Let's get a PE thread going /gif/
I've never not cum this fast during sex. Granted, it's been 5 years or so since I actually had sex, but I've never had a sexual encounter where I felt like I lasted long enough. It's actually probably why I'm more into sissy stuff now.
Same here. I had a fuck buddy last year who never got me off with her mouth, but I only lasted a minute or two in her pussy. I usually was able to maintain a hard enough erection to keep going for a second round without break so I wasn't ever too upset about it.
Only came prematurely once, and the rest always seem to take ages.
>last year of hs
>only have sex once before, almost just weeks earlier
>Snapping up that teen pussy while I can
>Decide to take advantage of good opportunity
>7/10 face and hair but 3/10 fat girl totally digs me
>invite her over for netflix and chill (phrased differently) before it became a meme
>it gets heated pretty quick cause we both knew
>being sneaky cause my bedroom door had no lock at the time
>she moves from handjob to professionally sucking my cock
>holy shit did not expect this
>let it happen
>dad walks in
>im quick as lightning and throw blanket over but it was pretty close
>a little shaken, i let her continue
>we move to seal the deal
>put condom on
>as im about to move in for the kill i start busting a nut in the condom
>split second cut my losses and tell her im too nervous about my dad
>make up shit excuse about him being rough and hes coming back
>i think it worked
>few minutes later its awkward and send her home
>hes obviously asleep on the couch
I've only seen her once since then on college campus but avoided eye contact like a pussy
Holy shit, this is my fetish.
I've always had excellent stamina, but I would love to be able to make myself pop prematurely, without any physical stimulation at all if possible.
Does anyone have any experience with this?
I've cum after a minute of fucking once before but I didn't nut for a week and once I saw my neighbor walking around naked in her house by accident and I jerked off watching and came in seconds but usually I can last a while.
Only PE'd once
>fooling around with wife
>she sucks my cock
>tell her I want to fuck her ass
>she agrees and gets into doggy position
>lube, lube and more lube
>trying to get dick in her ass
>after 15 seconds of trying I blew my load on her balloon knot
no one has mentioned: condoms
if I have to wear a condom... it takes a fucking miracle for me to cum. 95% of the time I can't
if I don't wear a condom, I cum in a reasonable, healthy amount of time, about 10-15 mins
I'm a PE'er.
I'm 24 and a virgin because I did the "smart" thing before I wanted to have sex where I fucked a fleshlight for practice. Actually went well enough, lasted 3 minutes or so. Pretty short but not the worst. Fucked it again the next day though and lasted 45 seconds. Since then I either last under a minute or around 5 minutes, and I can't tell what's causing the really short or really long ones.
It has killed my confidence. I can't seem to take a girl home when I know I'll just disappoint her by cumming almost instantly.
I really don't get this, I also cum really fast and I always mention this pre sex. She makes me cum fast and after 3 minutes I'm hard again and then the main game begins. Noone ever thought that's unusual (at least not that I know of). If you aren't 40+ a second or third round shouldn't really be that outlandish.
Not really fast(quite a few min into the vid), but if you don't know it, it seems like cumming too soon
>first round: cum in seconds
>second round: at least wait for her orgasm
>third round and onwards: can fuck 'til I drop
That's why I tell my girls to suck me off before fucking. I may come fast, but at least I have low downtimes or stay hard even after nutting.
Its the stimulation, if im getting a blowjob i cant cum unless my shaft is worked.
But if im having sex, even if its only been a few days of not jerking off the first ejaculation is always quick. The sensation is too much, the last few times ive had sex was with swingers and it was without a condom so that might be a reason why but after that first pop i can go for a lot longer for the next few.
does your dick hurt after a long or rough blowjob? Mine hurts a week later, but its starting to ease up.
took me a good 40 minutes getting a rough one, combined with handjob and titfuckin, to get off.
when in the vag i come in no less than 5 minutes for a quickie, 10 minutes if i literally give no fucks about the female. and upto 30 minutes if i do things right.
welp, Im no super stud myself. If im really working it, i'll maybe last about 5 minutes consistently. However, if i wank before ill last well into the 20-30 minute range.
If we want to make it last, Pre-game shower sex/BJ main event in the bedroom. Works like a charm.
How old are you? I think age is a factor, but more so it's a mental game. If you were born in the 80's you may have heard a whole bunch about PE when you were in high school, because it really became a "newsworthy" topic. My friends and I were all about learning how not to cum so fast. We associated anything less than 10 mins of sex as being premature. Without looking it up, I think the definition is less that 2 mins...
Had the same before. Took between 20 and 30 minutes to cum. Sometimes, I would even be unable to go over the edge.
This was GREAT for my girl at the beginning of the relationship since she didn't take the pill and I hated condom.
But it quickly became a problem as most girls DON'T enjoy being pumped for half an hour until they get sore, only to have to finish you by hand.
I put it on a combination of factor :
- too much vigorous fapping
- performance pressure with a new partner
- the fact that she didn't take the pill (and so I knew cumming inside was a BIG no)
It's been two years. I'm a lot more relax with her. I don't get that much fapping. She takes the pill, too. 10-15 minutes is the average now.
circumsion has nothing to do with not being able to cum during sex
i actually can only last maybe 2 minutes during a blow job, i cum, wait, then have sex with my gf
basically cumming twice during this time but during sex i can last forever once i already came
I'm 38 and I've seen it all on myself, from 1-2 minutes to the first pop followed by a 30+ minutes main event to healthy ~15-20 min starters (and many repeats the same day, routinely up to 5-7 in my 20's, nowadays is up to 3 - rarely 4) to disappointing 3-5 min first event and then no hard-on anymore. It's all about your physical, psychological and emotional status and condition. How much you work or are stressed, how much you work out, drink, smoke, how much you like the girl, how much time between encounters, how quiet and protected the environment where you have sex...
The good thing is that sex is not only mechanics, and for the girls it's even much more so. Get to know and listen to yourself and your partner, laugh about disappointments but always try and explore sensations and ways to achieve sexual pleasure.
A good advice is to relax and start enjoying a blowjob/handjob until you nut the first time, eat or finger your lady inbetween, then fuck. It takes time, I know, but then make time for it.
The bad thing is that your loss of confidence will probably end up in a vicious circle which makes you stressed enough to self-sabotage your sexual life. So: break this circle. Even at 16, anon, you are not a robot but a human being going through different phases and day to day life - and that will become much more apparent when you grow up.
I couldn't cum fast/at all with a girl for years, then all of a sudden it started happening to me this fall beacuse I cut back on jerking off. The girl I was dating left me after a few weeks of that :/ fucking whore, whatever now I'm back to jacking off too much and being anti-social.
Are there any tricks on getting hard quickly after cumming the first time? I last decently long, usualy 10-15 minutes, but sometimes we want to go again but my cock just refuses to cooperate for ~40 minutes after the first time.
literally anyone have advice about lasting longer? Been with girlfriend for 4 years, first 2 years we had sex multiple times a day, since it was so frequent I felt like I could last longer cause there wasn't as much lust fo dat pussy. fast ward to now, might have sex once a week if im lucky, then whenever I get the chance i can barley last because i'm so turned on.
tried jacking beforehand but doesnt make much of a difference, usually dont like to jack on days I know I wont get any because it makes me tired as fuck/lazy the next day.
I have a problem with PE but at the same time I don't. When I'm actually fucking I cum in like 30 seconds, but my dick stays hard so all I really have to do is reload a condom and I'm back at it. The second one usually last closer to 15-20 minutes, I just have to get over the first nut hump.
I'll tell you I had the same issue and then I met a girl whom I truly live from the bottom of my heart and I've never had a the issue since. Perhaps your Penis is in it, but not your heart
>been with my ex for at least 5 month
>we're still both virgins
>finally convince her to do it
>mfw I came instantly after I putted my dick inside her
It was the very definition of disappointment. The only way I successfully vanquished my PE problem is by doing shitload of kegel. I still come in a min or two, but I can deny my orgasm and stay hard. I've reach the point where I can deny my orgasm while fucking. I amaze myself sometimes.
Lifelong premature ejaculator. Usually cum within seconds of penetrating, sometimes before. Used to be insignificantly better when I was on SSRI but it has basically always been like this. On SSRI I lasted maybe 20 seconds on a good day :/ I just have absolutely no control...
Have her keep her hand loosely wrapped around the base of your cock, not moving, and make out, have her clean you up, etc. Works for me. I stay pretty hard and after a few minutes am ready to go again.
Surprisingly grown up answer. I am 31 and have a similar experience. You're not a robot - despite what captcha might think.
To all you PEers out there - just relax and have fun. If your partner can't hack it, don't lose your head about it.
I found it to be soul destroying and an utter headfuck for three years. I broke up with my girlfriend at the time and was single for two years. I am now happy with my new gf and we're pleasing each other.
At the end of the day, if your partner is not happy you will not be happy - but you can move on and you will be happier and last longer when you sort your head out.
had my first gf in august, she was an 8/10 and we fucked several times, before that she gave me a few blowjobs but it always took me ages to cum and it irritated her too.
Once we fucked for the first time though it didnt take nearly as long
I last significantly longer with a condom on.
But there have been times when I've been a two pump chump. I was relatively new at sex.
A lot of it has to do with getting entirely too excited, not take full deep breaths used to fuck me up.
Uncurl your toes, take deep breaths, relax, start slow, enjoy the process.
red fox. she and her bf used to post videos of this exact type of thing. then she deleted her shit and apparently no one saved anything except like 5 total. so those are what float around.
Just be smart about it and practice as if you were trying to please a woman and not cum so quickly: stop before you cum. Then wait 5 or 10 seconds until you're not about to cum, then keep going.
When I do this, actually having sex, after I do this a few times, warming up, I'm WAY less sensitive and I can usually fuck for a while afterwards without having to worry about cumming.
Shit, girls don't want to be pounded hard, constantly, without stop.
You can just train yourself to get past it. It FEELS like it's going to feel awful forever, the first few seconds, but I usually don't have to wait too long before it starts feeling good again already.
>A few months back
>Finally have opportunity to fuck again after years of nothing
>Eat girl out
>She comes hard
>"Anon let me suck your cock"
>Lay back let her go at it
>Fuck its so good, drool and spit all over
>Cock is throbbing going to cum
>*Panting* "Do you swallow?"
>She moans sounds like a yes
>Doesn't matter its happening
>My leg shakes uncontrollably I cum so hard
>Still hard as a rock
>Throw condom on quick
>She is a big gal, so I have to do all this maneuvering to get it in, start to lose boner at feeling embarrassed that we had to do a bunch of work just so I could stick it in (keep in mind she is heavy, so it's not all my fault her big ass just gets in the way and she insists doggy style wont ride me)
>"Just going limp here"
>Penis - "Nope"
Fuck my life...if I didn't cum so fucking fast and had the erection I had going when she blew me I would have got some pussy...
Most women don't want you to last forever, they'd rather you be 100% hard and cum within five minutes rather than go on forever at 50-75%.
Also, you don't know how it'll be until you actually fuck a woman. Having sex and jerking off are two very different things.
Don't worry about it. Nothing says your dick will behave the same when a woman's involved. First time I had sex, I could barely cum at all, because of the nerves, I assume. It's still so much easier to cum fast when I'm on my own. Don't think so much about it.
Trap here. Have had guys cum fast on me multiple times.
Always a good laugh when it happens.
Happened to a guy who was "experimenting" and wanted me to be his first trap. Came when I licked his cocktip for the first time.
They appear to be taking still photos. She's about to squirt, so in order to save the set (for continuity, or maybe expensive/rental items around) she squirts into a towel because she can't stop herself from orgasming.
Basically, this is shit porn for dumb people who don't know that gonzo or amateur are the only things worth watching. But the chick is hot and a great performer. Lily Thai.
Guys this is on efukt.com under search there is a whole pretty mature ejaculation section... some Japanese guy kissed a girl three times and came and the girls made fun of his small dick, I laughed my ass off
Not sure if I feel sorry for you or I'm incredibly jealous. Shit, just jacking off with lube finishes me off pretty quick. Still a virgin so God knows I'm not exactly gonna kick ass my first time with sensitivity like that.
Can we take a moment to discuss this?
Premature ejaculation is usually something that's described as something out of a man's control. But c'mon let's not be dumb. Before we ever touch our dick we know how long we're gonna last. And especially for anyone that's had sex, you know exactly what I mean.
There are several factors that go into a man's longevity in sex (because stamina I believe many men have if it wasn't for Richard waving 2 peace signs after 4 min).
1.There's the time since last orgasm
2. How stimulating the last orgasm was
3. A combination of 1 & 2
4. Time since last pee
5. How stimulating the current experience is (depending because men that consider this issue are easily stimulated)
6. Natural Experience altering agents (drugs, condoms, etc.)
7. Physical control
And there's probably variable factors that go into this from man to man but I believe these might be the universal ones among us.
Because I've experienced EVERYTHING!
Not getting it up to not cumming at all.
I could always tell what made me last (usually drugs for me)
But I think that the best thing to do in any case is to be honest with who you fuck. Even if it's someone you just met at a quinceniera you're crashing.
"Hey, this is fucking awesome and this doesn't happen for me so I'm about to cum in my pants as it is so I don't think I'm gonna last if we fuck."
2 ways this can go:
"It's ok, Anon. Just fuck me."
You ask for a blowjob, bust, eat her out and get hard.
If you don't get hard eating a girl out, then idk mang.
Anyway that's how I feel about this subject and it's worked for me really extremely well. I used to be insecure about it until I just figured that if 60% of women can't orgasm via penetration and a majority of men and women aren't educated about this; maybe we can educate women that they kinda need to tend to the machine if they want it to run the way they want.
This is actually pretty good discussion though
Does anyone else frequently go for multiple rounds here? I gather it's pretty rare
The first time I had sex, age 18, I went for 7 rounds with a woman about 20 years older...most people have really bad first times but mine was awesome
Like ten years later I mentioned that to a girl and she made a point of getting me off 8 times in a row
I had another ex who wanted me to cum in her mouth, pussy, and ass every day because it made her feel like a slut and I managed to do that for months
The most I've done solo is 15 times in one three hour porn session
I always try to find porn where the guy cums more than once and keeps going but I've only seen a handful of videos like that
I've had nights where I've gone 4-5 times, maybe more..over the span of a few hours.
If I have it in me to go multiple, number two can probably happen within minutes, and probably three a little longer.
Full erection always when a night like this happens. I always last a while, and I guess from learning how to edge and masturbate myself, I've become good at pacing myself when fucking my girlfriend. I can cum when she wants, down to the best time of like 10 seconds to sometimes a minute or two if shes asks. I just start really flexing that muscle you do when you jerk off and keep going at it.....If we're both in tune, I'll cum with her..But for the most part I can cum like a trigger, its rare for me to lose control.
Just be smooth and enjoy the process...breathe and pace yourself.
Just pace yourself, dont go jack hammer right away...Girls fuckin love the slow dicking, just be smooth. Kiss and suck her neck or some shit....Even slowly sliding your finger tips over her skin is good to do. Skin is the biggest organ of the body and can be stimulated in a thousand ways....You wont be a good fuck if you think your dick is the only tool.
To all others here...one terrible way to look at things is "I don't want to bring home a girl and then let her down...."
Are you blind? Even if this does happen, you're having an orgasm from another girl and not your shitty hand...Regardless of when it happens, shes causing it..WHICH IS WELL BEYOND NOT GETTING ANYTHING FROM A CHICK.
Seriously....Just play it cool and tell her shes so fuckin hot and turns you on that you couldn't focus...."Sorry, youre just really fuckin hot and those panties you wore tonight threw me off and made me wanna burst the second I saw you in them"....Something like that will remind her that it was her and not you....Which is the truth...
If you can't keep your lid on for a few times, at least youre going for it and its happening because of a girl...
Literally just cum two times in total.
First during the blow job which is usually really fast for me.
Then after that have sex for as long as you'd like. Thats what usually happens for me.
Save yourself the embarrassment
Not always the best option...Sometimes this plan or jerking off the day of or night before can backfire too...
Id rather go in loaded than not...you know? Nerves can overpower the lack of juice and not get hard enough....Id rather pop than not....Nerves can delay an orgasm so if the bj is shitty or not getting it done in the right way, than cumming is much harder.
It really just matters on your situation sexually. Everyones different. I can and will always be hard for a girl, its not the same for everyone.
Overall, just try to assume what the best option for you is so that PE is brushed under the carpet in your life
Also, fantasize a LOT about others (gender doesn't matter) and then about yours (the GF).
Have fun keeping your verbal filter in check, but when you get caught, just testarossa up and slay that peach!
A lot of this discussion is garbage and it's mostly redundant. I have no problems going for a long time. My problem is that my gf is satisfied with just going once.
Even if she doesn't get there, we have to change the sheets every time. She insists on it, but I'm usually inclined to agree. People reusing the same sheets they already fucked on is pretty gross.
I think the most we've done was 3 in one day, might have just been 2.
Actually its not that uncommon, but sometimes it has to do with how she is shaped on the inside too, vaginas can curve forward and backward and how it matches up with the curve of your dong
You've got some great advice here. Mental blocks aside, tell your partner you take awhile to cum. It's a great way to get them to go down on you. Not only do you get the physical stimulation, but you'll also be excited by their attempt to turn you on.
I used to have a similar issue--couldn't get into it unless my partners were REALLY into it. After I told them, the sex became a lot more fun--they extended themselves more in order to show me they wanted it.
Tell them it will take forever unless they suck your dick like a vacuum first.
Chill out. Sex is like EVERY OTHER THING ON THE PLANET. You suck until you git gud.
I have some married friends that didnt fuck until they married, IN THEIR LATE TWENTIES. The wife complained that "it hurt" and that "maybe she just wasn't supposed to have sex." After about six months, they calmed down and quit imagining God hating them for fornicating, and now can enjoy sex.
Don't be hard on yourself. Sex very much changes with experience, like learning guitar.
Totally different thing mate. I can get myself off in under a minute easily, but when it comes to actual sex I last at least half an hour. Sure, if it's been a while it might only take 10 minutes but if I'm at my gfs and we're fucking regularly then I can keep at it for ages.
Don't write it off before you try
I can't last for shit when I have sex (like literally 10 thrusts and that's it) even with controlling my breathing, muscle flex/relaxing and thinking about nasty things or maths. But I can last up to 1 hour by jacking it applying the same principles. I should probably seek some help about that.
If I had to say an average for handjobs it would be around 12 minutes. For me a handjob is such a huge difference from a regular smack session. For blowjobs I would say 3 or 7 minutes depending if my gf is really into it or not. It also depends on how horny we are and how long ago it was since we last came. But sex just does not work for me and it's pretty depressing for the both of us.
>Gf comes over for the first time
>So far all I've gotten were handjobs at the movies
>Start netflix and chillin' but things heat up pretty quick
>She pulls my cock out and starts jerking me while we make out, so far nothing new
>She asks me to take this to the bedroom
>Whatever, go the the bedroom and start making out with her against the wall, she continues jerking me
>She pulls me to the bed and I lie down
>She starts kissing me all over my chest going lower each kiss, all the while giving me a handjob
>Finally reaches my cock
>She kisses the tip and I shoot a huge fucking load into her face
It was supposed to be my first blowjob and we both just stared at the stain in my bed sheet with this awkward look on our faces. But one hour later I was good to go again so whatever, it went fine
lol no. They just are hypersensitive and have no control of their kegel.
I usually make sure not to fap 24-48 hours before hanging with my girlfriend. 10 minutes of dicksucking and I basically fill her skull with cum
I find that if she's on top I can last a long time, but if I learn forward, I can cum insanely fast. I think the pressure on the bottom of my dick seems to be the reason. Doggy style same deal, I bust really fast.
it's a little different for everyone probably, everyone has a different dick, different girl, just gotta experiment. For me, I find a lot of foreplay will help because she'll be wetter (less friction) so I can go longer. Sometimes she'll get wetter the longer I go, so once you get past a certain point you're good. If you're using condoms you can try thicker ones if you really just want to last longer.
How do you guys deal with performance anxiety ? i almost wish i had a PE problem vs PA, would xanax help or any of those 'suppliments' at the convenient store ? im diamons in the morning when i wake up so i know its not a physical problem