So I recently ended a year and a half relationship with a married man who had two sons around my age (I'm 21, they're 17-21). We had a great relationship, I met his wife and she liked me. They had an open arrangement where he had a boyfriend and she had a girlfriend outside of the marriage. In NYC, not too out there.
Anyways, sex was great and our conversations never got old. He's nearly 50, so I thought this was quite interesting. However, I realize that the life he showed me is what I want out of a serious relationship. I find it hard to be attracted to guys my age. My preference is above 30. Typically, I like that they are more established and cultured. Especially in NYC, this provides a very nice lifestyle with the right guy.
So now I realize I'm open to the idea of being a trophy husband to an older guy eventually when I'm out of school. Not sure how I feel entirely about this, but does anyone have ny experience with this?
If you can do it, go for it, but you'll never be happy at heart.
And I don't mean to sound like a prude but you know I'm right, it is the truth.
These girls that go off with older men are very insecure and a trophy parter is what it is, a thing you are proud of, and show off to guests, but other then that, a trophy is left on a shelf collecting dust.
Your choice would be an easy life with money and everything provided for sex.
Vs a chance at happiness.
I don't really know what option is better.
I was a "rent boy" for an older gentleman in college. I didn't actually do it for just the money, but being paid was nice as I was thinking about doing it anyway
>be me 24 in last year of college. Not bad looking 7/10 but body is of a serious road cyclist so I get lots of looks
>I wear my hair long and get the up and down from guys who see a slim/feminine looking person with shaved legs and they look up and see the face of a guy
>they usually apologize, sometimes they get pissy.
>An evening out a few weeks later
> I meet a bunch of older more refined people and one guy 20 years older starts talking to me
>We exchange reasons for being at the gallery: he was looking for some more art for his house and I being a good but inexpensive photographer who was FWB of the female gallery owner got an invite plus $500 cash to take photos for the lifestyle page.
part 1 back in a bit for the rest