It makes it about others, not yourself. It becomes more about resenting others and justification through others than yourself. Of course we need a mix of both, but the "I'll show them" is fucking beta.
It's fine to use it as a fuel, but it's a means to an end, not the end itself. It's a stepping stone I guess to that realization.
>>35705555 I don't think so, success is the best revenge, after all. I started that way and it turned into making myself better for me, but still, there is the aspect that you are better than others because you choose to be. I'd say it's a good starting motivation, then the focus becomes improvement for improvements sake.
>>35705673 On that subject, a story for you /fit/izens. >be me, 19, fatass kissless virgin >carried weight proportionately, but still fatass >with group of friends, meet 7/10 who I thought was 10/10 (nogf goggles) >call her later and ask her out >take her to lunch, pay for her >ask her if she'd like to go out again >she says yes >take her out several more times, always pay, figure these are dates Break in the story to say, I know she wasn't obligated to find me attractive just because "muh nice guy." I was fat, I wasn't attractive. It's my own fault I allowed myself to be used, I am aware of that. The friendzoning went on for two years total. >tell her I love her >she asks me to wait till school is out b/c she's too busy for a bf right now >apparently not too busy to go on dates though >find out she's been fucking guys on the side like a grade A slut >she gets knocked up by abusive ex bf >wtaf.jpg >draw a line in the sand, cut it off with her >6 months beta bitch depression >dawnofanewday.org >lift, diet, cardio >get fit, drop 120lbs in a year >don't recognize when girls flirt because I've never seen it Four years and many qts later (Cont)
>>35705917 >out and about >see her >praisethesun >she's fat, two fucking kids crawling all over her >is that...? >FUCK YES! One is mixed >she sees me >"Anon?? Wow, you look great!" >"wow, hi, yeah, lost some weight" >and apparently you found it >"well hey, do you want to get some lunch?" >evil grin >"yeah that'd be cool, where do you want to go?" >suggests an expensive restaurant >"sounds good, anonette" >we go, I order grilled chicken salad and water >she orders fatass expensive meal with soda >kids meals for her bastard kids >whole damn meal is spent complaining about how hard it is to be a single mom, finances, etc. >qt waitress asks about dessert >"what do you think anon?" >"go for it" grinning cause I know she thinks I'm paying >orders dessert >waitress comes back >"one check for you and your girlfriend?" >anonette smiles at me >smile back >"actually, we're just friends catching up, separate checks please, and actually, I have the cash" >drop 20 for a 15 dollar bill >cheeky wink at waitress, "great service by the way" >say goodbye to anonette, leaving her with her jaw dropped and wondering how she's going to pay for her fifty odd dollar meal >see the waitress on my way out, get her number >call two days later and end up fucking
It's not the spotlight glory of "WITNESS ME, WORLD!" but it made me happy.
>be me >dating highschool sweetheart for 5 years >pure love mode >decide to go over to her house one night, weve been on a "just walk in" basis for years >find her sleeping in her bed.. with another guy >fight urge to beat sleeping guy >dont do it thank god >she wakes up and starts screaming "what are you doing here?!" >leaving.gif >see truck outside >bash mirror off of it (was wearing motorcycle gloves) >ride home devastated >cops show up >im now headed to jail for criminal tresspassing, destruction of property, and criminal mischeif >get all dropped to one count of disturbing the peace >3 months probation (still bullshit) >start lifting every day to help with the stress of all of this >find out later that she got MARRIED a month before to a DIFFERENT guy for his "military bonus" >find out over the next 2 years that she cheated on me at least 4 other times. one of the guys being a guy that used to bully me growing up. she knew who he was and that i hated him. >in that time she turns into a fake cowgirl and starts dating the guy she legally married >mfw > over the next 2 years jump from 6' 140lbs to 185lbs >motivated mostly by my hatred for her
It's gonna be okay breh Last year I found out my gf of five years had been having an months long affair with her best friends boyfriend Her friend called me at work crying because she had a bad feeling and looked at her boyfriends email and found out I threw her out and she left town a few months later Now I've been dating her former best friend and she's waaay better in every way Pretty hard getting over everything especially after that long of a relationship but we're still young and have lots of time
>>35705555 Man i got the feels while watching Pumping Iron, you could see how crushed he was after he got rekt by that other munching cheeky twat. I read his wiki page afterwards, poor guy never made it
>>35705555 Instead of focusing on the people who doubt you, why not make it about yourself? Seems like getting fit would be more enjoyable.
This was the reason I started lifting in high school and for the years afterwards. Being fatasfatass, needless to say it never motivated me enough to stick with it.
I'm at it again and my motivation is to have more energy, more mobility, and to better protect my body from injury. My gf and I are also talking about having kids in the next few years and I want to be able to keep up with my future children.
And have them brag to their friends that I can beat up their dads.
>>35706249 I feel you brother. Good on you to put that energy where it matters. Maybe you'll look back on this and see your decision to turn that rage to improvement instead of self-destruction as the best choice you ever made.
>14 >in high school >fat and a weeb >had this crush on a girl but was way too autistic in my manner of asking her out (story for another time) >16 >become friends with this guy who'd I'd say he's probably one of close friends now >anyways >he starts hanging out with the girl I liked when I was freshman >still had some feelings for her but whatever >one time we're at my friends house and he goes up stairs with her >find out the next day that he fucked her >I have no idea why but when I heard that its like the fog around me cleared and I saw that I was an overweight weeb slob >my only thought at the time was that I'll show her that she fucked up >by the time I was 17 I dropped from nearly 200 to 150 >I have a heart condition so I can't really lift heavy so I just ran >then went to university while maintaining my weight loss >graduated with a BS in biology >work as a lab supervisor with a MS now with a wife >literally living the dream
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