So /fit/ i have a small problem. i date i girl for some months now and she's beautiful and i love her.
the thing is, she is a little chubby. she gets all defensive when the fitness theme pops up, because she was bullied when she was younger about her weight.
why she doesnt improve that aspect is beyond me. i do love her, but wouldnt mind one bit if she lost some pounds. im just asking if any of you guys had some similar experience and how did you dealt with it.
i dont live with her so i cant cook for her ( and she's a really good cook, but doesnt make very healthy dishes)
sorry for eng, non-native
Invite her to come work out with you, saying you want to spend more time together and share an activity that you enjoy
That way you can be the supportive boyfriend while helping her better herself and just don't let her half ass it
Had a gf years ago who started off perfect, got slightly chubby, which I didn't think too much off, then got just plain fat over a 3 year time period. Broke up 6 years ago and now shes absolutely huge. Didn't even have kids.
TLDR: Make her change her ways now or dump her. If she gets defensive about it, she'll blow up eventually.
I'm in the same boat. It's one thing getting them to the gym, but keeping them there is another. My missus comes to the gym maybe 3 times a week, but she lacks motivation and gets angry when she can't lift the weights she wants to. It sucks because I crave a chick with abs, a waistline I can put my hands around, and a mighty fine ass.
mine got defensive at first too, how long have you been with her?
Mine finally saw the light and caved, she's now on a meal plan among other stuff, now its just time to wait for results. Been with her 8 months.
She WILL get fat. Don't get fooled, don't drink the koolaid, don't believe the hype.
She's going to get fat, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. The only way she won't is if she makes the decision herself. No nagging on your part will change that.
Also furthermore I just had to bite the bullet a few weeks ago. I told her, she wasn't happy at all. Big fight lasted maybe about 2 days. But at the end of the day, a relationship is a two way street, and I'm an extremely physical person. If you care about her, you'd tell her. Short term pain, long term gain.
> 7/10 gf
> A little chubby, super self conscious
> Gets her to go to the gym with me but will only tread mill
> Can't do anything upper body because of an injury
> Took chips from her one time and told her to stop snacking and she cried
I want to help her get her confidence back, not even for me - I think she's gorgeous.
half that time
i know that it has to come from her, i just want to give a lil push, because i dont know if she will do it alone
i think i will hold of that conversation a few more weeks, we can handle such a talk, but its better to go prepared
im a eurofag and i always believed in "mens sana in corpore sano" - a healthy mind in a healthy body
i just would like her to understand that it's more than physical, it's something that everybody should try to achieve
heard that before, going to do it
>> Can't do anything upper body because of an injury
What a useless human. What happens when you have a baby? Sorry cant lift it haha you do everything with baby.
I say you abandon ship.
I was in the exactly the same position a year ago. I talked quite frankly yet sensibly to her, said that I was into her but I would be even more if did dome activity etc, she was very defensive (and even cried a bit); it was a bit weird but it was all good in the end. (Though I knew from start she would stay anyway).
It took a while to get her interested on lifting, only after begun getting gains; and she started talking about this to me, openly. I wrote a routine for her, said that beyond that it was all on her, and now I'm starting to see them squat glutes on her. hnnng
Anyways, this is what worked for my and my gf, your mileage may vary. Be very sensible always when talking, and make clear from the start that any gains will depend of her will, not only your support (bc that's true).
y, im thinking about baby steps first. take her for a hike or a long walk from time to time and go from there to what you said.
rly got to have attention to what i say, this is a mine field
she takes a cycling classes from time to time, that's something right?
I noticed most of the time girls wont go to the gym with their guy unless he's really hot. Like she wants to see you sweat and work hard.
If you look average than shes going to kind of stay home far away from you and the public.
It really depends anon...
If she is that kinda girl that is gonna stay a little chubby for life, and have a little extra, then just stick with her and hopefully she will try fitness one day. You gotta make it fun.
But. If she is the type who is just on the verge of blowing up. Like after marriage or kids she is gonna become a whale and not stop eating, then run for the hills. Look at the mom. If the mom is enormous this is a sign. Look at your relationship history. Has she continued to gain weight while you are together? This is a sign. Does she get noticeably much happier after eating junk food? This is a sign.
May the force be with you.
> Be me
> Be 22 and in college
> Meet cutie living in my apartment complex
> She is 5'8 and about 130lbs
> great ass and tits
> after 1 year of dating she is up to 170lbs and has noticeable rolls coming over top of her pants
> I broke up with her. Not because of the fat but because she turned out to be a selfish cunt
So fast forward the clock 5 years. I look her up on Facebook. She is probably 180lbs and had a kid.
that made me think. she does really enjoy eating greasy food. not junk food in particular, but you get the idea.
shes really just a lil chubby, and i mean euro chubby, not americhubby.
ill give it some more time to see how is she evolving, but she put some pounds because of the stress of exams. you rly made me think
> she takes a cycling classes from time to time, that's something right?
It is, if she's either enjoying it or seeing the results. Generally grills will do things that they see the benefit very early (like most persons btw). It's on you to convince her that a better diet will make her feel better, it will easy the effects of periods on her, etc that kind of thing. Since she's doing cardio, even it's only a bit of better diet (like -200 less than the usual), it'll make some difference and she'll lose weight.
If you want to get her to lift later, let she enjoy doing cardio, yoga and such first; it's always good for her, and she'll be more prepared to lift afterwards. Then, you both can share a good time if you teach her the exercises, learning how to cook etc.
Well give it time, if its just a little weight then whatever.
Like the other guy said, start small. You basically have to slowly trick her into enjoying things that require you to use your body.
My missus is in the boat of "that kinda girl that is gonna stay a little chubby for life". She has been like this ever since she was young. Her Mother was overweight heavily before she got lap band surgery. My girlfriend has pretty much maintained this weight her whole life, and it shits me because I hate it. She claims that heaps of things she's tried just don't work, but I call bullshit and that she clearly doesn't want it bad enough. She comes to the gym with me a few times a week as I stated in an earlier comment, but I feel her lack of consistency is the reason she's not noticing a difference. We live together and basically eat the same meals, so I know for a fact her diet is good.
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My gf of 7 years gained a lot of weight since we started dating. We live in the same town though so we go to the gym together. You may have to wait until you can live together or at least live in the same city or something. People are saying for you to go on hikes and bring her along. You should definitely do that. Walk around town for the day whenever you get a chance to see her. Go on hikes and then stop for a picnic or something, make it romantic. Take her to the gym and do the same exercises together.
Don't listen to the people telling you to dump your gf. Don't fuck up a good thing. If you have someone who appreciates and loves you for who you are now, don't throw it away because you think you deserve someone else because of their weight.
> we eat the same meals
yeah this is common in couples. Unfortunately the woman needs to eat a smaller portion than the man if she wants to be slimmer.
I am a 160lb man. If I have a GF/wife who is eating the same as me she gonna gain weight.
> diet is good
you could cut all the carbs and sugars out of the house. Would be pretty damn hard for her to stay chubby without those.
This is now a high test thread.
All anyone has to do is count calories, if this bitch wants to be fat she'll find a way whether or not you keep carbs and sugar out of the house or try any other meme diet.
I wish there was some way you had to be forced to read the sticky before posting on this board, but then again we'd only have half the content.
How about you start contributing instead of whining?
HAMUNA HAMUNA HAMUNA HAMUNA HAMUNA HAMUNA HAMUNA
These kinda makes me laugh, guys sneakily trying to make their grills lose weight by engaging them with activities which will burn calories.
But for real, saying this as a woman too, if she's not into counting calories, exercising and taking the shit seriously and doing anything for their weight, any attempts to try to get them to change their ways (or expect that the change will happen magically without her putting any actual effort on it) just isn't taking you anywhere.
I assume you are dating your girls, and if the weight and their attitude is a problem in their younger years, they'll certainly balloon as time goes by. Period.
Just go and try to find a like minded grill, that's the best thing there is to do. Or live with the fact that your gf is a chubster cause she herself doesn't see a problem with it and isn't doing things to change the situation.
How chubby are we talking? Thick, curvy girls (like in your pic, op) are a godsend. You should feel lucky to have her.
Here's what I said to my wife when she started gaining weight:
>You're gaining weight
>It's not a physical thing
>It's the mindset that's a turnoff for me
>If you eat good, workout and still gain weight, I have no problems, because I love you regardless of what you look like
>But I can't love somebody who doesn't love herself enough to be healthy
She cried and now she squats. She even thanked me for "waking her up"
No, they are not. Nobody wants a #THIQQ girl around their arm except black guys. It's ALWAYS going to get worse (pic related)
And I doubt his girlfriend got a pornstar body by overeating
How do I know if I'm borderline chubby or high test? I'm 5'6 and 143lbs and lift regularly, all the fat is pretty much in my lower body cause my tummy is kinda flat.
I look wide as hell at gym's mirrors but taking a pic through a mirror especially at home makes me look skinnier that I am. I don't know why though. And I don't have anyone to take pics of me.
So where's the line of what's curvy and what's not? Will defo cut if it will help me to be more attractive.
But the waist/belly is where you look: if your waist small and so is your belly (not flat, but not pot belly either), high test; if your waist is a square or if you got a pot belly, your fat...
Love how in the first pics he's always holding her and in the last one she's holding him, he has his hands to himself and he's looking away, poor bastard, he must be a really cool guy that he hasn't divorced her yet, why is it that most women have no self control?
An advice: make her stop drinking soda, the calories and sugar in that thing are poison to the body, introduce her to diet soda and eventually just water. No "natural" fruit juice, is as sugary as soda.
Make her snacks healthier, many people consume a lot of empty calories that way. If she is hungry, give her some fruit, a handful of nuts or a natural non sweetened yogurt with some blueberries and raspberries in it.
mine tried keto, had bread after 6 days
i bitched at her, told her eating that bread would give her carb cravings etc and that she fucked up
told me not to lecture her, she didn't want teaching and "it's only one bun"
havent talked to her since
With my ex who was desu 9/10 body as it was (I like very slightly chubby) but I wanted her to have better delts I just asked her to "get jacked with me brah" the playful/over the top bro language made it seem like I just wanted her to engage in my interests
You could try to work out with her on the weekends. Once you get someone into working out its generally easier for them to do it alone.
Or make got to BJJ or something. Grappling wont fuck her up and its a pretty good workout if you do it srsly.
Break up with her immediately.
She will not change. She will only get worse the moment she builds up enough excuses to let herself go.
I dated a high test qt who let herself go and in the matter of 6 months she put on 40 pounds.
They have mental problems that you will never solve and pushing her to address these issues will strain the relationship and break you. The only way she will see the error of her ways is that you break up with her and tell her that your lifestyles are incompatible (because they truly are). She will either step up and handle her shit or she will slide into what is undoubtedly where she would have ended up anyways.
Trust me anon. No one wants to be tethered to a fatty.
>She has been like this ever since she was young.
>has pretty much maintained this weight her whole life
What is the problem then? She's obviously fine with it, and not willing to change it for herself. If you want a skinny girl, you should probably go find another girl. You can't expect her to change her life if she's happy with who she is and maintaining that.
>best friends and dated a girl for 5 years
>She is beautiful and weighs under 100 lbs whole time
>We get prego and have a kid
>Tits and ass balloon up to High Test proportions. Gains a little chub.
>We've been married for 8 years.
> I find her more sexy than ever
So far after too kids she has not turned into a Hamplanet, but if at some point she shows signs of going down that road, I will suggest she make some changes for her health.
Ok I'm changing it up on you guys, I'm dating a qt jap and she's 5'1" 94lbs. She's thin and healthy (cardiobunny) but I want that squaters ass, how do I get her to lift?
>She's obviously fine with it, and not willing to change it for herself.
This. You should never try to change your partner. If you are not happy with who she is, you should find a new gf.
>implying I'm low test enough to let the women control my life.
My gfs know their place
MFW wife joined the gym with me.
No she didn't 10/10 bait
She was reincarnated as jabba the hut though, those hands though my god how could you do that to yourself
nothing wrong with chubby. Do you have low test or what ?
The weight would bother me because if you get really serious and marriage comes into play, she may get even bigger. its sounds shallow but if you take care of yourself by eating right way cant she?
>liking high test girls
Pick one. Fat shaming is not obese shaming. No one except fetishists like obese girls. All of these "high test" girls are fat, and their glorification contributes to fat acceptance.
Sorry, but yes, unless she is all muscle.
I saw a 5'3" at 120 lbs and she was nearly perfect. Then at 130 even her dad was calling her fat. God help you in a few years because at that weight she only will go up.
No, what the fuck, that's within normal BMI range. She's probably a little soft (unless she has built muscle) but not fat by any means. It also depends on where her fat mostly resides - you said her belly, but what about her tits or ass?
>If the mom is enormous this is a sign
So, you're saying fatness is.... genetic?
Parents transmit habits just as effectively as genes. Saying that a relation between the fatness of a parent and their child is evidence that it's all genetics is a poor premise.
"hightestsavior" is back and ruining high test threads again. If you like seeing high test girls on /fit/ prepare for the end. Wherever they are posted they will be buried in muscular and fit girls.
RIP high test.
that doesn't sound like she's fat so much as she wears the wrong sized pants because she's either too poor to afford proper fitting ones or she's stupid. Nearly any woman can have a muffin top if her clothes are too tight. I'm sure your wife is perfectly fine. Either that or you are vastly underestimating her weight