hi friends i dont know where to ask this question or who to ask it to so im defaulting to this board.
the gist of it is im a kind of androgynous bi/pansexual male and i think im going through the whole gender dysphoria thing. that said, i dont want to be a trans woman but i dont really want to be a man either. and with THAT said im still interested in hrt.
is hrt acceptable/prescribed even if the individual doesn't want to be full trans? it may be a dumb question but like i said, this is the only place i could think to ask it relatively guilt-free.
Yeah, you're looking for nonbinary transition, basically. It's a bit harder to get than standard transition, but still easy enough.
What changes do/don't you want from HRT? There's a limit to what's physically possible.
The standards of care that most professionals who deal with this stuff follow suggest that non-binary folks should be given a proper evaluation and HRT reflecting their identity if necessary.
Here are the standards of care: http://www.wpath.org/uploaded_files/140/files/Standards%20of%20Care,%20V7%20Full%20Book.pdf
It includes genderqueer people and the like from the start at page 15 (of the pdf. The page is numbered 9 on the document pages) in suggesting therapeutic and medical treatment options.
I've personally asked my doctor about it last year because I have a friend in a similar situation and her response (though it doesn't necessarily reflect every doctor's, obviously) was that she wouldn't see a problem with providing a hormone regimen tailored to a non-binary patient's needs.
Oh, and OP: a lot of people on this board suffer from severe mental handicaps and will pretend to be professionals and tell you who and what you are, like this idiot: >>5507270
Remember that only a mental health professional and yourself are capable of determining those things and what to do about them.
its hard to say really, physically i find the idea of breasts really appealing, and i find myself really wanting to be more feminine in general. physically and mentally. but the idea of completely transitioning is also terrifying, so im not sure.
i'll talk to my shrink about it, its not a subject ive broached yet. thanks for the responses.
thats the strange thing, im not sure how to put what i want into words. like i said earlier, femininity in general is really appealing to me but the full transition into a mtf is something that isn't as appealing.
also no need to be divisive friends you're all helping.
why not just get hormone therapy and stay a boy?
you can be a girly boy and even get breasts if you want. Though it'd still be a male.
When did I say I'm a professional? and do tell, what is the severe mental handicap I'm suffering from?
Get the fuck off your high horse. You aren't a special snowflake.
Nah I think it's pretty normal, then again I'm a bit weird myself. Sometimes I enjoy dressing up and doing my hair. It helps that I know a girl who went to school for cosmology and loves drag queen make-up. She uses me to experiment with techniques and stuff. Though I also like being manly sometimes, so I'd rather just use a corset personally.
But if you want to be feminine/girly and stay a guy, heck yeah dude, do your thing. If that means getting some hormone therapy or surgery to be comfortable I'm all for that.
might be oot, but I was just passing by this board, can you explain me what bi/pansexuality is?
I understand what bisexuality is, but dont' quite grasp the idea of pansexuality yet, less the combination of those two
pansexual is a term invented by freud meaning will have sex with anything. Though it's been recently taken to mean sexually attracted to all genders, which is to say there are more than two genders.
I have yet to find a case that this is true.
There is a rare occasion of hermaphrodites, but they still only have 1 working sex organ, so I'd still classify as one gender or the other
op here, personally i used it to mean that im attracted to pretty much all different genders/sexualities. i kind of view it as a catch all since bisexual implies a binary preference
this is true, since it all comes down to one gender or the other. i mostly said it to stay on the safe side.
18 years old, ive had these feelings for a long time though.
Not to dismiss your feelings, but it's almost always people around your age group that posts things like this. You're probably not comfortable with most things about yourself, just like everyone at 18.
Consider what you will be like in 20 or 25 years, do you really think you can be pretty and androgynous then?
i'm 21 and not on hormones but I absolutely could be pretty and androgynous when i'm older because i'm actually intersex
i'm aging and looking more masculine and need it to stop but i don't really know what to do
thats reasonable but i think theres evidence to back up these feelings in particular. ever since i was a little kid i would crossdress and play with make up, and ive never been a very masculine person. the consequences of being androgynous in the long term future are definitely a concern though.
it occured to me after posting that sexuality didn't really make sense. if i find the individual attractive and they find me attractive then ill be into them regardless of gender identity or anything like that. sorry for the lack of clarity, im kinda tired.
>i'm aging and looking more masculine and need it to stop but i don't really know what to do
That's what I mean, when someone's in their mid to late thirties the "androgynous" look isn't going to go well. It's Bruce Jenner mode (pre-Caitlyn), it's creepy.
Give me an example other than an Asian guy or a picture of a 20 year old female model. The differences are more pronounced the older a person is, I'm sorry.
I'm not trying to be mean, but the whole "femme-boy/androgynous" look works in your youth, and that's it. Is taking hormones like OP wants to do really a good idea in the long term? Looking pretty for 10 years at the cost of being sterile? If he wants to transition fully, that's one thing, but the middle ground does not justify the means.
yes, you don't seem to fucking get it do you?
I'm a 21 year old aging kissless virgin
the entire last decade of my life I was a fat beta
I don't believe I'll be able to have sex within the next decade let alone share a hug or a kiss because i'm simply too unattractive and insecure about my naked body
are you saying I should just kill myself now?
OP here, children don't seem like something I'd want, and in the future I'd be perfectly okay with adopting.
again, the long term effects are a definite concern, but the more i think on it the more i realize that this is a more serious part of my gender identity
im sorry you're not feeling great anon, hopefully things will look up for you.