>oh anon you are handsome and very strong if only you spoke a bit more you could get any girl you wanted
Dae know this feel?
>"You're so handsome anon, women must be all over you."
>In school shy as fuck loner, girls come up to me and ask if I'm going to be model
>Go in shop to buy X, shop guy I chat with occasionaly, talk about work - The best job for you would be modelling
>Mothers friend says to her - Your son could easily be a model, he just needs a portoffio,
Fucking retarded faggots, always making fun of me.I'm a 6/10 at best.
>Grandma is one of the nicest, most caring people you will ever meet
>Lives in a different province than I, don't see her very often
>Every time I do, she keeps telling me how handsome and strong I am, how all the girls must be fawning over me
>As I get older she starts to ask about girlfriends
>Don't want to let her down, so lie about girls all liking me
>In reality be social autist
>See her less and less as I grow up
>Grandma gets cancer
>Last time she sees me she mentions how handsome I am again
>Passes away a year later
>tfw never got to present qt3.14 to grandma
I'm sorry grandma ;_;
parents do the same thing. my grandfather sounded really concerned when i told him i have no love life, and im pretty sure my dad thinks im gay
If only I could lose the weight, quit the pot, fix my dental hygiene and basically love myself again....
>mfw that mix of ennui and hash
I'm actually really good at keeping conversations entertaining and smooth in general. My only problem is going from friendly to flirty. it's like I treat girls like other guys. all romantic advancement ideas that pop into my head just seem out of place and awkward in conversations. it's so fucking annoying.
All I can give you is advice:
When you're handsome and tall and the girl is clearly into you, it's best to be polite but manly than being an arrogant jackass to her.
She can see through your charade... She liked me because I was weird and lonely but still strong enough to protect her...
Then I wanted her to see how bad ass I was and who my dangerous friends were and she bailed.
Facebook. Never again.
I HATE YOU FACEBOOK!!!! WHY??? WHY DO I HAVE TO BE SUCH A FUCKING AUTIST WITH NO SENSE OF WHAT'S ACCEPTABLE OR NOT!!!!
WHY THE FUCK!!!!
that's usually problem. instead of obsessing over what to say to fill in blanks and make the conversations going, you should instead focus on what you genuenly want to know, or what you want to share. it's not the end of the world to have a quiet moment or two.
shit nigga, yea I was. I remember feeling completely undesirable. any romance used to seem completely out of question to me. like I wasn't even an option. like my fat made me a completely different species that girls don't even consider. I was like that all the way until I was like 16, so I guess even though I'm ripped now, that thought proccess is stuck in me
B R E H
This is the same exact shit I'm dealing with. Was a fat fuck til I was 20, now 21 at 5'11 220, still a fatty but nowhere near as bad as I was.
Girls get all friendly with me and I assume they're just being nice, then they eventually assume I'm not interested and stop talking to me.
my family says this all the time
fuck my low confidence
I scared the girl of my dreams away by trying to change this. Never again. Even if I die alone, never again.
I have made 3 qts leave the gym this way. I wish I was dead.
What if the only thing going on in your mind is internal diagnostics and whatever task I have at hand? I don't have any opinions or anything until I'm prompted ti think about ot which is reactive, not proactive. Apparently being proactive is somehow key but that doesn't mean anything to me out of context.
lol i dont think thats gonna happen for me anytime soon
and frankly i dont wanna get married. ive seen so many of my friends parents get divorced and theres so much shit i dont want a future child to deal with
>first 2 years of Hs autist
>last 2 years, late bloomer hit gym hard, bulking like crazy
>buff as fuck( for normies)
>" hey anon why are you always so shy"... "What do you do in your life ".... " I heard you lift weights cool"..... " We have been going together in hs for years, yet we talk so little".....
>ocasionally I go out with my male friends who know I changed, become crazy FUUUAAARK in clubbs
>yet still autistic with girls and people in school, who knew me from begging.
>can't wait for UNI, for new "me", so I can start over as crazy FUARK ZYZZ mode from beggining.
>dropped a fuck ton of weight over the past year
>down to 511, 100kg, jaw and chin starting to finally appear
>tfw post-wall 30 something year old from work flirting with me
>mentioned my muscles like 5 times last shift
>shit talking, but still friendly with me
>playfully hitting me
>saw me using snapchat
>asked to see my phone and added me
>tfw wanna touch her big tiddies
>tfw have zero experience with girls
s e n d a i d
Ignore grammar sry, I am on a bus.
Also what is the best way to score with girls in clubbs
>can see some girl in her girl group is mirin me
>our eyes catch together for few secs
>get a feeling she wants you dude"
What do I do from now on? Just come dance with her? Awkward because she is around with her friends? Say something to her? Please teach me Clubb Senpai
>lose the weight
>quit the pot
just quit, done
>fix my dental hygiene
not very expensive, can be done
>and basically love myself again
well that's harder
the bulk of your problems can be solved in 6-12 months
and don't fucking tell me about motivation
I used to have some confidence. I used to ask for girls numbers and try to start something. A man can only take so much rejection before he just stops trying.
I secretly now hope some cute girl will instead come to me.....(I know they won't)
Eat lunch with her during work, assuming that's something you can do there, and talk about non-work related things. Find out about her life, and let her find out a little bit about yours.
Assuming all goes well and you are still casually talking to each other, sometime in the next few days or the next week, ask her to coffee/dinner/whatever after work. If she asks "tehe is this a date?" Say yes. Don't say "uh er umm what do you want it to be lol?!??" Or you'll sound like a child.
Had a girl outright ask me how it was possible to not have any personality at all and if I was a robot. Wasn't even quick enough to tell her I was a sexbot. I just kind of looked at her bros
I had a qt come to me. We fugged and hung out like every day for a month and she told me everything I wanted to hear. Then ditched me for no apparent reason.
>tfw only female chads ever approach men
Aside from my confidence being so low I'll probably never date, I'm just fucking shit at conversation. Had a date with a girl (my only) and I bored her off before we'd even been on it, she never talked to me again after it and wouldn't even make eye contact at a party 2 weeks later. Literally destroyed any confidence I had. Then my friend tells me today 'you gotta try'. Fuck that, man.
>People say something about me to my face
>Think about what they said and completely forget too respond while they are still there
the fuck do I do if she starts talking shit
I bummed a cigarette from her and she kinda started busting muh balls (example, said I have the same lighter she has, which was admittedly a girly design, she called me gay, i shrugged and said that almost all of my smoking is in my garage(weed, she knows i smoke), didn't seem malicious tho. This was before she added me on snaps
Never going to make it
Iprimarily subsist on girls that approach me/show interest in me first. I haven't chased after a girl that hadn't very clearly shown they want me to first. I'm not into chasing & having my time wasted.
The best is yet to come when they all just assume you're gay or into weird shit.
>be 65 year old man
>look at all those hot young girls.. Remember my own youth, and all the womwn I danced with and kissed
>miss that part of life.. Can't even get proper boner
>I sure do hope young anon utilizes his youth and health and gets some love, its the best thing in life
They are envying you. And you squander your youth.
Go out there brah. If not in your prime, when?
Being reactive is good for having witty jokes but your ability to fill empty spaace lacks severely. Make some opinions and talking points. Consider it like a comedian trying to write a joke. You have the reflex ability but you need a situation to fit it into.
I think 4chan and the mentality that brings you here has made me edgier over the years and most normies can tell. I only get an attraction to people who have a mentality like mine these days, regular people are so vanilla and predictable. Its actually super easy to build a fake persona off of what you think they would like.
>why do you want to hang out with normies?
because i'm alone
People arent that interesting to me, and the only people you'll get to know are people youre around all the time. The random paaserbys who dont acknowledge you could be interesting but youll never know because you arent meeting them when they are ready to mingle.
That means you can do it again
I had the same. My gf made me say out loud "I can do it, if I want to." it sounds dumb as shit but it made me realize that nothing is stopping me but myself. I am my own limits.
Try and tell yourself that. Be more positive. Give yourself some credit.
It's a non-story but here goes....
>short busty(!) beautiful Catholic qt
>aspergic AS FUCK, spends 98% of her time with her mother or in her room
>everything I ever wanted and needed
>I worked as a cashier in a grocery store
>I start talking to her and her childlike shyness gets me hard erry time
>she's just so fucking innocent and pure it hurts
>she is OBSESSED with History
>one day there is a big historical reenactment in my town and I play the protagonist, the king
>she also cosplayed but she was SO SHY she NEVER once interacted with the rest of the group
>basically she thought I was the fucking BOMB!!!, the perfect man from "Pride and Prejudice", Mr. Darcy or whatever...
>after a year of she going to my counter basically every single day and us being clearly into each other I ask for her number
>We're neighbors so I just sent her a sms saying "Tomorrow at 2pm be at XXX"
>she replies "Ok :)))))"
This was like 3 years ago. At the time I was starting to browse /fit/ and Misc and I was reading SHITTY PUA advice / "Be a jerk to chicks!" bullshit like Good Looking Loser recommended.
>next day, she shows up and says "H-Hi..."
>"you're late", I reply thinking I'm a badass
>"s-s-s-soorry!", she says, by now she's trembling and sweating and almost crying
>then we started walking and not twenty seconds later I try to kiss her because "I'm anti-establishment and don't follow the rules" bullshit
>she declined my kiss, obviously, and her eyes widened like "WTF?"
>we start talking
>turns out this beautiful 23-year-old autistic blond never had a bf and never even kissed a guy
>15 seconds later I try to kiss her again
>I get angry and tell her "You're a disappointment"
>she starts tearing up
>worst date ever
But surprise... she still doesn't avoid me!
I'm tearing up as I write this, I'm such a fucking moron.....
>then one day I make a facebook account
Its not even about confidence. Its about not giving a fk. Females or anybody have no credit to judge you. They are all a piece of shit anyway. Talk to them and act the way how you want to act. Whats there to be afraid of? Live your life how you want to and do not betray or hurt anybody else then you should be good. You dont owe anybody anything.
A lot of places people want to be left alone and not harassed these days. If you need company you can find a common interest in normies. I dont know how to meet people outside of tinder and bars and of course online. Cute women usually are in college and marry their sweetheart there. Prey in a college town and pick off the smallest weakest one for practice.
Your point being?
I get to know people, because I spend time with them. And everyone has quirks or traits you can observe. Things thst separate them. Sometimes its astonishing how different "ordinary people" can be.
And passersby? Yes I dont know them, I never talk to them. Why would I. I meet new people sometimes and I see my friends and family. And they are all weird and they are their own kind of people.
Best advice I can give you anon
>find local ballroom dance studio
>many offer free first time lesson
>if instructors are cute and helpful
>Fast forward 6-8mo
>you have acquired a valued social skill
>you will have been in constantly close contact with cute females
>you will have significantly improved your confidence level
Doesn't really matter what dance you start learning. I would suggest swing or salsa.
Take a chance on yourself.
>then one day I make a facebook account
>It's just a B&W picture of me being sad and lonely and pathetic with the words "Happiness is overrated"
>my friends, which are 95% drug-using alcoholic losers comment saying "Ahah! You look like a cunt" and I even made a fake female profile saying "You look like Justin Bieber"
>then I find an album where there's pictures of the historical reenactment we participated and I liked all the pictures she was at
>I find her facebook profile and send her some big ass quote by CS Lewis about "One day you'll find the perfect love"
Basically she never replied to me and stopped going to the mall where I work. Not the store where I work, THE FREAKING MALL!!!
Then I found out she's best friends with my best friend's sister and word came out and voilá.... the narrative is I'm the jerk who tried to take advantage of the innocent girl.
Which is true... but I'm so fucking autist I can't even manage NOT TO FUCK UP.
The girl liked me. She was crazy about me. And then I revealed HOW MUCH OF A FUCKING LOSER I REALLY AM.
I'm not mysterious anymore, I'm just... creepy and lonely and lack boundaries....
Point was i only find myself interested in likeminded individuals. People have plenty of quirks but there are mindsets at play that create the personality, if someone has a more normal sensibility about them its all well and good to entertain them for a moment but i feel no connection with them like i do a weirdo or an outcast. To me these people still feel foreign and its hard to connect with someone who you feel hasnt walked the same path as you once or twice
grab her hand, smile, and then pull her toward you
from there either start dancing or start talking, up to you. if her friends say anything just laugh like it's funny. usually they won't care
Source: i do this literally all the time, get laid often enough
Fuck this thread hit home.
I'm 6'4, in good shape and I've been told I'm pretty good looking, but I'm so fuckin beta I can't do anything. The only action I've ever gotten with girls is when we didn't talk at all.
> Be at house party
> fuckin hammered because it's the only way i can somewhat talk to girls
> All of a sudden girl comes up to me
> solid 7/10 (at least that's what my friends said I was so hammered I don't even remember what she looked like)
> Says "hey", smiles and grabs my hand
> Pulls me off to side of party
>shoves tongue in my mouth
> make out for a bit
> Grabs my hand again
> go off the property into forest
> she starts going down on me
>so drunk can't feel shit
>she asks "do you have a condom"
>"no" I did not think there was a chance of getting laid
> I go down on her until she cums
> she starts going down on me again
> still can't feel shit
> after a while she asks "why aren't you coming"
> Blurt out "idk" even though I knew I was really drunk
> she starts crying wtf.jpg
> dont know what to do, dont even say anything
> I just get up and walk away while she's sitting there crying
The other time i got some action it was just a random girl coming up to me one night outside a club and kissing me and running back to her friends, I even saw her eyeing me when she was with her friends, but I was too beta to do anything.
How do you lack any confidence?
I've literally asked girls if I could kiss them, even after they said no I would somehow steal a kiss and go on next dates with them
I just don't understand
>6'4 guy gets free easy pussy
>"yeah I'm a sperg just like you guys haha forever alone X)"
Idk man... for some reason i just assume no one likes me idk why, even my friends. Maybe because my parents were really distant from me, Honestly can't remember if they have ever told me they love me. Plus my dad's an alcohlic, not abusive or anything, but he was just never there.
It's only happened those two times man. You sound like my friends though, one time straight up my friend asked me in front a bunch of my other friends how the fuck was I the virgin of the group, and started calling be the biggest beta ever because I should be able to get girls no problem. Feelsbadman
Practice talking to people. That's literally it.
Also, using MDMA and psychedic drugs are known treatments for social anxiety, just be careful with mdma as it is VERY addictive.
Source: I literally didn't talk to anyone until high school, still barely talked to anyone. People literally thought I was mute, nope just the shyest quietest fuck in school. Got out of school, did those drugs and I personally so believe they had a therapeutic effect, started trying to socialize more, going to parties, next thing I knew I was becoming relatively popular. Began work in customer service dealing with hundreds of people you've never met every day will get you used to talking to people real quick. Now I'd generally say for the most part I'm not too bad at making friends.
I've done acid, shrooms, and DMT which helped a bit. But than I started smoking a fuckton of weed and i started thinking way to much and basically am back where i once was. How's MDMA for social anxiety? And where should I do it?
Just go out and talk to someone doesn't matter who it is. Talk to that old man walking his dog, talk to the cashier at the grocery store, talk to the milf in the produce section. Just start talking to random people, at first start with simple shit until you get comfortable with that, then try and keep a convo, then learn to listen etc.
After a while you won't get that nervous feeling in your stomach, desu it usually goes away after you talk to the first person that day.
The milf was just an example lol. But for starters just say something about the environment your in or some topic that is in the news.
For example, if you see someone walking their dog just walk up to them and ask what type of breed is it? Start to slowly walk and they will follow and you are now not a nuisance since you're walking with them while talking.
In terms of attraction with women though, a good chunk is just believing in whatever you are saying. You could tell a girl you are the national buyer for Michael Khors and that her watch looks exactly like the latest model or some shit. Say it with a smile and confidence and they will react positive.. if they don't then whatever you can't connect with everyone.
Trust me after you start talking to like 3 random people the 4th will be easy and shit will just pop up... also when having a convo with someone allow for breaks, don't rush to fill the silence because 1) you will end up saying some autistic shit and 2) they are feeling the silence as well, and if they want to talk to you they will fill the void.
I'm no expert in conversation so take all this with a grain of salt... but it helped me during the summer
i fuckin cant talk about natsoc and fuckin immigrants with chicks i wanna bang