>tfw you don't have a dominant gf that pins you to the bed and fucks you in the ass
on a side note, are people in /legsen/ mostly doms/subs?
>the further she separates herself from 3rd wave feminism
you do realize 3rd wave is like the opposite of radfems, right? Like it's about female sexual subjectivity and staying feminine, mostly.
this is a great idea except for the fact that the people who would join are basically the worst parts of tumblr.
>feminist (like anyone with ovaries who isn't retarded)
desu I think you're overestimating how shitty tumblr is. I follow some grad student friends, as well as local lesbians and it's not that bad. Most of the shitposting comes from a younger crowd.
I don't think being a feminist has to be a huge time commitment.
>tfw no dom gf to pin you with her legs
the problem I've had is that they're not hanging out in the campus lgbt clubs.
>At least radfems won't call me a bigot for not wanting to date trannies.
They're also transphobic though. And they're kind of ridiculous assholes too, for that matter.
>The legal side of equality is already mostly in place. It's probably better to work with the system than to demand further amendments. Sometimes it's not fair, but I think we should still try our best to make do, rather than dye our hair green and go stomping around with a protest sign and a bra.
wat. There's legislation to be written. And not all activism has to be green haired dipshits.
>>Went to a party and met this girl a few months ago who immediately adds me on fb and seems to be lurking all my shit.
>>I unfriended her and she sends me a request an hour later
>>She's bi and I'm not into her, she's not my type at all.
>>She tries to play people to see who she can get to chase her.
>>I just flat out act naïve about her flirting with me hard.
>>Some really nice people are into this bitch she's playing them hard.
I just want teach this girl a lesson but I've no idea what to do.
>tfw don't want to date a really subby girl again
>tfw don't really consider myself sub, either
>implying I will ever find love
It's not that hard switching it up anon. I was in the same boat. I got tired as fuck being dom all the time and walked away. It was fun for awhile but it started to hurt when my sub just wanted me to do shit to her constantly but never did anything to me at all. Then again she never had done anything before or even wanted to practice to get better like I had to for her. I don't always want to be dom so it would be fun finding someone who would be willing to switch it up.
>never did anything to me at all
That's not a sub, that's a lazy bitch. My girlfriend is submissive and always begs me to let her eat me out, she also fucks me, etc. Now the question is why the fuck would anyone stay with someone who doesn't reciprocate?
Sorry you had a shitty girlfriend. Though I guess I'm one to talk. The first girl I ever had sex with, I was kind of a pillow princess. Mainly because I was going through some pretty severe depression at that point, repressing hard and pretending everything was fine. So my sex drive was pretty much nil. Along with my will to do everything else. She was really persistent though and so it was easier to let her just go down on me a while than keep explaining myself. The few times I actually felt good enough to reciprocate, I did. I felt guilty for it for a while, but our relationship was kind of unhealthy in a lot of ways. I finally broke it off.
The second girl I dated really sounds like the girl you're describing. I had to take the lead for a lot of stuff. I like experimenting, but I'm not really confident so I felt anxious during a lot of the sex. (More than normal.) I really liked it, though. Would your girlfriend just not reciprocate at all?
That, my girlfriend in high school and a one night stand that I was blackout drunk during and don't really remember (on the rebound from the first girl) is the extent of my experience.
Ideally, I'd like to be able to switch it up. Because both roles sound fun. I think once I gain more confidence, I'd probably be better at it.
Im sort of dating at the moment.
She's really cool, great fun, neat interests that match up with mine. She's clever, and she's a qt.
The problem is that she doesnt have many friends. Like, at all.
Now I dont have an issue with that, but it means that basically I've become responsible for her evening's entertainment.
Like, where before she might get bored of an evening with none of her friends around, she might watch a film and go to bed, now she instead kinda gets passive aggressive about it to me about how bored she is.
And like, sure, a lot of the time I'm totally okay to just drop whatever pointless shit Im doing and go do fun stuff with her.
But sometimes Im already doing stuff with my friends, or sometimes Im working, and she gets just as blame-y about that too.
Basically it feels like she's kinda just depending on me to make her life fun. Which, if we'd been dating for months and months or were long-term, then sure, Id maybe see a point there. But we've only been on like two dates so far.
Am I being a bitch, or is this a bit too... i dont know, 'clingy' a bit too fast?
I did, I told her id really like to be sub for once and asked her to try it and it was awful. She couldn't make me wet or did anything I liked and completely put in no love or effort. I told her what things I liked which was all the same stuff I did to her andshe snapped at me for ever suggesting it again. She kept telling me my sex drive was too high but wanted me to do everything to her.
I do like kissing, teasing, biting a little, back clawing, ear nibbling, hickies, nip suckling, hand holding while fucking--some vanilla stuff to be cute instead of just fucking with none of that, and it got boring after awhile. She even stopped playing with my hair, whimpering my name and kissing me when Id go down on her which I really loved and that hurt a lot. It began to feel meaningless and empty. I wanted to love and feel loved and she just wanted me to fuck her.
We talked about it but she flat out just admitted after awhile she wanted me only for sex and for me to be dom only so I told her I wasn't going to treat her the same anymore and was going to treat her how I feel she treated me.
For awhile I just fucked her roughly, no effort and just did whatever I wanted using her like a plaything making her beg to cum and wouldn't finish her right before she was about to out of spite, or I get up and leave the bed afterwards instead of cuddle and pet her all over like I used to. But I'll find someone else, at least I have the experience from it.
I'm like 80% Dom 20% Sub. I used to be fully Dom but don't want to go full tumblr but had a traumatic experience and it's kind of made me go soft a little. Been trying to force myself to act how I used to tho and no it wasn't rape.
>Bibimbab is soooo good, it's close to top of "dishes I want to learn"
Tell her how you feel. Not having lots of friends is fine and doing stuff together is fine, but being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spend all your free time together. You should both have a healthy amount of alone time, and that amount depends on the person so communication is a necessity.
Yeah I guess that's true.
I just dont really know how to say it in a way that wont sound, to her, like 'i dont want to spend as much time with you'.
Like, she has some bad abandonment things going on from a couple of previous relationships that dont really come up much, but I feel like this will probably be a thing that sets them off.
Take it slow, if you can. Next time she acts passive-aggressive, ask what's wrong, etc. You don't need to solve the problem all in one go, just a little bit each time it comes up might work.
That's kinda what i've been trying. THing is, she just saying "Well my friends have gone to bed, so Im really bored now"
And there's a very unsubtle HINTHINTHINTHINT underlaid.
We talked about it once and she was all 'i don really mind dropping my friends to hang out with you' and... I dont know. On the one hand, yeah, your girlfriend should have a higher priority than your normal friends, but I'm not even close to comfortable just dropping my friends at a moment's notice cos she's free and bored and shit.
I dont even know if Im just being a shit girlfriend.
I guess I'll try and work on the best way to word it.
Oops. Forgot to storytime.
>hanging out with old friend I haven't seen in forever
>she's super hot and super straight. I used to jokingly flirt with her because I knew I'd never have a chance, so it made it easier. Any other time I'm a wreck around chicks
>anyway years later we get back in touch and decide to grab a drink. I hadn't been with a woman in years and years so by that point I was feeling down in the dumps and needed a good distracting night with friends anyway
>she spends the whole night play flirting with me. Touching my butt, grinding on me, rubbing my head. I figure it's just to sort of tease the dudes we're hanging with. Typical straight girl things. It gets me excited but I don't think much about it otherwise
>she drinks way too much, I have to drive her back to her place
>as I drop her off she says she doesn't want to be drunk alone in her place and can I please sleep over? Fine fine
>we have some more drinks and share her huge bed
>as we start passing out she cuddles me. Still, I think nothing much of it. I've heard that girls do that sometimes, just cuddle. That's cool
>I slowly drift off to sleep
>wake up however much later in a daze, because I feel something weird on the back of my neck. is that her breathing?
>it keeps happening. I realize she's kissing the back of my neck. My heart starts racing out of my chest
>she just keeps doing it softly, gradually more and more. Lower down my neck and back
>her arms were already wrapped around my chest. Now they're slowly rubbing around my stomach and hips, up and down, closer and closer
>the whole time I don't know how to react. At first I pretend to still be asleep. But she keeps being more insistent. It's getting hard to pretend as my body reacts more, I start shaking everytime she touches me
>my brain shuts off, I don't know what to do. I roll over and all I can think to stammer out is "d-d-do you wanna?..."
>she tells me to take my pants off
>fuck buddies for months after
I think I'm about 50/50. I'd like to out-and-out dom more but any chick I've been with is sort of a pansy, they say they want it but as soon as it starts getting a little rough they complain. Kind of kills the mood and my desire to try again with them. I promise I'm not even that rough, or at least I haven't been. If I found a tough chick I could be rough for her, but I don't like actually causing people unwanted pain so I always start off very gentle and yet somehow it's still too much. So annoying.
Thank you kind anon for your guidance.
I think my problem is that my inexperience makes me inassertive and thus difficult to read, because I'm not that confident yet. I'll keep practising.
Side note on a side note, any guesses for the sub/dom ratio among lesbians in general? I could imagine the dom number not being that low, actually.
Yeah, it's really sad, since most reptiles are cuties.
Yep, she's just a regular morph! She was an adoption, since the people who had her had NO IDEA what they were doing. She came in with horrible sheds.
I went to my state's reptile con this year. I almost got a blue-eyed Lucy...
She's doing the same thing right now. She likes to look out into the room.
Oh man I love Leucistic and albino reptiles. I would have been tempted to get one, too.
There was a really cute piebald ball python for adoption at my pet store. But I don't know enough about snakes to be able to take good care of one just yet. I've always wanted one, though. I'm glad you gave your girl a good home.
Ball pythons are not too hard! The problem is that they require higher humidity than most snakes AND they tend to go off feed if your husbandry is off.
She's actually my first BP; I've kept lizards and frogs before, but not snakes. The professor in my program was confident I'd do well with snakes too though, hence this girl.
My other two are leopard geckos and a ghost mantis.
>are people in /legsen/ mostly doms/subs?
I used to actually think of myself as being exclusively dom, but lately I've been finding macho attitudes in pretty and femme ladies to be quite the turn on.
>dominant gf that pins you to the bed
>mfw I'm not a dom or a sub, I just like having sex with people as equals with no power play
Why's there always gotta be some weird power bullshit? Just have mutual sex like normal people ffs.
Er, this was a couple years ago. We had our fun, knowing that we couldn't really date because she always wanted to end up with a dude. She found a nice man, they're married now. We still hang out all the time, dude is cool. Her and I still fuck on occasion, maybe once in a blue moon. No drama or worries. If her hubby asked us to stop we would. Everything turned out ok.
good luck with that!
I think part of it is getting in the mood. I can take a lot more pain when I'm turned on and I feel safe/protected.
I want to know this because I'm a submissive piece of shit myself and I always end up meeting submissive or taken girls, which is kind of frustrating.
it's not like dick taints you forever, Jesus. You sound ridiculously insecure.
They tell you they're gonna use you for sex up front, why complain? If you want love then say no.
Weirdly enough I'm trying to find my dominant side. I feel like as a dominant femme I would get a lot of attention.
That is the dream.
She had a happy ending, why are you whining?
>not keeping your gf in a chastity belt
>not beating her for acting like a human and using words you dont like
>not forcing her to pleasure you for as long as you please
>not laughing at her while she cries in frustration
go back to 9gag norma
i raised a ball python when i was younger, they are really cute. i live in louisiana so its really easy to take care of one here, we had a pet alligator for a long time too, eventually donated it to a zoo since it was so large and already used to captivity, i would go and visit since i loved her so much.
Why is that an accomplishment? Dennou Coil is relatively well known, especially in /a/ and /u/.
>going to the gym to get stronk
>want a taller, older gf that's mostly dom
>tfw it would be fun to occasionally and somewhat unexpectedly wrestle her into submission and then adoringly fuck the shit out of her
>constantly horny for unknown reason
>come home late during weekend + monday
>go straight to bed because starting early next day
>not even time for a quick fix
>finally come home somewhat early on tuesday
>go to bed a few hours later
>mfw it's back again
>I've been finding macho attitudes in pretty and femme ladies to be quite the turn on.
Yes, same here. Nothing hotter than a femme who carries herself with lots of confidence and isn't afraid to show her attraction.
>>Tfw feminine, 5'3 and skinny
>>Tfw no taller 5'6-5'8 tanned skinned skin, fit or curvy gf to dominate or switch rolls with sometimes, go on ridiculous adventures, have spontaneous fun sex with, and love unconditionally.
Fuck my life.
>being constantly horny
>not loving it
>not furiously masturbating until you injure the tendons in your wrist
Get on my level, plebsauce
High-quality fanfiction porn. I also have trouble getting turned-on when not in the presence of a hot grill (more so since I got on muh meds), so when I've got a decent chunk of free time, I pull up the high-rated fanfic porn of my current ship, read through them until I'm seriously hot and fucking bothered, and then do multiple orgasms (simultaneous g-spot and clit is the fuckin' life) in rapid succession until I'm completely spent.
Feels fucking great, I tell you what.
>Anon character sheet
>real life: 0
It would be more ok, if it wasn't this kind where it feels like I'm about to claw at the walls because I _really_ need someone to fuck me to reach the required level of stimulation. Now I can barely sleep and I can barely do anything about it because I don't have that kind of time right now.
Another dom here, I have a sadistic streak which makes getting involved with anyone new a bit difficult as I'm not sure of her boundaries. Everyone loves to say they can take more than they really can.
It's gotten to the point that unless there is some kind of domination and infliction of pain I cannot get turned on at all.
I also cannot switch unfortunately, the thought of submitting makes me fucking furious in an unhealthy way.
im the same way. my current gf talked her ability to take it up a lot and when she realized how rough i could be we had to scale back things a lot. we mesh in a lot of ways but im the first person shes dated thats really been kinkier than she is, and she has trouble handling how far it can go. still love her even if she is a googoo marshmallow girl though, and i still get to beat other people to my hearts content
Because I'm too young for her.
>crippling anxiety disorder and moderate to severe depression
>not stable even enough to drive a car or live on my own yet
>wear shit like three wolf moon shirts unironically
As shitty as my mental health is right now, I feel like it wouldn't be fair to enter into a relationship with someone no matter how much I want a gf.
anxiety disorder is really rough. i got diagnosed with schizophrenia years ago and its real shit. my gf had severe anxiety issues and it pretty much broke apart our relationship with how bad she ended up getting
Dunno. Am I you? Wouldn't be the first time I've suddenly felt like nothing is real.
Holy shit that's rough. I'm glad you got help, though.
I went through 29 years of thinking that it's normal to be worried and uncomfortable constantly to the extent that sometimes even just making it through the day seems like an insurmountable challenge. I'm trying to get treatment, but it feels weird now that I've finally admitted to having a problem. I'm going to keep getting better hopefully, but I'll probably have to be on pills the rest of my life.
I'm worried what will happen to you and your gf will happen to me if I start to like a girl at the point where I'm at right now. Did your gf get help?
>tfw olive skin tone
>tfw into short girls
Anon, I think you and I are made for each other.
pills dont really do anything for me, i just practice a lot of goofy meditation and occult stuff and it helps me a lot regardless of how silly it sounds. i used to keep a journal but it scared me too much and i ended up going through too much money burning them. ive fucked up a few relationships with varying craziness but i kind of manage.
i moved her in with me since she was in a really bad place and i wanted to help her but i couldnt afford to really get her the help she needed, and theres no resources around us. she has a part time job and helps but psychiatric help is expensive and the pills even more so. shes going to move away soon to be with some better family across the US who can help her properly so we're pretty much broken up. getting a gf could probably help you a lot but you do need to focus on being better yourself, if you make progress to being better i think plenty of girls would be okay when you need some extra support.
Femslash ficrec masterpost? Femslash ficrec masterpost.
Note: I absolutely love romance shit, so while some of these are PWP, a lot of them are longer romance/relationship fics that contain sex. I left off anything that isn't properly pornographic, though.
Applied Quantum Superluminal Communication - My all-time favorite for this fandom
Gone To The Dogs - This one is VERY long and mostly relationship/love focused. There are some really good sex chapters, though.
Would It Be Okay If I Took Your Breath Away - Just good PWP
True And Deep As The Sea - Read the sequel too
This Side Of Me - I fucking love this one
Your Mind Is A Moment - Weird coffee shop AU (why are these so popular?) but hot as fuck
Follow Me Down The Rabbit Hole - BDSM relationship series. Not reeeaally my thing most of the time, but definitely hot.
Weekend Plans - Another longer one
Where The Devil Don't Go - PWP
Doused and Confused - SEX POLLEN because sex pollen. What a ridiculous trope.
Meant For Indulgence - Just good PWP
Hopefully I'm not forgetting any.
Pls feel free to share good femslash back, anons.
Yeah, I was like that for a few years. I was right, too. My mental health was shit and there was no good that could come from trying to handle a relationship in that state.
I got treatment and I'm doing a lot better now, though. So I should really get back out there.
Same, every doctor I've seen (reluctantly during psychotic episodes etc) has given me a differnt diagnosis- shcizo, biplolar etc :/
haha being gay and mental is good material at least, for creative types.
Do you feel they're related?
i got bpd, depression, anxiety, eventually they settled on schizo and it seems to fit. i do legit have brain problems though, had some medical tests and dont produce the right chemicals, probably a side effect of some conditions from when i was a kid.
i totes think being mental helps my creativity, i do a lot of creative stuff to try and make money so i can quit normal jobs since they pretty much destroy me. i dont think being gay and crazy are connected though.
Because I'm an autist piece of shit and don't plan to change.
>i just practice a lot of goofy meditation and occult stuff and it helps me a lot regardless of how silly it sounds.
If it works, it works. I try to use a combination of pills, therapy, exercise and other shit to help. Everyone has their own solution to shit like this.
Well I'm glad she's moving on to a better place. It must suck to end a relationship, though.
>psychiatric help is expensive and the pills even more so
Oh my fucking god yes. And I don't make enough money for the government to help pay insurance premiums, apparently. Because I, too, work a shitty part time job. I'm thinking of just going on Medicaid. Thankfully once I start grad school, I'll be able to have my university's insurance.
It's good to know I'm not the only one.
Best of luck, anon! I hope you find a qt.
You're doing God's work, sis.
There's different kinds of help than medical professionals, and desu I don't think medicine attracts the kind of people who are good at empathy and imagination which is needed to understand the schizo brain.
I've made better progress talking with other people, meditating alone, reading novels around the topic than any therapy or meds have offered me.
Warm winters, hot, rainy, humid summers with the occasional hurricane or tornadoes. I think it has only snowed 2 or 3 times here, but it would melt by sunrise.
As crappy as the weather is, I still enjoy living here.
my first few therapists were patronizing shits but thankfully i ended up getting a psychiatrist who basically functioned as my therapist too and she made me feel better instead of trying to force me into some nonsense i had already tried and made me feel worse for being a failure and not being normal. never been committed but almost put myself in one time, decided against it at the last minute after driving for five hours.
the pills never helped and at this point therapy is too expensive for the minor benefit it offers. i do work out a lot though. and it does suck.
my insurance is like 700 and thats really cheap for me considering, and i get it cut down to like 300 for being poor enough. its an awful local company though, but at least ive only got a few grand in medical debt instead of like 10k plus. hope you do well on your GRE's anon, grad school can be rough.
therapy helped a little bit, mainly when i was utterly alone and had no where else to turn. eventually i managed to stop going and am much better off without feeling like i need to pay somebody to help me with my problems.mental health is a really subjective thing, and most therapists are really shit
Nice, I lucked out. I got an ocean breeze to keep me cool in the summer and warm in the winter. Never delt with tornados though! Would be cool to see one in person provided no one got hurt from it haha. I like storm watching.
Anon, if you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
Awesome! Happy early birthday!!
I'll be 22 in a couple months. Always wanted to hit up Houston at some point, had some friends and family go there and they said it was nice and had a lot of fun things to do.
Ugh. That sucks. But I'm glad the government can cover some of the costs. You're right, though, Therapy is way the hell expensive. I was told I need to see a therapist every week, but I don't have 150-175 dollars a week to drop on an expense like that. I can barely afford to cover my expenses as it is.
I did really shitty on the math (Only 146), but well on the other ones.
I think it's because I had to re-learn a shit ton of math I haven't done in a long time. Once I get the hang of it, I'll be better. I hope so, anyway. The thought of going to grad school has got me really stressed out and I'm worried I won't be able to do it.
If it fails, I'll just be a custodian or something. Fuck it. If I get a job scrubbing toilets at university, I'll make more than double what I'm making now and probably have university employee benefits as well as access to their facilities.
Aiming to be a doctor or a nurse? That's way cool! I'm horribly stubborn at going to the doctors haha, I don't mind the dentist at all though. I work outside for a living so I catch a cold here and there but it's not too bad. And I imagine it must be kinda dusty there if the wind picks up.
>Everyone loves to say they can take more than they really can.
I mean, yeah. Part of it is easing in to things I think. I can take a lot more pain when I'm horny/feeling safe.
tbqh I'm afraid of finding a dom girl kinkier than me. I would feel like a failure.
a match made in heaven.
>Aiming to be a doctor or a nurse?
Neither, actually. I'm going for pathology; clinical lab pathology. I much rather work in a lab than with actual patients.
>I work outside for a living
What do you do?
Would you like to take this conversation outside of this thread?
most people can take a lot more pain when theyre horny or feeling safe, but if you say you like rough beatings or getting choked and then cant take a mild slap or anything but simple spanking and freak out the second you start feeling your lungs burn a little youre really up talking your ability to take it.
ive never met somebody who could match me when it came to kinkiness. though ive had a couple come close.