Has anyone tried Bumble, I got a specific question no one here probably knows but how active are the matches you see? Like a day or two ago or is it from weeks back and not active at all
>women have to message first
only the top 20% of men on tinder actually get with women. and even then most of them have to make a decent effort to get their girls attention.
unless you're a goddamn supermodel don't expect anything
I use bumble.
girls message me all the time.
Im not sure what your question is.
Some of my matches are pretty active, depends where you are.
Bumble is pretty popular where I live.
>an app exclusive to less than 40% of all smartphone in the market
Call me when there is an android version and even then don't call me because this shit is dead in the water until women grow some balls.
I dont really have any?
I deleted my apps and I'm not posting a pic of my gf here.
Heres some random screencaps
Heres another one?
idk pretty much all the girls ive met on dating apps have been fucking nuts, but thats only because I only respond to the crazy ones who look like I could fuck easy.
Having a gf you actually like is way better.
Im objectively a pretty good looking guy yes.
uhh tinder worked ok? I got tons and tons of matches but I didn't bother messaging that many of them. Too much effort, and I don't really like casual sex that much. Mostly just used tinder because it was fun matching girls.
>Having a gf you actually like is way better.
y-yea totally b-bro
I just focused on myself, focused on being friendly and outgoing to people, and eventually it happened. Start talking to a random girl at the gym, convo wasnt forced at all, wasnt even hitting on her, she just seemed cool. She offers me her number. We text, i dont have to try and spit game, before I know it we are dating.
Just focus on you and itll happen.
You fucking idiots this is an obvious SHILL THREAD
Op is a fake ass SHILL
Everything he's posting screams marketing material.
"Tell em you got a gf now and don't even use it no more, that'll make em trust you're not a shill. They all dream of gfs, this will make the dumb fish believe they can get gfs thru my bullshit"
Yes it did and I didnt like fuck tons of girls, like 10-15.
Idk I dont drink or use drugs anymore so casual sober sex is just weird to me, like the whole process of it is just weird and it's never that good because you don't know how the girl is in bed yet.
I didnt meet my gf on bumble jesus christ.
but bumble is very popular, its seen as less pervy and more professional that tinder.
I mean whatever, i don't really give a fuck if you get a GF or not, this isn't r9k.
What I am saying is girls can sense desperation. Focus on being like the best version of you that you can be, that might not be that much, but that's all you can do. Then being outgoing and friendly to everyone, not just girls.
You don't have to take my advice, I could give a fuck.
bumble is free you fucking tard, im not even sure how they monetize it.
Op, you could also check out Hinge. I had one of those for a while as well. Never met a girl on there, but matched a lot, and apparently its good. A lot of my friends like it.
Also as to why I offered to buy that girl dinner specifically.
I dont drink anymore, but I go to a huge party school and this girl is obviously a party girl so i don't want to lead with me not drinking. Instead I just offered to buy her dinner instead of meeting her at a bar.
no it is.
It wasn't always good. I started browsing 4chan as a wierdo 8th grader. Got into playing sports in HS, learned not to wear black all the time or talk about the internet. Made tons of friends, drank all the time and got fat, then moved over to /fit/ freshman year of college and now i look fucking aesthetic.
I'm just bored waiting to go to sleep and im a narcissist, I like bragging but just because I'm bragging doesnt mean im not right.
srsly tho why are you on this beta ass site? This is a place for sad cunts and edgelords. Once you make it your're not suppose to come back here
No lol. You spend money to have fun.
Going to a nice restaurant with a pretty girl is fun, I will pay for the pleasure of that and it's a gesture. It's chivalrous or whatever. Sure, she could afford to pay, she could pay for both of us, or at least her daddy would but it's the gesture thats important.
I probably spend like 60 max on that dinner, that's not exactly a lot and I had sex after which was good. But she was also fucking crazy, so it was a one time thing.
you know the difference between old money and new money?
people with old money dont need to brag, they know they are good. people with new money need to show off or brag, cause they are insecure.
besides, ever see the people posting in CBT threads? they are 6/10's that claim to be fucking 10/10 qts. reality is, they are ugly people fucking ugly girls, they are naturally biased.
so I really dont care when people "brag" on /fit/.
This is anonymous. I would never speak like this in public, mostly because these things are already understood by the people I associate myself with.
I would never have to explain how you pay for dinner to someone I know in real life.
I was actually friends with her already on facebook. we continued our convo there.
I have some other screen caps, but they are of me actively trying to avoid going out with this girl(although she eventually convinces me) because I knew she was gonna be nuts and i was correct.
You sound like a retard, dude. Reread the thread, the guy got pressured like four times to show his matches and discuss the girls. He honestly didn't even want to. Then, assuming you're the same anon, you say "buying a girl dinner is beta"...like, lol... I know /fit/ fancies themselves experts on women despite their lack of success, but this is some pretty heavy retardation. Taking a girl out to dinner is pretty common for getting to know each other, especially with a couple of drinks thrown in. If you vibe it's very easy to transition into sex that same night. What's your plan, whip off your shirt in public and let your "lol 10/10 facial aesthetics" just have every girl in a ten mile radius show up to suck your dick?
spending money with the intention of getting laid != spending money to get laid?
let me guess, you bought her dinner just for the good conversation
thank you. I really dont get the big deal. I'm not saying im particularly good with women, I'm not terrible but a lot of my friends are better. plus these girls arent even hot, I only saved screen caps from the crazy ones and I deleted my apps now that I'm in a relationship.
Wait, are you not a troll?
Dude, get some friends. You sound jaded as fuck. Yes, you can buy somebody dinner for *gasp*, the experience. You're trying too hard to sound alpha with this "I only use girls for sex" shit. Nobody is really like that. I really doubt you experience any success at all with women.
That isnt me.
and honestly yeah, I would have gone to dinner with her and paid and been ok with not having had sex if it was a fun date.
Getting dinner with a pretty girl is fun, talking to them is fun, being around them and being seen with them is fun.
There is more to being with women than just sex dude. Sex isnt that big of a deal.
Tell me more about how to get women anon. You sound Sooooo experienced.
I see, i'm a fedora cause I think it's bad that you let girls use you for free dinners.
cool logic, bro.
well hey, that's your choice. enjoy being a wallet for girls, I guess? I mean, some people don't mind being exploited. ignorance is bliss, right? :)
Obviously my tinder profile doesnt have this picture on it, but it does have a couple beach pics. and a shirtless pic from when I was backpacking in the desert.
stop projecting, please.
you're telling me with a straight face you go to dinner with stupid girls, without the intention of sleeping with them?
doesn't make much sense. that's like investing money without getting a return on your investment.
No, you're a fedora because you think most, or even a lot, of women are out looking to "use men for dinner". If the date's not interesting, you fucking bail. Ideally you find someone interesting and attractive and get to know them better. You have this autistic exchange concept for interaction with women and it's not going to end well for you, Elliot.
I am the guy you are so butthurt about.
That is exactly what I am telling you.
I dont get why that is so hard to fathom.
I even have female friends, while I dont pay for them, i still do things for them because they matter to me. Some of them are even quite attractive, but i wouldnt ever want to sleep with them.
There is more to women than just sex. Sorry to burst your little r9k view, but women are interesting because they arent men.
Yes they can be stupid and vapid, but they can be charming and sweet and funny, and just like different then how men are, and I like that.
Who said anything about stupid girls? No, I don't date stupid girls, I would never offer to take a stupid person to dinner. Are you just assuming all women are below your intellect by default?
Believe it or not, these are both me lol.
honestly my arms are my weakest bodypart, but they are vascular and I had just finished doing biceps in that pic but yes, lats and chest are my current biggest priority. Just started cutting now, gonna take a new pic in a couple months.
Not the rich guy here. Usually dates start as a sexual desire for BOTH parties in my experience. Then you become actual friends that give a shit about each other. A good girlfriend is also your best friend. You'll never know this feel tho from what I've read.
nah man, you have to be subtle with it.
Only tools post gym pics to tinder, or shirtless pics, or selfies in general. I have like one pic of me deadlifting.
You post pics of you doing things. The key is to find a "candid" pic, that shows off the gains.
jesus go back to /pol/ im not fucking shilling.
I used the app, it was cool i guess.
went on like a couple of dates, girls were all a bit nuts.
Met my gf at the gym like 2 months later.
Hardly a ringing endorsement.
dude this dead thread is like the same three guys arguing with each other
I can't believe the arrogance of people thinking somebody would bother to shill on /fit/. We're not relevant. MAYBE bb.com forums or something, but come on boys.
you're thinking in terms of black and white
my point is, why would you want to be around a slut. sluts cheat, you know. unless you pump and dump and never speak to them again, or whatever.
Just because a girl who is single likes to have sex doesnt mean she will cheat.
I hate to break something to you champ, but most women like having sex. Most women have had a good amount of sexual partners in their life. Casual sex isnt that big of a deal.
You would know this if you would have had it.
Im the "rich guy" who keeps being accused of shilling.
They show you all the hot girls first, they will get less hot but yeah in general hotter girls are on bumble because there are less creepy guys. It's harder to get a match+message of course.
I literally know girls who have slept with 50+ guys when single, and also been in committed long term relationships and havnt even considered cheating.
My best female friend has like 75+ bodies on her, and has never cheated on a guy she was in a relationship with.
Hey guys I just made a tinder account and I wanted you guys to judge my bio.
Is it funny or even a little cool?
I haven't added a picture yet because I'm ugly and desu the only reason why I made tinder was just to mess with people I knew.....
Would you guys wanna chill with me if you saw this?
I've pretty much lost all my friends, so I got to learn how to make new ones. The thing since I'm not some HS faggot, it's a lot harder for me.
why are you using question marks in that manner you fucking sperg
>seems like a hookup app is just for hookups
I think you're on to something my man
i think the idea selecting for sluts or nonsluts through activity and medium might cripple you in terms of finding friends and lovers (and your capacity to experience joy longterm but that's a separate question.)
If you aren't looking for hookups, you aren't (or shouldn't be) looking to 'find girls,' you should be looking to make friends. Join a mixed (therefore only semi-competitive) sports team and make friends, go to the same cafe for brunch every Saturday and make friends with the staff, go to a casual pub trivia night by yourself and ask if you can join the team that's closest to you when you 'realise' it's trivia night.
As a man who came late to the whole sex thing but has mostly been in 3-6 month, didn't-work-but-no-hard-feelings relationships, you get laid by making friends, getting introduced to their friends, and making friends with their friends and so forth.
I'll be back in a couple hours for more ranting
that was actually really insightful and is generally my approach too. i'm not worried about this whole "not getting laid" thing
i guess my "petpeeve" is meeting people through these mixed groups and still meeting girls who are also into hookups(maybe i'm too naive)
ok grasshopper, i'm back, full of lentils and rice.
so you want a $RELATIONSHIP rather than $CASUAL_SEX, yeah? That's a reasonable goal to have but it doesn't happen overnight. I've got a three-part rant coming atcha.
>being desirable to someone worth dating
>how relationships emerge
>lifting is a metaphor for everything
>bing desirable to someone worth dating
What is a slut? I choose: person (man or woman, for simplicity's sake) who is having lots of sex in non-relationship contexts.
More specifically, it's a person who is CURRENTLY, rather than NECESSARILY having lots of non-relationship sex. Someone is BEING a slut rather than IS a slut.
A person who is in this kind of non-settled state is either discovering a lot about themselves or is not in a great place. Each of these makes them undesirable candidates for a productive, mutually supportive relationship, whether for reasons of rapid change or emotional burden.
At the other end of the spectrum is the person who really really wants to be in love and in a relationship but doesn't actually know how it works so thinks that by wanting it, things will just sort of happen.
The best advice I ever got was that this is the opposite of true. Relationships are not a gift bestowed upon one, they are not static, they are not generic or interchangeable.
women don't want to date boys who want $A_GIRL. Sure, if you're fuckable, random women might fuck you, but if you're pining for lack of the abstract $A_GIRL then you aren't going to attract $SPECIFIC_BABE. More accurately, anyone with their shit together enough to be a desirable partner for a $RELATIONSHIP isn't going to be entranced by anon in the corner being diffusely thirsty.
The tragedy of the red pill and man-o-sphere in general is that they get so tragically close to this truth but miss it entirely. Improve yourself. Get your shit sorted and become a more high-functioning version of yourself, get happy about the life you live and suddenly people want to date this stable, content, productive version of you.
>how relationships emerge
this idea that maybe i'm projecting onto you that there's a wall between casual sex and relationships that is absolute and clear is bunk.
you don't kiss someone at a party or on a date knowing that you're going to date for nine weeks then you'll both have assignments due and not see each other and then it fizzles. you kiss them because you like them and want to see where it goes.
there will inevitably be a lot of false starts and failures, but in those failures and false starts will be lessons.
>lifting is a metaphor for everything
you will always fail but you will always get better.
this applies to relationships and being in love, this applies to making new friends, this applies to being your best self and it applies to raising and lowering lumps of metal.
obviously, you dummy.
have a nice night and a good (virtuous) life
There's a grey area for those of us that want to discuss life goals and topics with a community we respect. Shit like this is self-improvement, fostered some excellent discussion, and is leagues better than some animu shitposting.
I think the area you are referring to is 'scam marketing' friend. Go start a pyramid scheme while you're at it eh?
Why in gods name would anyone market a dating app on 4chan.
The whole point of bumble is that its supposed to have better looking girls and because they have to message first, only hot guys make accounts. It's a dating app for people who already did well on other dating apps.
As the "rich guy" people were bitching about earlier, I know i'm not shilling and I highly doubt OP is either. I think he just had a question about bumble and posted it on /fit/.
This is all true.
Exactly what I was trying to say here>>35621457
but way better put.
A girl wont make you happy, getting a GF wont solve your "feels". You have to try and solve your "feels" first, and then the GF thing will happen.
Lifting is an awesome way to do this. Not just because it makes you look better, but because lifting makes you, or at least me, happy.
I also recommend getting into other physical activities, god even something like crossfit can be good for that.
depends how long.
either way man, it's not a competition. There is no standard for what is good and what isn't.
Don't worry so much about how you stack up with others.
Just be better than YOU were yesterday. If you do that, good things will come to you.
Happiness is a state of mind, it's not a place.
You can be happy and fulfilled tomorrow, but you have to choose to be.
I'm really being serious man.
I know I was bragging earlier with all the rich guy shit, but I was really fucking unhappy like 4 years ago. I had really fucked my life up, partying and drinking. I was fat, almost got kicked outa school, was looking at going to jail for drinking related stuff. I was desperate around girls and an all around shitty person.
4 years later, I'm super super happy and the last piece of the puzzle was being in a good relationship but that only happened when I stopped worrying about getting in one so much and just focused on being positive and happy and lifting was a big part of that.
I really believe everyone on this board can solve their problems. Yes, there are always guys who will be cooler or bigger or better looking, whatever. Yes, there are always girls that will be out of your league. That shit doesnt matter. It's not a contest between you and others, it's between you and prior versions of you.