I want to fap so bad brehs. What should i do? I'm only on day 2. The urge just won't go away. The reason I'm doing this is because of a girl but I know when i lay down, all im going to think about is her and doing things to her.... fuck me...
How do you guys do it? I've noticed that some of you gys don't fap for hundreds of days. I just don't know how that is possible for any human over the age of 14.
These guys are right OP. I tried nofap for 25 days once and the only thing it gave me was constant boners and urge to fuck even fat ugly chicks. As long masturbating isnt ruining your life you'll be fine.
I got to 60 something days but honestly it's not natural, you start getting "night emissions" (wet dreams).
Like >>35739178 and >>35739207 said just fap. Maybe once a week and try to use your imagination instead of porn.
i've done around a week of nofap because I just didn't have time to do it and it made me want to fuck everything, but then the urge kind of went away. that was until I would want to do it so bad I would get fucking chills, now that happens if I go more than 2 days. i really don't see the benefit
she's in no way attracted to me, and im pretty sure she thinks im a creeper. i just stay out of her line of sight.
>As long masturbating isnt ruining your life you'll be fine.
well, i have a theory that my years of fapping has caused my weird and meek personality.i started fapping at 9 to some fucking hentai, once i discovered real naked girls, i couldnt stop busting nuts everywhere. and now today im a 21 yo virgin. im pretty sure fapping is to blame for this.
im posting muscly chicks because they usually turn me off but fuck even pic related is causing my dick to grow
Meditate and think of the empty void of non-existence. It just works.
Other than that, read, play vidya, watch some /tv/, lift more if you can, go out for a jog, try to learn a new language. Just do something to keep yourself distracted.
I found a new full-time job that pays 19.50 an hour and I'm learning French and Spanish.
Nofap for 47 days so far.
>well, i have a theory that my years of fapping has caused my weird and meek personality
No. Growing up without a male role model and not playing competitive sport which forces social interaction with your peers caused your weird and meek personality.
If I don't fap for a week I get a wet dream. So even in my dream I'm having sex lol. But I usually dream of fucking girls I know like my friends and co workers. Kinda embarrassing I have to fap or else cream my pants every week
God damn.... You hit the nail on the head, dude. Dad walked out when I was two or three and I sucked ass at every sport...
Are you speaking from experience?
Is it okay for me to fap to thoughts of her? What should I do about my personality?
Your average /fit/izen either had no male role models growing up, or poor male role models growing up, so you could guess that about any random poster and be right at least half the time.
Starting up ReducedFap as the semester begins, brehs (or rather, starting now and the semester begins on Monday). It just doesn't seem all that appealing anymore, honestly. I would rather spend the time that extended fap-sessions take up on either working on projects or sleeping, but habits die hard.
...Admittedly, loneliness has had some impact on that sentiment. I've spent so long getting instant physical gratification while jerking off to obscure fetishes that its appeal has been dulled. Now I just want to be physically superior to people around me, hold a loving qt3.14 in my arms, and feel like everything will be all right.
No. You're just the same as the majority of burgerstanis. The massive increase in "behavioural" diagnoses is from the same thing, imo.
Join lions, rotary, freemasons, etc and hang out with some actual men.
Don't masturbate unless you've done something you want to reward and reproduce, if you want to praise being a coward and doing nothing to get laid effectively praising other that do, then do that, you can easily go and make it your imperative to go and fuck chicks but it will consume you and there will be less time for self-improvement (which you should reward occasionally). I only fap 1 every couple of months to make sure I can still get and maintain strong erections.
goddamn youre a little faggot.
okay, here's some help: if she's worth your time, then you will KNOW that she, in some way, feels the same way about you. if you don't KNOW that for certain, then she doesn't dig you as much as you dig her. at that point, you either try to fight to make her like you more or you move on. make the fucking call.
the good thing for you is that you're young. determine whether or not she is REALLY worth your time and act accordingly. the main thing to focus on is IF YOU THINK SHE IS AS INTO YOU AS YOU ARE INTO HERE. when you do that, you'll know what to do. trust me.
NoFap king here, my highest streak is 373.
The two tricks that have gotten me this far are: cold showers and working out.
Alright first, whenever you get hard and you know you're going to give in, go take a cold shower. The ice-water will instantly relieve your erection and you can carry on with other shit easier, especially when it comes to sleeping. Just let the cold water spray on your junk and within a minute you'll be soft. Simple as that.
Second thing, workout. Or do anything that occupies your mind, but try to keep it beneficial like working out, studying, working, cleaning, whatever the fuck you want. I'm fairly new to /fit/, but I downloaded a 7 minute workout app. At first, like everything, you'll want to take the comfortable path but nothing is more rewarding then using your time effectively and finishing three or four circuits. Not only are you not wasting your time on porn and masturbation which will you get you nowhere, you're also building healthy and long-lasting habits that will benefit your quality (and dare I say quantity?) of life.
Best of luck, just discipline yourself and you'll reap the rewards. After all: "Desires make slaves out of kings and patience makes kings out of slaves."
About to start no fap today caved in last night and looked at porn. I'm ready to make sick spiritual gains by converting my sexual energy and no longer being a slave to my dick. How long does it take to get over the initial phase of wanting to fuck everything? My longest streak is like 3 weeks and it never seemed to go away.
Doing nofap to try and get rid of my deathgrip.
Last time I had sex with an escort I couldn't stay hard and I had a really difficult time getting to orgasm.
I'm one week into nofap and it seems to get easier by the day.
Reminder that fapping once a week to your imagination is better than not fapping for your test levels and genital health and it means you don't get yellow jizz from abstaining for so long.
Its a harsh reality when you realise you were brought up by women in their forties on the principle of being a "respectable man" for girls who'd rather go out with assholes. I read somewhere
>A woman can never teach or raise a boy on how to be a man
Now I spend days trying to be an asshole, but I can't undo it :(
I'm not sure how many days I'm in right now, maybe 2 weeks. Just had a wet dream last night so I feel relieved, no chaser effect worth mentioning. Though do feel pretty drained and tired so I'm not hittin the gym today. The journey continues
I just realised that before I started playing football at age 13, I was a whiny bitch.
After I started playing football and got to know a few people, made a few good mates with connections, I started being confident, socially active, and MOST IMPORTANTLY - any problem or accident that I'd find embarrassing before, I just shrugged off and solved it or just moved on.
I dunno, maybe it has something to do with testosterone levels.
Given that the only study indicating this was done in China with low n and high p and that the results have never been replicated, let alone in an intellectually honest country, no.
I did it for around four months. Did it by accident, too.
Libido died completely and by the fourth month I wasn't getting any more erections ever, including the very important morning wood. Broke it off intentionally at that point.
There's nothing wrong with fapping nor with porn, just don't let it consume you. Extremes of all sorts are bad for you.
I've spent all my life playing vidya games in my free time and wanted to see if I could go a year without any of them, it was pretty fucking hard the first two weeks but I think I'm managing now. I've also found I have a shit ton of free time so I got back into learning Japanese with the threads on /a/ and I've been catching up on the books I've left sitting on my shelves. The only thing I miss so far is the competitive drive that games like CSGO and League of Legends gave me.
I'm thinking of doing something like this simply because i'm burnt out on games but keep playing them to waste time and intense social anxiety discourages me from venturing out to explore new hobbies ( have home gym btw). Are you using anything besides /a/ to learn Japanese? I've been thinking of learning Spanish but not sure where to start as far as self teaching goes.
>people think that they can change their lives by doing everything exactly the same as before but changing pointless things like fapping or playing vidya
>people doesn't realize that to change their lives they need new connections with other people or new things to do outside their homes
I was burnt out on games too, everything just felt bland and uninteresting. Anyway yeah, I was learning Japanese a few years ago so I still have my textbooks for those, the textbooks I have are Genki I and Genki II, Japanese the Manga Way for grammar, Tae Kims Guide To Japanese grammar for another way of reinforcing the grammar concepts and An Integrated Approach to Intermediate Japanese. I've been using the Core10k deck in Anki to get vocabulary and I've been reading simple manga like Ikamusume and Yotsubato while referencing the textbooks if I need a refresher on any concepts. If you want you to learn Japanese here's the resource guide from the /a/ threads: http://bitlasers.com/djt
You said you were thinking of learning Spanish and Duolingo has a pretty good system for learning Romance languages, they have nothing for Eastern Asian languages since it doesn't quite work as well in their learning format.
You can change your life by cutting out the pointless things like vidya or fapping and you don't necessarily need new connections with other people or even have to get outside of their house. They just have to find something new to do with the free time they made for themselves. Ideally something challenging and engaging like learning a language or skill, or learn an instrument.
It's likely you are an asshole but not the kind girls like. You're trying to emulate the worst parts of confident guys which just turns you into a shitty approximation of a knockoff of a confident guy.
3 Months in here.
This may be coincidental and completely anecdotal, but the last 3 months have been the most productive months in my life.
My gains have increased, my usual procrastination towards my studies has disappeared, I got a part time job and I started learning guitar.
There is some study stating abstaining from masturbation will spike testosterone levels on the seventh day but then go back down to normal levels the day after.
the benefit is supposed to come when you channel your fapping energy into something productive. I know how gay that sounds but it actually works. I went 45 days without a fap and every time I wanted to I would pick up some dumbbells or do a set of push ups, anything to get your mind off of it.
Still a site created for those who like Japanese culture and that's why I still browse here. New people are free to come here so long as they don't shit up the place, this isn't a secret club.
I wouldn't learn a language if I didn't plan on using it. I don't really give a fuck about the nation itself, I only care about the entertainment they create.
This is a great time to post the obligatory threadly reminder that nofap is a technique used to make quitting or reducing porn use easier, not an end in and of itself.
It's generally easier to chill out with the porn when you're not regularly getting yourself worked up sitting by yourself.
Seeing as nofap is a fucking meme and this is all shitposting I'm gonna ask a question and need advice
>girl invited me over to stay at hers next weekend
>she's working her ass off at uni and then planning on what we'll be doing together, it's like such a big deal for her I'm coming over to visit her
>even offered to pay for my train tickets
>even said that she wants to see where it leads after I asked if we're just meeting up as friends or what
>still think I am being manipulated and friendzoned hard
How do I escape this mindset? I am literally brain damaged from years and years and years of rejection.
Most of you probably even think I am getting friendzoned hard I guess.
I suppose after a month of back and forth messaging and calls everyday we should have sent nudes to each other or something? Even though she definitely does not come off as that kind of slut.
I don't know, does she even like me that way? Feels like I am getting friendzoned. There is nothing good about me.
just get a little tipsy so that you lose a little bit of that inhibition, that negative mindset.
If she's bending over assbackwards to plan this shit then it is a big deal for her; just don't be a sperg
Women will laugh at any dumb shit you say if they're into you
It takes a while for you to escape a certain mindset. Like you said, you have had years and years of living with it and you can't expect it to flip like a switch once you need it to stop. Be patient, emotional change takes months or years. I've been in your boat and even now I still have problems trusting peoples intentions.
Also, it's obvious she likes you in some form if shes going to such lengths to meet you, if you want to know if she likes you as a potential relationship interest just fucking ask her like a person. At the end of the day shes a person just like you with insecurities, treat her genuinely and things will go well. Even if she doesn't like you sexually it's not a problem, just move on and have her as a friend. Don't worry about the relationship being awkward afterwards, it will only get awkward if you get hung up on the rejection.
Girls don't buy shit for their friends. Girls don't even buy shit for their boyfriends. Girls are just selfish in general.
Either way, not enough information to say. Does it matter, though? Just go and try your best. If you start feeling bad midway, just cut all contact and go away. You can't get friendzoned unless you want to. It's impossible to be someone's friend without consent.
eventually getting/keeping a boner in real sexual scenarios is difficult because your brain is just used to the crazy stimulation of porn. Gotta un-learn a whole habit. I envy anybody who has premature ejaculation, I'm sure it beats having barely any ability to do it at all.
>Either way, not enough information to say.
This is a good point. We don't know you or this chick and it would take quite a few lengthy posts to even begin understanding the relationship between you guys. When in doubt do something, worst case scenario you get rejected but you'll learn from the rejection. Don't get caught up in the what-ifs.
Guess i can elaborate a bit then. I am super bored this Sunday.
>be doing year long work placement
>girl does 2 week placement where I'm at
>we constantly shoot each other glances everyday
>chat with her a couple times but just too damn busy to set anything up, and she's only going to be here a couple weeks
>she leaves, thought that was that, nice knowing you
>couple weeks before christmas she just messages me out of the blue literally after I just busted a nut and it was her in my mind, so fucking weird
>ever since then talking everyday
>spent all of new years on the phone with each other
>after that I tell her we should meet up
>it's next weekend now
>recently was teasing her and flirting etc etc like we do everyday when I said 'I feel a bit mean now'
>she replies saying that I'm 'lovely, funny and wonderful'
>tell her I don't believe her
>she says 'well suck it up because it's true. you may not realise it but you make me laugh and smile all the time.'
>later ask her if we're just meeting up as friends
>she replies with this
>literally friendzoning myself now
Hasn't really been any other developments. She sent me a picture of her cuddling with her dog and I said that I'm quite jealous of her dog right now with that blushing smiley but I'm scared that was a bit too forward.
So much truth in this. Combined with fapping to big-titted lesbian porn and using the death grip for years, I barely maintained a chubby with the girl I'm seeing. Imagine waiting years and years to get the real thing, only to not be able to have proper sex.
My mind's in shambles.
BETA BITCH BOY SHE OBVIOUSLY IS INTO YOU FUCKING RETARD HOLY SHIT
YES IM MAD. HOW CAN YOU BE THIS AUTISTIC!?!??!?!?!?
Kegels will help with wet dreams and you'll be able to hold your loads longer and shoot it at such high velocity it rips through your urethra and feels so good.
ReducedFap is the way to go. I jerk on Friday nights before going out so I don't blow my load too soon with sloots. Then I have Saturday and Sunday to let test levels recover before Squats on Monday. Being lonely sucks but things will come around, breh.
Read the last message "If friends is all you're interested in at the moment then I'm totally happy with that. But I'm also happy to see where it goes". If that's her then you're one dense motherfucker. She's seeing you as a potential romantic interest and right now she's thinking that you're the one who doesn't want to advance the relationship, not her.
Hurry up and get together with her you stupid fuck. Jesus Christ.
Like I told you, years, years and more years of being bullied and rejected. Society has always been rejecting me, now it's apparently doing the complete opposite, and I just don't know what the fuck to feel or how to react to it.
you are cucking yourself with this mindet, snap the fuck out of it.
Do you know how goddamn lucky you are to have a girl this interested in you she doesn't seem to care/even likes it when you sperg?
Are you fucking serious? Why not just take the plunge and find out if it's good or not by how you react to it? Overthinking this kind of shit does more harm than good and you will only stifle yourself in the long run if you continue on this path.
Here's something you have to realize, society isn't one person, and there are people that you find attractive that will also find you attractive. It's inevitable with 7 billion of us fuckers on this planet.
You had better do something with this girl before your own inaction does something for you. You have your answer, now make a decision and follow through with it.
Yes, we are doing something, next weekend I am staying over at hers. As in, I will be sleeping at her place for 3 nights. And we're talking about what films we want to watch. Like that fucking netflix and chill meme.
This guy is right.
The only reason women have power over men is because of sex.
Without porn and masturbation we'd be slaves to these ugly cunts.
By masturbating you are freeing yourself from those shackles. They will never have power over you.
Hell, he doesn't even have to fuck her, if he pussies out on fucking her or shes not ready so long as he made out and shit she should still be fine with him romantically later down the line. He shouldn't set himself up with the goal to fuck her, make that something down the line, this sounds childish but just start off with kissing and shit. If she won't even kiss you then you can come back here because something major will have gone wrong.
enjoy satisfying your urges, on your terms, without any of the bullshit that women inject into your life. all it takes is one girlfriend for maybe two weeks at the longest to understand this. trust me.
You must have met the wrong women then. Establish boundaries in the relationship so bullshit won't be injected, and if she has problems with the boundaries then you can bet your ass there will be problems later on so it would be best to dump her there.
This is the longest I've ever gone. The desire to fap is mostly gone, it only shows up for a few minutes every few days. Feels good.
Try and avoid shit that triggers you.
I work from home, and if I catch sight of the nylon legs and heels on the breakfast TV bitches I know I'm gonna do the school run, rush home, and bust a nut to porn for most of the morning.
I'm a degenerate, YMMV. Link related...
>Giving up video games to learn Japanese
Unless you plan to fly to Japan to fuck women over there or using it for business/career stuff, you're wasting your time.
I haven't played games often this year due to workouts, work and school. You don't have to go fuckin nuts with vidya, just play it in moderation, or dedicate 1 evening for vidya and use the rest of the time for other stuff like social events or other hobbies.
I dunno about you brehs but i found twice a week was a pretty good number, once in the middle of the week, say wednesday, and once on say sunday, before the start of the week
That way you have that nofap confidence on the weekend and the stress relief for the start of the working week
And the middle of the week because, well, rest day.
>giving up vidya to be a weeb
And here I thought you were going to do something productive after the first sentence
Vidya >>>>> being a weeb
The problem is I am an asshole and I have issues switching that off.
I lived overseas for a year not being that person, now I'm home and I'm a cunt again.
That raised by women thing is dead on, regardless of what people think of Fight Club it's spot on about the women raising men and men not knowing what the fuck to do anymore. The raised by women quote stuck with me hard when I researched it recently.
I didnt get the urge, mind you i am 22 years old
Besides i cant be bothered
>work manual labor job
>home around 8:30pm
By the time i cook some dinner and lunch for the next day i just want to sleep, so thats what i do