I'm a straight guy but I have this lesbian co-worker. I find her on the verge of being cute to simply hot.
she is, unfortunately for me, dating my supervisor (also lesb.) and they are doing pretty well. (p.s. my sup. has a real hot body but not so mush on the face)
My main point is, do I have a chance?
with any lesbs. in the future that I like for that matter?
You can be sexually attracted to people who are not sexually available to you. It's unfortunate, but it happens every day.
Femininity is not mutually exclusive with lesbianism. Advice unchanged.
....dang. well thanks for the advice. now I'm sad.
but do you think I could still tell her that I kinda like her? even though I know nothing will change, the burning question is poking the back of my mind.
No. Don't do that. When she tells your supervisor (she will), things will just get super awkward.
Sorry, it's just not going to happen. They're gay and they're happy. Don't try to come between it, move on, that's what the best of us do.
>on the off chance you aren't trolling...
what are you, stupid or something? You are headed into corrective rape territory with this train of thought. No, I'm not calling you a rapist but chances are that both she and her gf have both had much more dangerous and creepier ppl than you say the exact same things to them. As soon as you say some thing like this, you become just as creepy as those guys. Just keep that shit to yourself. You penis isn't magic and you being the nicest guy possible will never make them attracted to you. The descent thing to do, is to totally drop it.
ok ok, all points taken.
alright, I'm defeated. and to that anon who has doubts that I'm a troll, rest assured I'm not.
I am moving on.
Lesbians deal with a LOT of dudes saying independently (to the speaker) innocent things that, taken as a whole, result in the creepy experience of being under assault. From strangers, frequent unwanted attention is an unfortunate reality of being a woman in our society. As an acquaintance aware of her situation, you will do her a much greater kindness, and better reflect her sexuality by letting your feelings fade with time.
Nigga you're a straight, probably average-looking male. There's so much fish in the sea potentially willing to suck your dick, why you gotta go and try to hit up lesbians?
I wish I had as much opportunity as you. What the hell.
Personal experience. I do both relationship and general LGBT counseling, and also community development work so I get to meet a lot. They look just like every other girl or woman out there.
Why are you even questioning this if they're lesbians? The definition of lesbian is they're not into you, let it go. We deal with enough straight guys thinking their magic dick can convert us, even if you're just misguided everything you try to do will come off as yet another entitled piece of shit's attempt at getting a hold of something that's out of his reach.
It's not going to work.
1. She has already relationship
2. Studies tell that mostwomen are bisexual so if She would be single bisexual, with very talented psychological manipulation you could make her fall on you.
Tbh pursuing this women would be possible theoretically, but It requires too much effort to be worth It. ..
Does gender fluidity have a basis in biology/ science?
Probably not worth your time. If you got to know her well enough to find out if she's bi or les you could snag her on the rebound. Even then, do you really want to be dating your supervisor's ex?
Find another girl.
I find this really, really interesting. Could you elaborate a bit more? Like ratio feminine/more butch? Any interests or career fields more common etc?
Of course it's of personal interest as a lesbian, but I also find it interesting from a biological and societal standpoint. Personally the "most homosexuals are just normal people" seems to refer more often to gays than lesbians (as do many other beliefs or sayings about "homosexuals"). It's refreshing to hear these statements remade into pure lesbian ones
I wouldn't say it's impossible, after all pretty much everyone on here has had some straight cock / Fanny, but I would suggest you don't flirt with her ect coz she will block you out completely. And even if you did get with a lesbian she will leave you eventually for a women. Been there bought the t shirt, take my advice or let the curiosity kill your feelings
I'm not sure why they identify themselves to me, except that I've been out for ages and quietly help others to get access to the resources they need. Another thing is many of these gals are out there and normally socializing in the heterosexual community. That is where they come up to me. They are integrated into the community as a whole. Maybe they never got chased away by strange looks and harassment.